and the the idea of not working a a job that you've been doing for the past 20 years and all of a sudden shifting and going and doing something else that's a scary thought and I think our brains are like no you're staying here because this is the safe space right so I think it's also about like growing and learning about yourself and reading books and understanding your own behavior sometimes and just being a little bit aware of o i i i met with somebody the other day and we were we were talking and he was like you know sometimes we hide from um our feelings and we let our brain kick in and keep us safe and then we develop trauma over over time because we're not processing these feelings that we're going through our brain shuts it off we put it away and then it comes up as trauma when you're older but he's like if if we really learn how to sit with those feelings and let our body process them and just go through the motion he's like you'd be surprised how quickly that gets eliminated from your life and I'm like damn I wish I had known that sooner that's such great advice