Overcoming Performance Anxiety - Brandy and Ray J: A Family Business

Ray J's Big Plans this way is going to win I'm working hard on my album right now lud I'm ready to go take it straight to the club I got a new house and I'm rolling with my girl I've caught you lying are you okay Ray J is blowing up and growing up plus my sister has the whole world in front of her right now what's up you know there has to be a decision for Dancing With the Stars whether she's going to do it today making a big mistake if you don't do that wow I got to give him an answer mom tell the Dancing with the Stars people yes you're doing it I'm doing it you reaching for the Stars baby you sweating [Music] man the bus of family [Music] Brandy's Dancing Decision one more okay don't just open it or give it up give it a thing yeah just think so my brother Ray encouraged me to do Dancing with the Stars and to be a day away from the first performance it's like I'm I'm losing it because I don't really know how to dance and on top of that I have a very very tough coach walk Max has a method that has worked for him for 20 something years go hard or go home the rehearsals are just grow now spin faster you spin I don't know I'm not confident in the spin what I'm not confident in the spin it's just being silly now singing is my first love it's something that comes very natural for me whereas dancing has never been my strongest point I'm completely out of my comfort zone when I walk back I feel like I'm going to fall every single time and that has not gotten better it won't it won never it won't get better definitely not why not cuz it's like if we didn't get better in 2 weeks this is what it's going to be like can I ask a question no did you come first I need you to digest and comprehend what I said we can't change and can't make anything better or worse right now because we've already done it yeah and it's like tattooed in your brain right now right no I got that in the back somewhere but can I ask a question now sure you know the part where you turn me around see that's a bad question no it's it's about my facial expression I don't know whether to smile while you're turning me smile or when a doubt just smile okay I've never been under this amount of pressure this amount of stress I'm already nervous about performing anyway because I'm not a dancer this is the hardest thing I've ever had to do one two one two one two where is your foot sticking The Pressure of Dancing up now you go there is it what is that dude it wasn't like that it was like like it was like this to go your leg was behind you if it was to the side I would actually buy it but it was here this is a very confusing you got to do what I'm telling you okay cuz right now you hear me and you do whatever you want to do big difference and a huge mistake do what I say I'm really really worried because I keep messing up I can't get the steps the way I need to get them how am I supposed to feel confident to to perform in front of 20 million people if my partner is not having the faith that I need him to have in me like the day before it's just it's crazy two things very important what don't mess up and don't embarrass me see you tomorrow don't have nightmares yeah bye Brandy bye [Music] Maxim so now let's talk about year our Ray J’s Entrepreneurial Shift year and we entered the year you set forth some goals I did I was living recklessly and I just wanted to start over you know so I'm I'm good I'm I'm living right you're living terrific thank you right now I'm in a meeting with my business manager Jonathan Schwarz gso this company has been with me through the through the ups and the Downs you've learned from your prior year mistakes and you've worked really hard and I give you a great deal of credit for recognizing those mistakes and not making them again this year I'm Wall Street hustling financially planning fiscally responsible and ready to grind swack swack I think you should be proud of yourself a you acquired a principal residence you acquired that home that you so wished that you wanted you acquired that toy in the form of a car you know we allowed within this plan for you to acquire both of those tangible assets which would be my every day and every day not my extra extra there's no such extras in your life anymore but I mean on on on just just just just keeping it real I might get another car new things are happening I'm on my new new I got a new house I got a new album coming out I need a new car did you hear once that we talked about buying a new car in the plan but I mean just keeping it real I'm just telling you what I thought there's no such extras in your life anymore the old Ray J had extras the old Ray J Not only would have felt that need to go out there and bling bling but would have acted upon it this entrepreneurial rayj that you've worked so hard to understand and to conduct yourself like he knows that's not the right Financial move in his life listen this isn't easy for me it's a constant struggle to stay focused I think it's like it's it's my demons I don't know cuz you know how I feel about cars like I'm going good all week or I'm going good for three months and then all of a sudden something inside of me goes bad I'll tell you what why don't you go by the car and then when you have no money at the end of the day because these beautiful ideas keep popping up in your head that you want to go do something just remember that I told you this beautiful portfolio that you work so darn hard for doesn't exist anymore so you choose you want to build this portfolio or you want to go out and waste money on a car forget this car forget it thank you Jonathan that's what I need man you feel what I'm saying because if I don't get that then I'll then I'll convince you and everybody else that it's a good idea you know what Jonathan is right you know what I don't need a new Ferrari I don't need a new Audi or Bentley or none of that it's just not smart any other things before we conclude this meeting I know you got a busy day I'm good I'm a save the car when my demons start calling me I'mma call you thank you so much all right thank you yo have a beautiful day love you big dog I appreciate it man I'll see you soon [Music] Brandy Seeks Advice hey lady up dancing starucks stop it how you doing I want to hug you and I don't you know you look alll thank you you're cute thank you what's happening hi so n Nash was on Dancing With the Stars last season and she's always been a mentor in my life I really wanted to get her advice on how the entire show Works girl back to you I had talk to you though I'm having the hardest time right now for what for ma really he has a reputation for being a little difficult to handle you know we've been rehearsing but it it hasn't clicked and I don't know if we're going to last [Music] I'm a nervous wreck right now like I'm sometimes I think like why did I sign on to do this you're going to be amazing really here's the main thing I would tell you make sure you have somebody at home to rub your feet ow after you get to the Dan oh my God now you know I don't got nobody to rub my feet why what you waiting on I'm I've been waiting for the right person but that that's another no that's not another story let's let's talk about that story I want to be able to deal with Max I want to be able to he's gorgeous I mean if if y'all Y if y'all can work the communication out I don't think I would