he pushes me yo I lose it I can't fight I've never been in a physical fight in my life he pushes me D you know what I remember and I fell I fell that you know what we're not going to sleep we're not going to sleep he's going to finish what they start like I wasn't even thinking about infections or diseases or whatever or whatever would I do it again hell yes if I have to defend myself I will definitely do it again the [Music] hell turn push [Music] hi my loves welcome to another video this is a story time um yeah it's been a long time it's been a while I haven't told a story in ages but anywh who I have a story for you guys today I hope you are going to enjoy it and yeah this is going to be familiar to most of you guys but not most oh my God just a few people that I know that are subscribed to my channel might have an idea not even might they actually know you get me but it's whatever honestly um I don't care hope you do enjoy the video If you do you know what to do please do give it a thumbs up and if you're not subscribed please do subscribe to the channel I have a pillow on me because um I'm just feeling awkwardly not awkwardly but it's really in a very unmindful way in a very unmindful way and what is a story time without a drink I'm definitely going to drink I'm definitely going to drink for this one so for today we are having this baby um what is this we having this this baby I don't want anything hectic so I thought let me just have this um I've been having a lot of brutal food lately so I just thought you know what let me take a break and because I'm going to work tomorrow anyway actually forming this um on a week day but yeah that's what we're going to do I don't know how the setting is I'm still trying to figure out which spot I can use to film in this house and with lighting and background as well and my plant that I usually use as a backdrop or just to have a mini or just a splash off color is currently not with me any who um story time let me first first pour myself a drink this is hard this is hard and I got this glass um from pay it was 20 r one thing about me and glasses yo s s one thing about me and glasses oh it finally finally finally brought myself to tell the story like I've been prolonging it but I was like you know what [ __ ] it you know let me just you know because we share stories whether it's cute whether it's not and this one is a bit wild I'm sure you can tell by the title any who let's get in to the video I hope you guys do enjoy it and yeah let's let's let's let's just don't waste any time let's get it clink so let me first um let me first have a sip s let me sip oh mind this is nice this is very nice it this sparkling wine or champagne sparkling wine whatever it is you oh my window is open cuz and I'm not too far from the road so you're going to hear cause but I'm sorry for that I'm going to try to be as audible as I can so how and when did the start that started was it a year ago or two a year ago right so if you know where I work my company has three branches right one in Durban one in cap toown and one in Johannesburg and the one in Johannesburg isn't as big so we're just starting off so we happen to be the first group you get me all right cool so whenever there'd be new recruits or new people coming in we' show them the way because we' show them the rooms cuz we've been there for quite some time great stuff and then if there's people well actually so they would also take people to trading during induction so that um you give them inside if they have any questions you just you know the HHA Bank great stuff so during that time I actually got promoted to a new role so that required me to be more involved with chaines and everything so I'd go to training and and and and and and during that time that's when I met this guy who are we going to call this guy um I'm going to try to be kind and not be mean about it um I'm not angry I'm really not angry so there's no need for me to be spicy or spiteful so we're going to call this guy because he's a thief okay let's not do that oh my god um who are we going to call this guy um detective because he like sunglasses like he wore sunglasses every day like a nobody buses and then you think oh my oh my God oh my God oh my God you know but yeah yes this is how I felt and also viewed him at the time when we were together I'm not just saying it now he knows it too everyone knows it too because it was just too much I'm not someone who excerises and he even tried to get me into the classes and I was just like you know what it's not my vibe I'm good you know and we're fine about it but yeah so we're going to call him my class sh we meet obviously we like we meet we do introductions then would try and ask would go out of his way to ask like dumb questions like you would he you can tell that he lose an answer to it or you had just explained but he would ask so that he can get your attention fine so my time at the training room I only went there like two um twice like two days and then I went back um to my actual role um positional post incidents in and then I went on with my job so training was over they now actually joined the team when they joined the team that's when he started trying to befriend me because I was friends with these other girls closer it's it's it's nice when closer people link up because you feel at home cuz it's not every day that you're going to bump into a closer person in draw you know or if you do it's going to be someone who's not maybe half closer or you know but it's ready to find someone who's actually from the Eastern cave y so it was one of those so I was hanging around with those girls at assist um assist them with eings and systems and and and great stuff so he was also in the Mi because he was friends with them because they were in training together Shar my classy would get to know me if he was going to smoke he would ask me to accompany him I was like all cool no problem and then he says yo s he doesn't have re so this other day he's like um hey um um you should try modling you know I was like H I'm too short and then and then and and I knew he was trying to talk to me you know and I don't talk to boys like that like don't I'm I'm not a very chatty person or I might come across as one but it's