We are all broken-hearted for the 6 families who had their hearts shattered today.

hey good day everybody although it hasn't been such a great day today I'm doing this video on the 1st of September it's the middle of the day and basically like many people whove reached out to me and that I've seen throughout my day as I've been going along is many of us are just really feeling incredibly incredibly sad as we've woken up here in Israel to the news about hirsh and and the five other Kim the five other hostages who've been killed and it's a really really raw and painful morning and many of us are really struggling with concentration and being able to be present emotionally for ourself and for others and so I thought I'd make this video to kind of show you how I process my emotions when I experience a deep deep sadness and deep loss and deep feelings of discombobulation really so I kind of wanted to just walk you through this process and I'm hoping that I'll actually feel better as as I do these exercises and I'm hoping that you'll be able to feel a little bit better as you do these exercises with me as well so first of all what I do is I sort of get myself grounded and I'm sitting in a chair that doesn't move too much but your hearing on the ground is I've got this little stool for my feet cuz I'm short those of you who know me I'm a little short person so my feet don't always reach the ground fully so I'm sitting and I'm sitting right now I've got my back supported in fact I'm going to grab a pillow off my couch and pop that behind me to give me some extra support and I'm just trying to connect with my breathing and I'm just trying to get grounded I'm trying to feel my body supported by the chair and kind of letting my legs go not holding my body as I was a moment ago I noticed that I'm sort of clenching my thighs and and everything was just kind of being held which is a very common thing for us to do when we're in some sort of traumatic feeling mode and what I'm trying to do is I'm trying to soften my body I'm just trying to connect with my breath and I'm trying to just soften everything down and that's what we really need when we're feeling when we're in a lot of pain and we're feeling traumatized and we're feeling deep deep grief and sadness as we just need a lot of softness and sometimes we can't receive it from outside of ourselves we need to sort of learn how to give it to ourselves first and so I'm just trying to find and some positive or soft gentle feelings inside of my body so a moment ago I was feeling this deep clenched feeling and right now as I try to take some deeper breaths I'm trying to find some soft places inside my body and for those of you who might be having a hard time doing that what I'd like to invite you to do is just kind of make two eles with your hands pop one right on your chest underneath your clavicle and pop one in your stomach and what we're going to do is we're going to take two breaths in and then let two breaths go out or three breaths go out rather so in for two out for three we're going to it goes like this and out for three so as you can see them holding at the top in for two and out for three and one more time and out for three now you just want to let your breath go and you just want to allow the breath to completely envelop your body find all those crevices inside of your body that were feeling a lot of pain a moment ago and try to allow yourself to fill those places up with your breath cuz all of us I know are feeling a deep amount of pain now we don't want to rush the healing process you might not be ready to do these exercises because you might still need some time to kind of process your feelings I've spent the entire morning um journaling about my feelings crying sharing my feelings with my husband talking to a friends so I've been like processing my brains out this morning my eyes are incredibly dry I just put some drops in my eyes so if you're seeing them a little bit wet it's because I just put some drops in my eyes they were feeling really grainy and Sandy up until now and um yeah so I'm now feeling like I'm at a point where I'm like ready to move these feelings on so I could sort of carry on with my day I'm going to be going to a funeral shortly so I just want to make sure that I'm in a good space to kind of be there and be present for people around me and so right now I'm just trying to build What's called the healing Vortex trying to find some positive places inside of me and I'm just trying to take a lot of of time to feel the oxygen to feel the breath go into my body and right now I've located a few spaces inside of me we're looking for at least three so I'm feeling a lot more breath going through my chest area my arms are feeling a little lot more strengthened my legs are feeling a lot more strengthened I'm still feeling a lot a lot of pain in my shoulder blades so what I want to do is I want to try to discharge and release the pain that's in my shoulder blades and so and I know what the pain is about I know it's about grief and loss and feelings of uh helplessness right complete helplessness about the situation and feeling like there was so much hope well there was some hope up until now and the fact that we've lost these you know six beautiful n shat it's so so so painful and so so raw and so I just want to try to gently gently release that pain from my upper shoulder area so I want to do is I want to go into that pain and I'm going to do some you know gentle butterfly tapping and I want to notice the pain and I want to just gently release it and I'm noticing some tears go down my cheeks as I'm doing this I'm noticing my breath I'm not forcing it I'm just letting it come up naturally as I'm doing this I'm noticing the changes in the pain in my upper shoulder blades I'm noticing the pain slowly clear and I'm going to do this about 10 more times and now I'm just allowing my body to be still and to notice what's happened so not now I've noticed a little bit of a shift like the pain is leaving my shoulders and now it's traveling up my the back of my neck both sides of my neck so I'm kind of giving myself a little bit of a a neck rub and I'm just allowing my body to do what it needs to just kind of doing a little stretch CU I feel like I need to help move the pain along okay and now I'm noticing this headache sort of form in my forehead so there's like this sort of throbbing pain right here and so what I'm going to do I'm going to try to do the diamond exercise I could do this exercise but I'm going to show you another exercise for those of you who maybe don't connect with that so well so what you do is you make this diamond with your hand so it maintains contact with all your face fingers and you drop that into your lap and you take the tip of your tongue and you put it in the roof of your mouth and you focus on the pain while you're also doing this and it really helps a lot of oxygen get into your body so you're letting the oxygen go through your body and you're letting it out so I'm really connecting the oxygen going into my body and I'm noticing slowly slowly the pain is leaving my body and I'm just inviting the absence of pain I'm feeling a little bit of pain still here in my the base of my neck and I'm just trying to rub on it a little bit trying to sort of get the knot out and you might be feeling pain in all sorts of places you might be feeling it in your stomach you might be feeling it in your chest and you just want to really try to breathe into that pain and just notice what the pain is about allow yourself to connect with what's going on with what the pain is trying to tell you what the pain is trying to inform you we don't want to push it out of your body because you don't want to move through the pain too quickly but you want to just try to understand it accept it allow it to be there and then once you've done all of that you want to invite it to leave your body right we don't want to push things out too quickly because we don't we don't want to move through this we don't want to move through this grief process too fast right because if we move too fast and we don't actually process it we might find that it bites Us in the bum later then we find that we're incapacitated later we might find we're more dissociated later we might find it really actually difficult to concentrate right so you don't want to move through things too quickly you want to just kind of allow your feelings to be be there to process your feelings and to allow them to gently leave your body and so that's really what I'm doing and I want to invite all of you to do the same and I want to invite any of you who've got who had similar experiences to me to drop your comments in the in the box below if you're watching this on YouTube and you know feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions if you have any other interesting symptoms that you're not too sure about they might be from this they might be reminding you of other experiences that you've had around sudden grief and loss or even just any sort of grief or anything that you've had a difficult time of letting go with so yeah so I'm just wishing everyone a lot of softness around this time and just really the ability to hold yourself and um to really grieve well we all really need to just take the time to grieve well so that we can really be there to to be there for the good times and to celebrate the good things and this whole period in our lives it's it's like this big fat roller coaster that we're on and it's it's enormous and it's painful and and I really really hope and pray that that we find a solution for this for this thing that we're in really really soon and may we all really heal together