Do women like joie chavis create broken homes or is it only men like cam newton

what is going on folks so I want to to discuss this for a while um seeing all the backlash that um Cam Newton got I want to talk about this today cam new sat down with Dr Bryan and talked about his um thoughts on marriage and divorce now he was pretty much felt more comfortable having a kid with with someone or being a parent than actually being a husband and I heard all women say it was very irresponsible he's just creating broken homes and one today I'm gon to talk about Joey Chavez and how I've never heard level of vitriol that was the one the the vital that you give to Cam Newton I've never hear that for Joey shabin I hear a couple of you saying something like that breath sis take a break from that sis and just get yourself together but I never hear any of you saying that she is contributing to the broken home I always hear about the men and one thing I want to talk about is in a relationship there's two people two participants in a relationship if it succeeds it's because of the two people and if it fails because of the two people now no matter how you slice it some of you saying well that individual is 25% of the blame so that means you're 70% or flip it there's 7 75% of the blame you're 25% of the blame even if you're 3% of the blame if a relationship succeeds it succeeds because of both folks and if it fails it fails because of both folks now we saw recently and we see that they're taking pictures together again but Joey Chavez has three baby fathers One by Future one by bwow and one by tray dicks not once have I heard any of you women out there calling out as much as you're calling out Cam Newton Cam Newton provided for his kids no matter how you slice it up now do children do well when the parent is actively in the household yes but in this situation he is providing financially sure he sees his children yo but yes in the best scenario a father should be in the home literally not just in the physical presence but in the emotional presence in the spiritual presence ipating there there are fathers out there right now that are in the home but are not in the home but chy Chavez has been in three relationships that have led to a child and has not got in the ring out of any of those relationships she has become a Serial baby mother like you out there are calling Cam Newton a Serial baby daddy she's a Serial baby mother now women's argument is well maybe she thought that they were going to marry her she thought future was gonna marry her she thought bwa was gonna marry her she thought Trayvon digs was gonna marry her if he did he would have gave [Music] the a ring the pregnancy occur and I don't think any of these pregnancies were planned out now you take that risk when you're having unprotected sex but I don't think any of them saying during that motion like I want to have a child with you now look at the Dynamics this leads to these children are growing up all three of them and I'm not saying that their fathers are not great fathers I'm not saying that but they do not have a two parent household and Joey Chavez contributes to that as well lot of ladies like to point out to the man but she is constantly having children with all of these men constantly posting pictures constantly saying X Y and Z but what's the effect see a lot of you parents out there would never ask your child how do you feel about all this because you're going to get an answer that you don't like to hear you're going to get an answer that's going to hurt your feelings when these children literally tell you not this again that is something that a lot of parents don't want to hear how this actually makes their children Phil and we think about it in in our own in the black community is that we have the lowest marriage rate in the United States we have the lowest marriage rate and look at us look the effect that it's having on us and our kids look at the effect it's affecting our network is affecting us economic Ally mentally spiritually where we're out heing about sleeping [Music] around and you got to understand that God always puts something in place for a reason and a lot of us don't find out till we've suffered the consequences of those decision but whoever you sleep with you create some type of Covenant with it's a covenant and that's the reason why a lot of y'all after some really bad relationships have to get not just counseling from the professionals but you got to go to church to get those strongholds off of you because you've created a covenant with somebody that is an adversary to your spirit you become connected to you a lot of you ladies you know in your mindset you literally will be dealing with someone and fellas you too will be dealing with a woman and it's all wrong and you can't figure out why you're still connected to that individual it's because when you sleep with somebody you become one with them and she has literally not just become one with someone in regards of sleeping with them she has had a kid with all three men now here's what you have to understand Joey chave is that she will be linked to these three men for the rest of her life for the rest of her life she is going to be linked with these men same with the men these men that have multiple baby mamas they're going to be linked to these women for the rest of their lives they can move on and get married finally find the right one but it does not matter because they're going to be linked to these mothers or these fathers for the rest of their lives and think about how these kids feel just think about it from the kids perspective is that a father having to spend time with various kids different ages different responses to the breakup we not seeing you as much it's going to be a hard childhood for that child because a lot of times we're seeing parents out there buying them all these gifts got you the new Louis Vuitton I got you the new Jordans I got you the new gadgets but I didn't show you love I didn't show you empathy