hard for me to you know a social person great I um I accompany him and stuff because I don't want to be rude as well and he was respectful towards me as well so he would take pictures oh he took pictures on my phone and then he said um can you please send me these and because I'm not using an Android I had to send it to him via WhatsApp okay that was his way of getting my number and he's like oh I'm actually a photographer we should do a shoot and I was like you know how phot rers are they're going to use that to try and get um on you or under you cre stuff so I was like H it's fine we'll see I check his page it's his personal page um but he has some pictures there and then I look and I'm like oh okay there there's potential cuz the pictures are quite old so also the quality considering maybe the device I was using at the time so I okay what happened what you know um your recent work and whatever and whatever so he'd go on about who he worked with and and like shut no problem so after I got my number I sent or sent him his pictures and he would start texting me on a daily like hey hi and I'd respond and then this other time I was like um um actually I'd like to have lunch with you would you like to have spend lunch lunch lunch spend your lunch with me I was like I cool no problem and then he said okay I'm going to cook um you should join me so we go we CH downstairs and everyone was looking at him like m NES this guy wants you you know so they call me by my name well my is n but they short they shorten it because they don't know how to pronounce the entire oh it's just too long so they call me NES they're like NES man this guy really wants you he was like ah guys my come on and at the time at the time when glass was busy trying to fin me and do whatever people were under the impression that I'm seeing someone well I was seeing someone but yeah you know one of those stage that never end anywhere so it was during that time so to him he saw me as a challenge something that he can conquer cuz he was going on telling people about how and and and you know so at the time was connecting beard or the the guy in person was connecting beard was under the impression that I'm seeing someone I don't know you know so sh that happens um we get to know each other I'm like you know what um I don't do vibing and then we're going to get to know each other if we like each other then it's either we date or we don't but I'm not open to he like oh okay cool I'm open to the idea I date as well I don't play he is old so why would you be playing you're 30 something year old for crying out loud if you're 30 something you're old guys I'm sorry if you're 30 something year old you're old cuz my aunt is is a 30 something year old so you're just old it's just that there's nothing wrong with it I'm old as well I'm I'm in my early 20s but 30 something year old my uncles are 30 you know so fine so uh cool we start um going out um we start sneaking kisses and then end cuz we we we took it slow you know and then he doesn't have a place he would come to my place all the time I didn't have a problem with that so this is where things started going south n Shar so um we were would um he would come to my place the entire time come to my place the entire time and then now I'm getting disturbed because s why are we always in indoors I'm not going to spend the entire relationship behind closed doors you get me so you know what this is not going to work I I like ABC and D it doesn't have to be Bouie I'm a very basic person like let's go get let's go outside let's you know and I tell him things I don't like first thing he did was he took me no we made plans yes we had made plans so we would make plans he wouldn't follow through we'd make plans he wouldn't show up if we make plans for 11: in the morning he's going to show up at 6:00 p.m. knowing very well you where can you find Sip and paint at 600 p.m. you know very well that we made reservations for that for 11:00 a.m. strictly and he'd communicate about oh hey I'm actually going to be running late this and this and this he would lie he would lie a lot at something came up with my grandma is watching soccer you get and sometimes it's guys I watch so but I'm not a I'm not a an I'm not that into it it's like rugby I don't have a problem with rugby I watch it I understand it you get me but yeah he would find we can literally go to a bar and watch soccer we can go to marville watch soccer while we drink beers we can do whatever or say hey s let's not make plans because I have um a match cing coming up this week so I'm going to be doing that great so he would show up very late and then I just started getting annoyed you know what I'm not going to do that cuz what are we what are we doing really just having sex and what you know because like let's go outside step outside I'm very young you know let's go to a market let's do you know stuff like that so I was like okay cool after I told him that he started um shifting and acting funny and weird he never asked me out on a date like let's go out or let's go grab something or let's go grab something to drink then when he find finally did I've never been to a tavn I grew up in a Township but I've never been to a Tavern cuz I feel uncomfortable growing up as girls we were i' go to a cuz bar at least there's people my age group and it's safer it's cleaner it's it's just different the people they are just different you know you're safe you get me if you're taking me to a t that's a different story I okay fine we go to the tavn and then after that I was just like you know what I'm just not about this fine and I told him that you know I understand but you know I don't like it I don't feel comfortable I don't feel comfortable guys and and I just it's it's not me great stuff so time goes on time goes on and still man this guy nothing is happening I'm like okay for things to happen I had to initiate it and make sure and see that it it that it happens see through you know initially I didn't mind it because but also why aren't you putting in and I think he had a fetish cuz I'm not his type I'm not someone he would date his ex looks nothing like me he's into he's old he's into old people who look old cuz they are old I think like I said before that I was