Matthew McConaughey Leaves The Audience SPEECHLESS | One of the Best Motivational Speeches Ever

and the Oscar goes to Matthew mccon dissect your successes in the reciprocity of gratitude we so often focus on failure don't we we study failure obsess with failure we dissect failure in our failures we dissect them so much we end up intoxicated with them to the point disillusion you see happiness is an emotional response to an outcome if I win I will be happy if I don't I won't it's an if then cause and effect quid proquo standard that we cannot sustain because we immediately raise it every time we attain it you see happiness Demands a certain outcome it is result Reliant and I say if happiness is what you're after then you're going to be let down frequently and you're going to be unhappy much of your time Joy though Joy is a different thing it's something else Joy is not a choice it's not a response to some result it's a constant Joy is the feeling that we have from doing what we are fashioned to do life is not easy it is not don't try to make it that way life's not fair it never was it is it now and it won't ever be do not fall into the Trap the entitlement trap of feeling like you're a victim you are not get over it and get on with it and yes most things are are more rewarding when you break a sweat to get them be brave have courage and when you do you get stronger you get more aware you get more respectful of yourself and that which you fear my hero that's who I chase now when I was 15 years old I had a very important person in my life come to me and say who's your hero and I said I don't know I got to think about that give me a couple of weeks I come back two weeks later this person comes up and says who's your hero I said I thought about it you know who it is I said it's me in 10 years years so I turned 25 10 years later that same person comes to me and goes so are you a hero and I was like not even close no no no she said why I said because my hero is me at 35 so you see every day every week every month and every year of my life my hero is always 10 years away I'm never going to be my hero I'm not going to attain that I know I'm not and that's just fine with me because that keeps me with somebody to keep on chasing so to any of us whatever those things are whatever is we look up to whatever it is we look forward to and whoever it is we're chasing to that I say Amen to that I say all right all right all right glad I say just keep living H thank you you knew that there is something to be extracted from living life how did you get that frame of reference like that's so useful but I don't think most people have that you know I don't know exactly where where I got I mean I would say again to call back that Australian year where I did not have a choice where I was forced into that situation and saw the Greenlight assets from being alone and quite lonely um I do think uh that there's Great Value and being alone and if we are alone and we get bored and we don't like the company ding May that light go off to say that does not mean we need to pick up our phone to get some attention or go to the bottle to to ease the anxiety or go online to get some feedback to entertain ourselves no it's actually a great time to say no sit here in that discomfort long enough to go okay until you come out the other side to go all right I'm good with me again now it's it's part of that I write about when about traveling in general ideally you don't go to a place you don't I always say this don't I don't want to leave a place I travel to until I get to the point of going ah I could live here this could be my existence and soon as I get to that point then I'm like okay you can go now I can go that's the same thing in the personal Journeys stick with it till you get through the discomfortable uncomfortable times until you go you know what I can spend time with myself I could do this I could do this forever well then it's okay to go re-engage pick up your phone go see your friends go have a drink what have you go look for those things that are other relationships in life but hopefully not until there's Great Value in not doing that until you go I'm good with me and me for right now now why do you pursue things that scare you why seek the role that's hard because it cost me something because it cost comes to the price it's it's a bit of that line don't pick a fight can't it's not really a fight unless you can lose it it's not really you know don't it's not really a risk unless you can lose the fight I feel more alive in them I have an experience in the making of them I'm nervous every day I come to work I feel like when I nail a day and I knock it and I know I did I feel like yes I get I I have a measure at the end of the day like you set out to do something you prepared for it you had intention and you did it and maybe even became found some magic in the day that I sleep good knowing that I accomplished that day in uh building the architecture of a character's Arc through a story and then if I could put the whole thing together and it comes out the one whole performance turns out to be a beautiful song an original song of that character then I'm like yes and I know that I was highly responsible for that I was not solely responsible but the most responsible for that and that gives me pleasure that gives me gratification that makes me feel gives me significance that gives me confidence if I don't pull it off and I do have a day where I'm like no you didn't never and it was my fault i' still I would rather with these kind of roles I can look in the mirror and go so guess who's responsible not pulling it off you K in the same way when I go guess who's responsible for pulling off I like knowing who you and and and and it was also again work that challenged the Vitality of my life dram dramatic roles allow you the actor to have as high of a ceiling or as low of a basement from love to hate from happiness to pain as that particular actor wants to bring to it that's what's inherently beautiful about drama okay you're the part you're playing the role how does how how is are you going to emulate that person through yourself um that is a vital thing that I feel that makes me sweat that makes me sleep better at the end of the day that gives me a sense of accomplishment I'm like yes I did what I intended to do I prepared for it was ready oh the day didn't go how I thought it was going to go but I I called audibles along the way and rolled and still told the truth on my man the character that gratification feels good I'm unbelievable is the stupidest word in the dictionary shouldn't never come out of our mouths think about it to say oh wow what an unbelievable play uh it was an unbelievable book an unbelievable film an unbelievable Act of Courage really it may be spectacular it may be phenomenal most excellent or outstanding but unbelievable uh-uh give others and yourself more credit it just happened you witnessed it you just did it believe it give your obstacles credit that there's a responsibility to freedom and that there is freedom in responsibility you know and that earn your way there we remember the stuff we earn the stuff we experience more than what the teacher tells us or what someone gives us for free we just do we broke a proverbial sweat on it whether it was mental or physical or whatever we we we we built it we we understand we felt how we got it how we achieved it how we got what we wanted those stick with us whether we forget them intellectually they were written in our lineage and they build resilience and they and and and they build a healthy true optimism going forward to know that oh no I've I've I've worked for something before and achieved it delayed gratification oh there are choices I can make today for myself that will pay me back later in life so there are choices we make if you're going to say right now I'm going to lie cheat and steal to get what I want and I got it I got an immediate green light for me that's a battery powered green light that's not a solar powered green light why because now everywhere I go I got to look over my shoulder to see if someone's there that I lied cheat and stole from and when I'm doing that I'm stealing whose time my time now I'm not Freedom I'm not free I don't have the freedom I didn't create freedom in my future because I chose to be an IR make an irresponsible act that I left crumbs I've now got reasons to look over my shoulder and the more things we do to create in our in our future that we got to look over our shoulder the more of our most precious thing we have in our life's time that we're stealing from ourselves so it's not puritanical it's just like it's actually self- Serv it's a very selfish Choice um and and I'm a fan of the word selfish I've re helped redefine it um but I believe that there's selfish choices we can make that are the most selfless that there are selfless choices that we can make that are the most selfish choices those two are not a contradiction and we see them that way responsibility is is appreciation of a past it's building of a lineage it's investing in ourselves it's investing in something we started to build yesterday that we want to take into tomorrow there's a respon that gives us freedom