I didn't go over no memory verses with you I didn't teach you about God I I I just gave you everything you physically wanted in regards to material things but when you get older and have to deal with real life and deal with stress deal with frustration deal with depression deal with anxiety deal with heartbreak deal with breakups of your own you're going to be in a mindset that just buy your way out of what you're feeling because that was what you were brought up in in your household these are broken households archetypes of parenting was supposed to be two parents okay care how you guys slice it up it was never supposed to be a singular parent and if something happened to that parent God forbid the parent passed away they were supposed to be mother figures or father figures but it was never meant for a child to be raised by one parent I do not care how you slice it up two parents supposed to give you two different things the feminine energy and the masculine energy and that's why these children are growing up because they have received imbalanced parenting the father is supposed to teach the child blunt accountability the mother is supposed to add that sweetness and that gentleness that way when that kid grows up and see that this life is blunt this life at times is Harsh that they'll understand from their father's correctness how to maneuver through it but they'll also understand from their mother's gentleness how to maneuver in a in a in a professional setting and to these haters and to these critics of How To Love gently and show that kind side as well it takes a village to raise a child not just one parent and this isn't a judgment piece you had a child okay you're at a point right now that kid needs more than just you and we got to stop saying well I Ro I raise them the best I can best I can according to who you you got to have uncomfortable conversation with yourself and say child what aren't you getting in this childhood I know some of you have never asked that question in your life ask them your children should be able to be honest with you what grade would you give me because we have always heard from people around the way I did the best I could according to who some of you ladies out there saying that you are a good mother according to who you according to your child smiling when you buy him something these children are growing up in broken homes a broken home is when there's not two parents involved that's broken it was never designed for a child to be raised by just one child it's impossible that's why we created a single mom generation or a single father generation and wondering why these children are growing up deficient because they don't have balance K new K Newton perspective he got a lot of money on the line and he's probably seen how many men that have gotten caught up and just marrying for love and the marriage breaks up and these men have worked their entire lives to become millionaires their entire lives to build their Empires only for half of it to be given away to somebody that didn't even contribute to it was it even around you when you was at pot Warner when you played in high school when you played in college when you had to work all out to get into the NFL so these men feel some type of way having to give half of that away to someone that didn't even put any work in anything in regards to their career many might say that Joey shabz is praying on these men that have money and understanding that she has a kid by them she and her child is set up for life they might be set up for Life financially from her going through the child support angle but none of these men have made you a wife was it first time shame on on them second time shame on them again but third time shame on me none of y'all have the same energy and then when yall do have that energy well you never do but none of Y have that energy for Joey Chavez and y' constantly will talk about a man need to fall back and let women make decisions a man need to understand that it's a new day Independent Women I can control but when it comes to blame you don't want nothing that leadership for that blame when it comes to blame you want to hand out that blame back to that man oh you supposed to be the man in charge oh I was supposed to be submitting to you you're the one that no accountability no accountability in this generation a lot of you women do not have accountability and it makes sense because you were raised in a household where accountability was not present you didn't have a consistent father in your life right and a lot of y'all don't want to understand this or even have this conversation that all those men that weren in their child's life it wasn't all by choice a lot of them got pushed out of their child's life by bitter moms bitter single moms not all but some but we never talk about it men trying to be in their their child's life they moved on got another woman settled down right made that individual their wife and these women feel some type of way of the fact that that man just made them a single mom but he made somebody else a wife Joey Chavez has created to a broken home she has and for the ones out there saying she hasn't you don't have that same energy when it comes to a man Even though this man is financially providing for all his kids what is she financially providing she's just having the kids and yes having a kid is like having multiple jobs right especially if you're stay at- home mom actively there and doing all the things you need to do but this woman is constantly going to man after man after man and having children just as you folks out there demonize black men for having multiple Baby M you don't demonize her for having multiple baby daddies cuz you still in the same statement will say well it's on them they should have they should have been the ones that made her wife before they made her single mom but you don't say the same thing to women is why' you give him sex before he gave you a 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