a CH and that's okay there's nothing wrong with that like I was Indo that I was something that he needed to conquer and then when he saw oh okay he was like you know and he started feeling insecure because his ex cheated on him how is it my fault that why must I suffer for your ex's doings you get me so um he would communicate about how y he um how scared he is of being taken for a ride we all scared of scared and do not want to be taken for a ride and being played so he started yo guys don't did it work he started being funny and then as time goes so they started bringing in new people and bring in new people so our team those two guys are joined problem is those guys just happen to be closer then it was oh my God oh my God oh my [Music] God we have events at work you know um I've posted Vlogs before we would have functions and and and and and so one of these guys was busy putting up a banner and I happened to pass by and he asks me why is that guy looking at you like that how is it my problem that he's looking at me some type of way you know and then this other day he would like it it it became a pattern I actually when people would say no man something is wrong with this guy or this guy is obsessed myass because oh if someone passes by and he's look they looking at me especially guys he'd have a problem with that but I don't understand was why are you stressed about how people are looking at me people if people find me attractive that's fine same you found me attractive they're going to find me attractive the problem or what matters more is what I do about it you get me and then if he hears that if he hears that someone wants me yo it's going to be a problem he's not going to talk to me he's going to you know and I am not going to beg and apologize for being wanted and yes and yes and other people like n it's probably because the first two faced his friends especially the guys cuz they' come to me and tell me stuff but I'm not going to say that and bring all of that here was not was is a gossip or was a gossip maybe he changed I don't know but is a gossip everyone knows how much of a Barbie he is you know this is going to be important later on in the story great stuff we have a fire drill and then during the fire drill because we go as departments or as teams so we're in groups he has a problem that I'm next to or I'm laughing next um with one of the guys in my team and so what must I do must I act like I don't know them but we're in the same team you get me and these people have girlfriends oh my God and everyone knows that cuz he would make sure he would make it a point that people know we're together I remember this other time we were just not talking to each other and he said needed space what a diver he said he needed space and then now all of a sudden I was showing this girl on my channel and he actually commented about how he knows how good my space looks because he's actually been there this girl was like um what do you mean he's like yeah we're together and then the girl started telling other people you know innocently he calls me this other day to confront me yeah why are you telling people we we we we dating whatever whatever and I'm like what is this guy's like bro you need to relax you're the one who's going around and I'm chilled I'm chilled honestly there's no I'm going to you know it was just so dumb so I have to apologize guys as a narcissist will do and actually make you feel bad for it to a point that you have to apologize because I am not about to Baby a [ __ ] grown as man but I did it anyway I'm not going to lie and act like you know only I'm only realizing thing these things very late I now his team his team manager actually it was her birthday um birthday it was her birthday so they're like okay we're going to go out as a team but I'm also going to invite my friends she invites me and my friend and the guys because she knows the guys that are in my team she invites she invites the entire team like our guys pull through so we decided to go to News Cafe News Cafe is right across it's not too far from it's like a 3 minute walking distance now he has a problem that those guys showed up it's my fault and G he acted yo y he acted like a [ __ ] you know what he did so and the manager mentioned that he she actually called um friends and she invited so and so and so and so so he started showing off and acting all funny when the guys got there but the guys really didn't care because like they don't know him like that and there was no need for them to you know they were just there because they know the team the team manager and they were busy enjoying themselves and they were busy dancing with girls because you know there's girls that they interested in that they want to dance with and none of them even came to me and were trying to be funny it was a hi hey and then we all danced now this [ __ ] he wants to I I I get annoyed very easily well it takes time but when I'm pissed I'm pissed so we're busy with chilling he's in the middle so he toasts everyone cheers bumps glasses and and end and end he skips me goes to the person literally next to me the glass goes across and then I asked him okay why don't you toast me he's like n it's not a biggie yo I lost it and I was so drunk I lost it and then I was like I don't know I told him where to get off I was like no man what you're doing is really bachy and and and and and then he tries to run to the bathroom I was like ah [ __ ] this I'm going to follow him to the bathroom I go to the bathroom like if you think you're going to run you're not you're going to finish what you started why are you acting like a [ __ ] and I literally said it like this and people like no don't start drama like if it's drama that he wants it's drama that he's going to get because he's acting like a [ __ ] [ __ ] he's acting weak number one those guys that go they are even younger than him you get me he I don't know why he felt threatened for some reason I don't understand like it's just hilarious till this day honestly I think the idea of someone treating me better than him was the problem so fine he people were like no don't I was like no [ __ ] this I don't care people can look at me I don't care one thing about me I don't care honestly I don't care