date a guy like Max though what a fine Russian he's just hotter than me and I you got to be the hottest I mean I don't want to date a god prettier than me I'll trink it off I'm ready to go he's still in the mirror getting ready do you really want a guy seriously I do are you ready for that though honestly I'm ready for that what kind of guy preferably an athlete wow that loves family that faithful I know that's kind of pushing it well how long have you been waiting for this Rich athlete who's a a who who Who's a family man and loves God okay that's a fantasy that's a fantasy but yeah it's like that when you're really ready for something that you want to be settled into you're going to transition from dating people who fit your preference right to dating people who fit your priority those are two totally different things if somebody can tell me how the steps to take I'll do it would you really like to know yeah I want to I wield my goodness to me CU When I decided I was ready for a minut baby I told everybody I knew I'm ready I'm ready really yes so what happen you need to write a book on that I told everybody I knew I said I'm ready definitely dinner with NI has helped me see that there might be a different path that I need to walk because I don't know where I'm going I'm getting the special pre what no no no I want the special Lobster shrimp or the shrimp with like the walnuts so you want that mhm why are you looking at me like that cuz if that's any indication of how you choose a man we ain't going to make it that's the problem I don't know what I want all the way in life and on the menu I need to prioritize instead of looking for a image of a guy and she really brought that advice to my attention and like my awareness is like okay i' I've really been off track with what I want in a man I really love you ma'am you're dope come on let's sayit that I got to go help my daughter me too [Music] Ray J’s Car Temptation project I'm in listen I had the meeting with my business manager Jonathan and you know what I think Brit would agree I should be saving money so I'm not going to buy the car hin you got them looking pretty out here my dude just like I like him but I can test drive him right all right we going to hop in this joint I feel this already dog every when I just touched this joint I feel like it's the one the look is definitely there you feel what I'm saying some people like to go to the movies I like to test drive fast cars let me see what this joint do woo we go oh yeah this drive like yeah but it's way more comfortable you know what this car right now it kind of feels comfortable you know I'm feeling itoo this joint is classy this ride is smooth it's classy it's perfect though yeah baby it feels good dog then all of a sudden something inside of me goes bad wait uhoh I know this feeling [Music] I know a car is not the most fiscally responsible thing to do I'm trying to start over man man New Look new album new me new everything dog listen the truth is I feel so good about my future to where I'mma bet on my future I got to go with my gut and you know what my gut says and enjoy then I'm getting this joint I got to roll right hands down so yeah R take care of that's what I'm talking about who saying good looking my dude that listen Jonathan I'm sorry but baby boy let's go [Music] Sibling Support Before the Show B rocker oh my God the shades brother please going into the Dancing with the Stars I just want to show her support motivate her I'm excited for her being there she has my vote number one thank you for the flowers how you feel right now D I'm so nervous Ray I am so like I don't think I've ever been this nervous in my life like it's like I performed in front of screaming fans singing on live television before all of that it just feels completely different dancing is not my element I'm just really nervous it's almost like I can't control it come on come on let's go please I'm saying I'm just so nervous brother making me even more you want practice be no brother you sure because I got the moves let me see Brother come on b stand stand straight so I can practice my friend okay let's see it's like no brother no forget that I don't want to throw you off I just I just I I'm nervous brother you not supposed to tell me that cuz then I'm yeah no it's all good but don't worry about it so Ray is bouncing around my trailer like he is about to perform I'm like dude I'm not about to calm you down I need for you to calm me down and you're making everything worse I feel like it's on me a little bit yeah it's on you you talk me this I feel I am a little you know what I'm saying intensified with the intensity that's being delivered I just hope oh I just hope I do a good job you going to do a good job B okay stay on your feet shut up for sure kiss the ra for me mom and dad be here get chery bur for me Cheryl Burke close my door chery B close my door everything is riding on this performance and you know everybody else in the competition they're going to bring it this is the first impression America is going to get I've never been this nervous before in my Brandy's Nerves Take Over life God please let me do good tonight I'm moments before my first performance and I'm like really really nervous the butterflies always go away as soon as I start singing I just wonder are they going to go away when I start dancing dancing the Vian WS Brandy and her partner maxing chovsky the weirdest thing is that the butterflies did not go away the entire time I was dancing and there was this voice talking to me like you're going to fall and I'm like oh my God will you shut up seven eight eight it's 23 out of 30 how does that feel I'm trying to tell it's just week one [Applause] save God I was so impressed I was so nervous oh my God cuz Brandon was going through max legs and you know who was looking good Cheryl Burke Cheryl Burke was looking hot listen we all know I got a girlfriend all right I'm playing I'm team Brandy all the way but chery ber is [Applause] hot oh my God what's up be rocking on man was right you know we my god did that nervous brothery HRA was right T oh my God man y'all being in the audience you look Brandy's First Performance beautiful though you feel like you how do you feel after the first performance do you feel at ease now like you like you got over a hump I yeah I definitely feel like I got over a hump but I'm going to tell you like the nerves before the nerves just go all the way to the surface and 20 million people be watching 20 million people y'all being in the audience so glad you got her to do this I definitely felt like after it was over I I conquered one of the biggest fears I've ever felt but the craziest thing is that this is just week one I got a long way to go what would Bruno say I'm told Bruno that you it's like two love bird stealing a moment of passion and a moonlit God not only did my sister kill it tonight she showed me that our career is on the up up and up she's on Dancing With the Stars I got my new album coming we take it over baby I know this going to be corny but I want us all to huddle up right listen for real just do this for me you know God is good be we love you we care about you God is in your corner one two three go we love you I love you I love you so Reflecting on the Journey much up keep up the good work baby were wasn't easy but it was fun fight the comedy the [Music] fight a bus a business of [Music]