well guys here I am somewhere else watching lovers blind the reunion while the kids are in bed can't believe it Sabrina and Steven are not together anymore I mean they even said on the show they haven't seen each other for eight months and you're going to see a clip in a minute of them basically talking about what went wrong blaming the distance of the relationship as the main problem and then Sabrina goes into this list of stuff she did for him and it's almost embarrassing you know I bought you an ironing board and some groceries and you think and and he didn't seem particularly grateful and and it's very strange it's like they're having a a really detailed public r that you feel you shouldn't be listening to because it's not your business and it's very personal it's just such a shame they seemed like the one couple who I thought they will go all the way they're both older than the others they seem more mature and apparently when they got married he changed he didn't respond he didn't communicate he was not a man of his word and you know yeah he basically said at the end of their conversation everything you've said is lies and they had to cover the conversation after that and move on so it's obviously quite serious just goes to show e you never know what's going to happen after you say I do but take it from me guys marriage is absolutely brilliant and I can say that on 14 years in every day is just absolutely fantastic my wife sees it she's going to be so angry with me there was no consistency in Stephen's Behavior towards me and the relationship so Stephen what's your view so primary link was the long distance what we um underestimated the the added pressure of what the long distance was caused we both left our jobs to find love that's worth fa for Sabrina Sabrina um started own public and took off and it was brilliant we just lost our Spar our communication expectations of each were very different we hadn't done long distance like that because when I found out that you were going to be sitting separately and I found out you separated I was like it's going to be one of two things one it's the distance or the topic of children had come up again was that ever point of of no and I actually really respected Stephen in the pods for this because me and Stephen had a really open conversation around kids he actually said to me I actually need to go and think about this like this is I you know I I want to have kids and and this is something I need to go and and you know think about but with regarding to the distance I really tried and I'm really made the distance you know I tried to make it work I traveled how many times did you come from belr seven and how many times did you go to think tce and I I accept that's where I let the side down for sure but I have to take opportunities because of my business I lost all my customers but it wasn't even just about traveling it's when I traveled you didn't make any adjustments in your life for me so like when you came to Belfast you wanted to go to the gym so I paid for a car for you to rent a car but I don't drink tea or coffee so I had tea and coffee and a French press for you in the house I spent 70 pounds in groceries you wanted an earning board I bought you an earning board to have at mine you know I was trying to to do everything I could to make the relationship work and I just feel like you made zero accommodations in your life for me or our relationship it was Ty difficult cuz stepen doesn't really like talking on the phone unless there's a reason for it and it's in a big texture so suddenly when we weren't together the communication just was not there what was it like when you were together most of when we were together most of the time most of the time it was obviously every couple has their issues but most of the time when we were together it was fine right isn't that contradiction of the story youve just told prior to we either were fine we wasn't you made no adjustments for me that's very different from we spending time together a lot of things that you're saying are not facts right because the words you're saying I don't recognize who you are at the moment I really don't recognize who you are there's a lot offf there's a lot of stuff you were saying was right and I played a part in that I I could say I share a lot of stuff and I choose not to because at respect for the person I I thought I'm married I honestly don't feel like you respected me I don't think you appreciated me and I don't think that you considered me and I think then at Christmas when two days before you were meant to come to Belfast you messaged me saying hey hun don't think I can come to Belfast like two days before you meant to be there and with no respect for me no consideration for my family and what my family had done you literally said happens do it over it