you can wake up talk about me tomorrow I do not care you know and till this day I still don't care I'm going to stand by whatever I said you know I sh he's like yeah you know he's leaving no problem so I was also leaving so he says no don't leave alone and then one of his female friends said she's coming to see her boyfriend boyfriend lived here in somewhere close to maoning but we shared the Uber he came with us cuz he said he wanted to make sure we're safe fine we get to my place because that's where we've been my place cuz it doesn't have a place so we get to my place when we get to my place um oh we continue arguing arguing arguing about why were those guys there where do I enter it was not not my birthday party so why is it my problem I was just invited same way everyone else was invited you get me so we have a back and forth back and forth back and forth great stuff now I don't know what got to me he passes out oh he says oh why am I even here how did I get you and I'm thinking oh my God oh my God oh my God at 30 something year old is asking me he's implying that I kidnapped him me this tiny I wish you can see how big that man is I I don't have his pictures I was going to put his picture there and then cover his face how in the world how the hell would I be capable of kidnapping I don't know I don't know I don't know something is wrong with his head something was definitely wrong with his head oh he's overwhelmed we need to take a break cuz he's overwhelmed whenever he does something wrong he's overwhelmed that's just him D guys so fine um if you've watched that movie got Tyler Perry the recent one where that guy vs over the girl and then he says I'm actually think of giving you a second chance but he's the one that's strong that needs to ask for a second chance yes exactly exactly that movie that movie was a trigger guys that was a trigger and then he would be a dick behind closed doors and then when he gets to he was going to act all nice because people know how crazy I am and how much of a BL mouth I am it's easy for them to believe him than me but I was like I don't have to prove myself to anyone there's always two sides of the story so people are going to run with whatever and after all the events that had happened people would actually come and ask I'm a what's happening and then I'd say i' tell them like yo s imagine if we didn't you know and he turn is off um say maybe we fight he's going to take a screenshot and then post it in a group chat um his team team's group chat and I'm thinking if you trying to make me look bad or you trying to look cool or look like a saint it's not going to work actually you are making yourself look Dumber because people started gossiping about him behind his back he was even training cuz people were like y such a wickling why would you you know and he thought that you know sharp so that night I go through something said go through his phone he was sleeping I take his [Music] fingering go through I check whatspp I'm like I'm on this guy I don't know there just that thing that says go through their phone went through the phone I this is still within a month or two months actually escalated pretty quick it was very toxic for both of us I'm not going to lie to it was very toxic and yo it was very toxic it ended badly and I'm glad that it ended because S one of us was going to live in a body bag fine I that night things got heptic so I check ah I see this this girl that he was talking to off the girl off she also lives in Alex where he lives but I was like okay typ Z so it makes sense so this girl he she would post and he would constantly comment on her pictures and also this um text that were deleted and he in he was insisting on taking this girl out this girl was like you know I have a boyfriend I can't he's like no it's just dinner and what pissed me off was the fact that he's actually asking other people out and he has never thought of taking me out Spong off me because um he's my subordinate you know so I was like hm you know but I was like it's whatever so that pissed me off and then I wake him up I wake him up because number one he's been accusing me of cheating knowing very well that it's him that's been you know he gets angry that I checked his phone that's the only reason and he says he was confused that's why he was busy asking the girl out like oh okay so you never thought to ask me out and um your girlfriend or was his girlfriend at the time I he beats around the bush he gets upset he pushes me yo I lose it I can't fight I've never been in a physical fight in my life he pushes me know to that point I remember one push and I fell I fell that you know what we're not going to sleep we're not going to sleep he's going to finish what he started I didn't first thing I thought was smashes one against the wall but I was like it's pointless really you know like I wasn't even thinking about infections or diseases or whatever or whatever Duma I think like four if not three bites Duma and he had tender skin because he has a skin condition he has a skin condition his skin is a bit [Music] orangish to a point way cuz yeah and then we we continued back and forth back and forth back and forth D there's no way I'm going to let a man do as he pleas with me I'm going to scream and I'm going to cause a sin if you don't leave me alone and I'm going to call security and then he started blackmailing me about how um he's yo yo he brought things that were not necessary and then he started lying and even before that hey guys guys guys guys guys fine that happens I was like you know what I'm not going to share a bed with this guy I'm going to sleep on the floor I let him sleep on the bed tomorrow he was going to work fine hour was off he doesn't go to work you know what he does he takes pictures of the bikes he sends them to the group on WhatsApp at work he thinks that people like oh is so abusive I'm so tiny guys if you're going to be snacks to me for fighting back whose fault is that I don't care but I'm going to defend myself because sh he sends that to um WhatsApp group and now people are starting to text me some posting them on their status we're laughing about it like y this guy why honestly would you you know because he's bring attention to himself I