Finding Purpose After High School...

you just graduated and you got your diploma you're at home you're laying in bed and you know you're partying you're having a good time you're with friends yada yada yada days go by probably like a week or two and one night you're laying in bed and you're just thinking to yourself postgraduation what now I graduated high school about a year ago from now one of the most important things you can do right after high school is to understand completely completely who you are as a person I'm talking about your fears your desires your weaknesses your strengths your body your mind your self- sabotaging I mean your coping mechanisms the reason I'm saying this is because I wasn't able to work towards that person who I desire to be without knowing exactly who I am right now you know it's almost like an artist trying to sculpt a statue from Marble with a blindfold on you know I mean it could be completely possible don't get me wrong but the analogy I'm trying to make of it is that you need to figure out where your starting point is at another thing I want to talk about when chasing your desires your dreams your goals is to stop caring what other people think you've heard the quotes the grass is grenard wherever you water it you've heard the cliche say and all those things but truthfully truthfully they are not only correct but when you start caring more about yourself and less what other people start thinking that's when you're able to really feel free you know feel free from people's judgments um opinions thoughts whatever you want to call it because you know exactly what you need to do you know exactly what you want and you know exactly how to get it it's just sometimes we get in this in this mindset in this Loop where oh what if what if they think this what if it doesn't go right what if it sucks what if if I fail and you know one thing I do want to say when it comes to you thinking about what other people think about you and a lot of those things is that it's better to be alone and work on yourself than to be surrounded by Bad Company you know and I mean everyone feels this everybody feels this After High School where your friends are off going to like another States you're taking a gap here or you start working and you know you feel completely lonely and if I'm being honest one it's completely normal and two you're going to be just okay everyone changes after high school everyone in their old ways bad good whatever you want to take it as but more importantly when you start working on yourself you're going to lose a lot of friends a lot of friends you used to hang out with a lot of people you knew you're going to start getting some distance from some people and that's completely okay you know because it works out in your favor for the best one thing you should know is that right after high school I took a gap year and for the longest time I felt completely lonely and it wasn't until a good friend of mine told me this which was to just go out there show up and get out of your bubble about a month ago I started taking these dance classes and I was completely new I was completely intimidated because everyone there was amazing and I was was new you know but after some time I got into this groove I I started feeling more confident in myself and if it wasn't for that chance that I took I would have never learned that I love to dance completely you know another thing I want to bring out is to just talk to people talk to strangers talk to people around and like I said just put yourself out there I graduated high school and immediately I went into real estate school um you know I showed up I passed my classes like flying colors which is crazy because in school in high school I mean I would get seized barely passing I was a student to always stay after school I was a student to show up on the weekends for the test that I failed like months ago I think they even try to offer me like a a Spanish version even though English is my strongest language which is like hilarious to me I was in real estate school specifically and I loved it I loved it completely in the middle of the months of taking my classes I went downtown to a real estate convention with my mom and I showed up no license yet still working like minimum wage job fresh out of high school but I had this this flame of desire in my head to just just be financially free you know and I was scared completely I was in a room with six figure plus people who had all their stuff together who had companies and all these things set out and I felt like I was a nobody and the problem with that wasn't that other people were limiting me but I was limiting myself I'm in that real estate event and you know I'm talking to a few people breaking some ice cracking a few jokes and most of the time being on my phone on the weather app calculator and no I'm just kidding I'm just kidding I come across this group of four that I have yet to talk to and it was a wholesaler an assistant an investor and a guy named Connor so I'm thinking to myself before I even talk to them man like I see their washes I see their clothes I see the shoes I'm like n this is this isn't for me you know I I don't belong in that group you know I just felt small another guy that I met was looking at me and he was like what's wrong Jacob I'm like oh man I don't know I'm much a little bit scared blah blah blah excuses excuses excuses and you know just terrified you know just just being 18 and don't know what to say don't know what to do and I didn't feel like I had something to show up for I'm about to I'm about to step in I'm about to step in and and talk to them and before I can step back the guy gently pushes me towards them and I start talking and Connor turns around and he's a broker who works in apartment locating you know managing his agents as well as other real estate projects and extremely well for himself and he's crazy enough 26 and I was at I was 18 at the time and you know we're talking we're we're learning about each other he started at 18 to and you know I'm just thinking to myself how can I how can I be like this guy you know it was almost like I saw into the future and he saw into the past which is crazy to think about after talking for a while he said Jacob when you pass your real estate test give me a call and you know I go back to class you know I'm doing my homework passing my certifications and I take the test and about a week after that I started working alongside him filling mid and high-rise Apartments all across Houston you ask me you ask me the beginning of senior year what are you going to do for the rest of your life I would have told you be a millionaire or something crazy like that you know the problem with that was when I was focused on the result I felt lost completely and it wasn't until I started falling in love with the process that the results start just bringing themselves to me and you know when you start something new you have to understand that you're going to be bad at it when you start if you gave up every time you're bad at it you'll never start anything so don't worry about getting it right the first time worrying about getting it done whether it's going to the gym for the first time taking a dance class learning an instrument talking to people especially that um don't get discouraged you have no idea the potential that you have within yourself because you haven't taken a chance on a lot of things yet one thing you want to learn is to just take those steps every day even if it's just a little bit because those steps will accumulate more and more and faster and faster than you think and before you know it you are going to be in bed thinking to yourself how far you've come and just asking in a new position a new body and a new mind what now and that's when you decide and if I could say one more thing it would be to take care of your health whether it's going to the gym doing a sport dancing take care of your wealth learn how to handle finances and take care of your mindset other than that I greatly appreciate you watching this whole video my social medias are in the description if you have any questions let me know especially about other video ideas because I don't know I'm stuck between learning how to pass your real estate exam and some other stuff but just let me know and um I'll see you soon