didn't care because also if you ask yourself why would it even go to a point where I have to bite you why am I even biting you you know um would I do it again hell yes if I have to defend myself I'll definitely do it again I the hell great before that when would make plans for E dat kind of this other time it was very nice I appreciated it we went there we B for like 30 minutes and he was like he needs to go home and look after his grandma is at a bar watching okay what happened you know so there like many events that um pissed me off you know what I'm just there I'm in denial but I'm actually starting to let go and when you move on relationship so that when you leave you for good great stuff no let's try we just B for each other we need to work um work on ourselves now say no man I need to do better I need to work on myself and then and then and because apparently I was wrong for biting him for catching him for cheating and for trying actually I was wrong for biting him when I was trying to defend myself when he was attacking me when I found out that he was cheating exactly fine now time goes we're like you know what we're going to take a break but oh we going to take it slow we're not going to take a break we're going to take it slow we're not going to see other people but we need to work on ourselves you've got this anything for anything for if he says he doesn't like me hanging out with guys after work it's whatever whatever oh guys no cuz I wouldn't like it as well if you would forgetting that this [ __ ] actually has female friends and I never had a problem with that because you know what and I'm say you know there was no reason for me feel about it but I was like it's whatever now problem was um oh I lose my phone I lose my phone um after losing my phone when was this this was it was August September I think it was August last year yeah it was August when I lost my phone so August I lose my phone phone I run I go to my I text my friend I text whoever I can like yo please tell that I don't have a phone I got dropped tell I got dropped tell when I got dropped mhm so when the message got to him I think the person mixed up the places cuz I told him where I got robbed and they said I got Dred in ockland park what would I be doing in ockland park there's no even if men I went to watch a movie or do what would I do there's only campus Square in ockland park like there's no entertainment centers there's no bers you get me he wasn't concerned about the fact that I lost my phone concern wasn't concerned about my safety all he was worried about was what were you doing in Oakland Park why is your friend saying you in Oakland Park but you said you're not in ockland park you in New Town shop I don't have a phone I don't have a phone now remember I told you were were um the company was just starting out so it kept expanding so we have um phones that we use um we we have work phones their smartphones so when someone resigns they turn in their phone and their equipment and then they leave so when we're moving to a bigger space he wasn't trusted with phones that he should keep them should they be new people or anyone's devices become faulty they can like take that as a replacement there were eight phone there were six phones six phones he keeps those phones great and then go and I'm like hey actually how long have you had those phones for so I was trying to see how he is if he was actually going to give you one like how about you give me one phone and then I can use it while I while I wait for a replacement cuz I ordered a new phone like while I wait for my phone how about I use this one because I was thinking if I'm at work I can use that phone cuz I'm mostly at work and then when I'm at home I can use my laptop and my burner phone I was like no you can't do that and I was like all right cool no problem because also we're not allowed to use those phones for our personal use like take it home and and stuff but I was like people use them at work for whatever but still don't leave the premises with the phone but sh I didn't pist time goes time goes time goes then it's I happen to move from my winning I had to make some life changes and move there were just some challenges factors that pushed me to move so I moved when I moved I happened to move when those two guys were actually moving to now he's under the impression that I'm leaving mying for him I'm leaving my because he doesn't like those guys or because those guys make him feel uncomfortable and I'm thinking who are you are you Jesus fine I move he like I'm going to help you move he helps me move I move my stuff where I stay there's a there were few tenants it's not an apartment complex but Flats so I stayed I had um four neighbors all those neighbors were married I'm the youngest one they married they live with their partners and then not all of them so those that were not married maybe like f it staying with Partners though great so I don't know the place he's like um actually cuz when I don't know we're going to the shops we're trying to figure out the route to the mall and and we see this other girl leaving and then he was like he was asking where can we get quarters and and and and how do we catch a taxi how does this work so she was telling us how things work around the shop and now on our way he tells me hey actually um you should make friends and stop this thing of being indoors and then and and just make friends go out see the place so that you're comfortable and whatever my neighbors used to play music a lot it's because I'm not doing anything this random Saturday or Friday Saturday my neighbors were busy chilling they playing music I'm also chilling I'm playing my own music but not loud they actually say hey um come join us the girlfriend says hey come join us um we're actually going to go get drinks cuz I was drinking e like let's go we're going to go get drinks do you do you go to clubs I was like yeah sure so they like okay cool let's go to the disang we go to disang yeah we're going to go get as the dis thing he calls the guy calls my glass when he calls I pick up were over this was December actually yeah December he called and then he says oh he calls and then he asks where I am he always asks where are you who are you with I live alone who would I be with so when he called that time he heard that I was in the car did oh I'm actually on my way to this other place we're going to buy alcohol I went with my neighbors he's like yeah um what are those people saying about me there at the back like what people no one knows any guys they don't have a boyfriend but they don't know him like that cuz they saw him when he was helping me move in no one was talking about him he was just so paranoid yo even at work when we were just talking happens to pass he would send me teams what were those guys saying about me no one he was so obsessed and so paranoid no one is talking about you dude like chill so we fought because he thinks I'm cheating with my neighbors and and end and I'm like this guy and there was a time I needed lift Club everyone has cars in our in our yard except for me and then he was like yeah you busy cheating with them if I was don't you think I I wouldn't suffer with um lift Club they'd pick me up and drop me off when ever and then he's like yeah still um when people cheat they even they don't care if you have a I was like y this guy doesn't respect me and I was like you know what we're done we are done I didn't say this to him but I was like you know what I'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt I was like I tried to convince him because I hate it when people have a certain view of me and I know it's not correct sometimes especially gja I look I'm a cheater I don't like people who cheat guys if you cheat on me I leave y so I was like no man I wouldn't do ABC and D Shar this other time I want a c this girl is like no manapa is not nice I was actually staying in PR she's like yapa is not nice you need to go to in order for you to go to you catch a taxi a local taxi if you know local tax they dry probably going to take you like 30 minutes to even get tal and you're going to have to wait for a quarter I had received my phone that time time and I decided to leave it behind because I was still TRS cuz I lost my phone so I tell him here I'm actually going to get a um something to eat I'm going to leave my phone behind I leave my phone when I come back 22 Mr calls and text messages about it's fine don't bother calling me you're making me a fool there's no quarter place that's going to take you an hour he literally calculated I sent a picture of the quarter guys a picture of the quarter and I was with this girl cuz we initially cuz I was like you know what let's take a picture and show him I son and also this girl is like ah babes this is this is not cool this is just so toxic whatever whatever I fine and did when we go we' plan dates he doesn't show up I tell him this other time but I saw a place on Tik Tok we should check it out a oh no I can't but you can go it was like sharp so I go out you see the place I went to in my Vlogs um the place in that what's that place is it something Beach what what beach were to that I went to he's like yeah who took you there oh are you on a date I was like also he's pressed that I'm actually on a date well I wasn't on a date but in my head I'm thinking so he doesn't like the idea of me going on a date with someone but he won't take me out on a date or won't even come with me cuz with me it's not about even wanting you to pay it's just having you around like being with you like let's go together if we're going to split the bill I don't care we'll split the bill when you know what after let's actually go to La I'll pay then he would want to go you get me so so it was that that you know what [ __ ] this I'm I'm not doing this with you fine we break up it's official now he's like can we be friends because I don't want to lose you in my life and I say I don't befriend my exes I'm not going to be friends with you but just know I don't hate you we're good people but we're not going to be friends I can't be friends with you because who if I'm going to date I wouldn't appreciate it if they were friends with their ex therefore I'm not going to be your friend because and we know one reason that brought us together so now it do work let's let it be fine new group arrives he does the same thing um he makes it known that he's busy with me and I'm like dude you need to relax and it's been time ever since we said we're taking it slow we've never been intimate that was like six close to six months um and this is J now now there's obviously people are starting to show interest people are showing interest people from different cuz building to We Rent that space so there's obviously people from whenever I'm talking to someone he's going to make sure he follows me he makes it a point if I'm stepping out to go on break he's going to follow me and acts like he's going to smoke if I'm going to get food he's going to follow me if I'm going you know to a point where this this other guy guy from this other team we're going to call him photographer y that one killed him number one he's a real photographer his work is actually good he's an actual photographer that guy he gets gigs he gets booked and just because you don't get gigs it doesn't mean you're not a photographer but your work and your ethic you know with him it wasn't even a thing of oh you should be a model oh we're going to oh I'm a he just mentioned that oh I actually am a photographer because he found out that I do YouTube and and and and I was like um I should take pictures of you some days um some day because you have a nice phone so we'd go to the rooftop he' take pictures of me we'd go outside when I tell you he would follow us he would act like he's going to the mall if we're going to e to take a picture if we're going to the sixth floor seventh floor he's going to follow us if I'm knocking off and the guy is going to smoke he's going to follow us yo it was guys to a point where when the guy passes and my friend cuz everyone knew because he was just guys he would turn red if someone comes to my seat and he would stare people were actually asking why is that guy staring at you like that so he would also look at other people's reactions when that certain guy passes you know my guys honestly and that guy was actually taking nice pictures of me and I really appreciated it and there was literally nothing going on you get me he was like yeah even the people that you think are your friends they're gossiping about you they saying you're sleeping with that guy I was chilled cuz I knew no one is my no one no one was um saying any of that he just wanted me to be defensive and whatever but it was just it was like like it's whatever cuz I know the guy has a girlfriend and I'm not interested in him like that do you think I would date at work again after the nonsense that you pulled like come on logic great now um oh actually um ear ear Jan someone um someone's phone stops working and we need a replacement phone I'm like oh actually class has phones that were given to him that he was meant to give to it but he never did how about you take that and use it replace a replacement my glass says he sold the phones because he doesn't get get paid enough and then I don't believe him I check his locker he actually sold the phones and I went to it it says no they never received any phones they actually had to buy new phones sh I asked him where are the phones he says H I gave them to it like you're lying you know you sold them and you know those phones have Imes and they can actually check those phones and then he was like nah it's not like they pay me enough anyway I cool no problem so I was like oh okay and he gave one to his mom because um it was his mom's birthday shop no problem we're over he's he keeps on sending me Tex when I come back and the guy walks and know we go out together ad you guys are together what if you need someone to take pictures of you you can just ask me I'm like you could have done that when we're together we're not together anymore and now that you see someone is doing it why are you pressed and one thing I hope I can change about myself is just stop entertaining nonsense because when he say something I'll just get pissed instantly yeah W and tell him where to get off because why the hell are you trying to act be active now when you couldn't when I needed you to be and that guy when he would get me coffee on he would get me a smoothie like small things I didn't even ask him he's not even my boyfriend do you get me it got to a point where he was harassing the guy I had to go to his manager to tell his manager that he needs to stop this Behavior or it's going to be messy it's going to be messy now he's busy he was busy trying to you know the whole entire friendship thing he's busy sending me text on teams like babes if you don't stop this number one I'm going to report you for selling those phones you know that's how I got him to stop harassing people and actually harassing me because even when his grandmother died May is all rest in peace he called me 15 times 15 times and what was I doing I was on a date getting to know someone and then he sends me T ah you don't care my grandma dies and then and and and what do you want me to do I'm sorry that your grandma is dead but we are not together like that I'm not your friend you get me so we tried forcing this friendship thing before the grandmother died cuz grandmother died in March yeah I think it was in March so before that man he would try and then I was like you know what cuz people would say um I was actually starting to go and dates and like getting to meet people people like y b you actually look nice if you on a date oh how was your date I'm very chatty like how was your date oh and and and and and you know so he would get pissed like you can actually start seeing someone as well and he's like yeah no I don't think I date anyone here and I don't want to date at work anyway and I'm still not over us maybe someday we're going to be kind like ah stop man and then you even before I actually threatened to report him so that he can stop harassing me and the people around me the men around me he was a lot he was a lot he was a lot to a he sent yeah he's but said something one thing about me old screenshot I have a folder on my work laptop screenshot screenshot screenshot and I save it there I'm waiting for rainy days if you mess with me I will sing that's one thing I told him that's when he actually got to leave me alone so now there's this girl that that he actually thought he said okay I might actually do something with her but just as a rebound to do whatever I was like actually because then she says Ah he says but ah she just puts on too much makeup she doesn't put on makeup it's pawns so it makes sense he's like n just she just puts on too much makeup and then and then and and like she's just you know maybe it's her vibe she likes pawns but it was and then we laughed about it and then fine so there was a time when oh so we're chilled we're not doing anything so we just chilled after I told we to get off back off and then this other time he needed money so I lend him money because I would get paid before him so I'd give him money and then I also gave him some of my personal belongings feminine things that I gave him or so fast forward to not so long ago I think few months back few months back I hear people keep asking me are you beefing with what do you mean we're going to call you are you beefing with pawns pawns Pap she Pawns reading but that's not she's not important in the story and then I'm like what do you mean um girl says you beefing with her because apparently you asked for your things back from your ex did guys what was I supposed to do if you borrow someone money you expect them to return it did I just asked for my things and I asked for my beanie what are you going to do with a female beanie it's my beanie bring it back you get me like there's nothing wrong with me asking for you to bring my bra you a guy you're not going to wear a bra I never asked for things that I got him I never ask him to give repay me the money that I've spent when I was taking him out on dates you know if I was petty I would have done that so apparently she's so old she goes around telling people that I'm bit that she's actually seeing my glass why would I be better why would I be better when I had to threaten this guy to leave me alone you get me see also it's my things if I need my iPhone cable I'm going to need my iPhone cable um it's mine you know if M it's yours I bought it for you it would make sense and there's a banner phone that I gave him as well he said he's borrowing it for business I don't know what business cuz he's not a photographer anyway he just uses that to get girls you know he uses it as a line because it doesn't have R there's nothing wrong with that so I was like if you're not using those please and he was like oh okay cool so he said he's going to give me on a certain date and then she does he doesn't and then with my money I said cuz there's a lady that sells Avon at work I was like oh actually don't give me the money cuz I didn't want any interactions with him because it's disrespectful as an ex to be constantly there so I just even when I started when I knew when I'm actually seeing other people starting to actually go out to see people I actually distan myself you know it would be a high hey heyi we don't hate each other until this nonsense with this pawns grown as granny yo so guys why would I do that if I was spiteful I would have went on about the things I've done for him how I got him to back off because even the girl I told the girl you know what if you're going to continue speaking [ __ ] about me I'm going to retaliate don't start with me because I'm guys and I would make it a point that because she wouldn't come to me directly she' speak about me I would sit right next to where she is have conversation with someone next to her and talk about her until if I was if you're going to go below I'm going to go under I'm going to go under one thing about me you don't play with me like that so you don't even know did it part of me having to prove that your guy was harassing all these guys that were actually trying to talk to me or just be nice to me is me telling him that I'm going to report him for stealing phones at work it's going to get him fired and we don't want that and I'm not a shitty person like that because we are all at work we're working because we need money we we have people depending on us you get me so that don't even do not even and ever since that she never she never um um continued with her nonsense and I stopped as well because there was no need for me to retaliate cuz I was like he and even the things that I was saying is the things that the guy was saying to me before they even dated cuz he was going on about how she walks like she's going to fall and whatever and whatever because and you know because L likes comparing and it was also I laughed about it was like oh okay it's a good thing cuz now he's actually going to finally leave me alone I was so relieved that he was actually sing because he would stalk me end and end yeah so now why all of a sudden would I trip because he's dating someone you know I was just like yo guys honestly and then people you know how people are they will fabricate things and also make it a why would he go for someone like that after he dated you and whatever it's his type guys she's something he's 30 something it only makes sense you get me but my only worry was I feel sorry for this go because sponge guys when I tell you that that guy would order stuff on Sheen for him I feel cut here 3,000 r on Sheen he wouldn't buy me necklace A1 but if I'm be ordering something on Sheen I'd get him like um a bangle what's this bracelet or get him a cap you know he would never necklace is like 10 r or earrings are like 40 R he would never so I was like a poor girl you know but I was like it's a good thing cuz they on the same level they're together it's going to make sense they're both from Alex so it's fine it's going to work for them but I was was just so annoyed I was so annoyed but luckily finally I was able to break away break away from all that nonsense that was going on but more of the story is never ever date at work never date at work but I'm good now it's been like yo it's been months it's been you ate from last year actually because you you it's been a long time because August last year till now it's close to a year if it's not a year already so I was just so confused as to why would I trip why would I leave you and then trip for leaving you and did if I actually was better or actually wanted that guy I would have said you stole these phones if you dump me I'm going to report you I never did that because I didn't want him instead I said if you continue harassing me I'm going to report you simple so I was like H it's whatever guys honestly but yeah you when I've hit my fish of sh relationships but I'm good now I'm happy I'm in a good I'm in a very very good space I like it for myself and yeah it's cute it's very it's mindful but yeah don't dat at work don't dat at work cling I hope I hope this was I hope it was a good story hope it was a good story guys the point it didn't even get to where we posted each other or where I post him because I post cuz it was only we only dated for like two months and then from there we just started fighting if a guy breeds my direction we're fighting but I'm good now um I'm also grateful that I went through the things that I went through because I know what I don't want and what I wouldn't want in a partner so I'm I'm I'm really really good so also another thing it's not your fault to to think that was so insecure when you validate him he would actually try and make you for for him feeling weak guys I would defend you know cuz when I love I love but it was like it's funny now that I think about it but sh yeah know my class toxic people were like I I had a think I had a face of dating people I wouldn't I dated him because I wanted to date him but the people I would date were not my types people know my types so it was always a shock and these people are actually the ones that are going to [ __ ] you over similar to similar to you know all those stories that I've told but it's whatever we do we leave and we learn some things are just lessons learning curves and whatever but yeah um if you have any similar experiences drop them down below oh s s i remember when I was learning how to drive it wasn't a driving school the person that was teaching it was actually a person with their personal car everyone was saying because and we were not even dating at the time but why it was just guys um hope you enjoy the story um if you did please do give it a like if you're not subscribed please do subscribe and thank you for tuning in uh we'll see you guys shortly bye