Bathrobe Moments With Dr. Loren Michael Harris

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to dream now this P3 program is not for a person who's just looking to start a business no but rather for those of you out there who have been on your journey and you've been navigating within your Divine Purpose but you still desire to elevate to that level that you have not reached yet if this is appealing if this describes you then I want to have a chat with you I want to hear your story so use the link below to get registered for your free seat at P3 the journey series and let's get started one story at a time I'll see you inside click the link [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] show me me your soul baby I'll show you mine show me your soul honey it's way past time how expensive do I have to be then I spell it out before you get it baby show me your soul and honey I'll show you I'll show you mine I'll show you mine woo boy I'm standing right here holding up a sign shamelessly displaying my state of mind but you walk right past me pretending like you don't see what's yours for the take inight I was reading something over there hold on yeah uh I play a little game all the time where I do it with the microwave where I'll put something in the microwave for two minutes then I'll see how many uh chores I can get done while I'm waiting for that thing to in two minutes like I wonder if I can go to the bathroom run out and take the recycling to the thing maybe hit the mailbox on the way back and get back before the Bell dings on the thing so anyway I was trying to do a bunch of stuff before it opened up and I was just a fraction off so anyway I'm so glad we're here together yes hallelu hallelu hallelu hallelu yeah it's a great day you guys listen celebrate by being grateful than who whatever it is you believe is greater than you for keeping you here and giving you another chance to ease some suffering in the world right because when you ease somebody else's suffering you GNA get a little of your own ease at the same time can I get an amen I'll kick it off I ain't scared there it is there it is listen welcome to the Thursday Edition I'm Dr Lauren and I'm being silly today I'm feeling good I got up every day at four o'clock this week and got to the health club on time and I didn't uh cut anything off I added some new routines got back on the treadmill today gonna do 90 straight days of that because I got some events coming up real quick that takes me to the announcement section listen if you are in the alony New York area I want to see you on Sunday uh September 8th I'll be there for the 2024 New York State charm uh uh conference so I'll be keynoting there if you want more information DM us look on my page Lauren Michels harris.com and then uh my heart fourth year I'll be there and that is on the 12th through the 15th in Kansas City here I come that's right for the becoming the better you conference four days and it is just one of my most favorite ones I do a lot of the same ones every year but this one this one is my favorite seriously it really is thank you Brenda Ringwood and Terence leich for uh this wonderful wonderful opportunity more information coming soon about that we got the graphics yesterday and we'll be starting to promote those uh events both on Monday show so we'll see you there today uh you know it's it's it's especially during an election year but all the time it's always a challenge the atmosphere for not entrepreneurs young business owners old business owners people entering new markets you name it um you can never get too much good information but that's where it gets dicey not every place you look do you find good information well today's not that day today you're going to get some great information with our guests uh any kind of solution you're looking for get ready you just might leave with it today Brenda the solutionist is here and I'm just going to get her in here because like my nephews always say I can show you better than I can tell you so let me show you she's coming down the hall right now Brenda the solutionist on the [Music] way how you doing Brenda I'm doing fine Dr Lauren how are you good you're in North Carolina yes sir I'm in North car I'm in Goldsboro North Carolina right outside of Raleigh about 45 minutes from have you been were you born and raised there no sir I was born and raised in Wilmington Delaware well born in Chester but raised in Wilmington Delaware Delaware yes sir put that right there with the name Susan you hardly ever run to a black girl named Susan and I rarely I don't think I've ever run to a black from Delaware so there ADHD y'all I don't know where that came from but Delaware what's the capital of will no Dover Dover yes sir I thought why I thought do was in Mississippi DOA Mississippi probably is one there right so really though seriously Delaware now what's Delaware famous for gota be something I don't know you know what that answer you always say there's black people there that's always the question I get yeah you know I'm just saying it's R I don't know if I've ever met anyone from Delaware no sir how many people live there I don't even know now it's been so long since I've been home I haven't been back home since I left two days after graduate from high school uh I left in 1980 so it's been a very long time since I've been and that was it I'm gone bye Brenda I I'll write you right pretty much pretty much so Brenda I like to dip out um because you know everybody knows around what time we really get popping up in here so they're starting to come in why don't I dip out for about 60 seconds and that'll give you a chance to have the stage to yourself start the creative Vibe with the audience you know fill in between the lines and uh just pour from your heart and um and then we're gonna come back and we're gonna start with this piece that I heard a rumor I put it on the graphic that you're also Minister Brenda so we gonna start that uh take it away take 60 seconds pouring into the folks won't you and I'll be right back all you I'm excited to have this opportunity to just encourage each and every one of you to embrace the Harmony in your life one of the things I do is teach people how to not just survive but to thrive because it's important that we pursue our passions and take risks to just enjoy our life so that we can live our best lives now often times so many of us are caught up in the hustle and bustle of the day that we forget to take time to self-care and to get clear on what works for us stop trying to follow the crowd I wrote an article just the other day on LinkedIn that talked about stop waiting on them and what are you waiting on you're waiting to take huge empowered uh movements and too many times we're just sitting back waiting for somebody else to do it for us when we need to do it for ourselves oh I had to ring the bell on that for y' all that have never been here first of all where in the world have you been well you're here now and that's the bell of purpose I ring it Brenda um on purpose every time some truth is out there because you guys know yeah just like that Bell you guess it the truth has a ring to it I want to remind you that at every chance every corner so um wow beautifully said you you that should float off your tongue like honey I'm not kidding so I know you mean it mean what you say and you say what you mean so tell us you why do I get the you would have been good in the military I did 20 years in the Marine Corps I knew it I knew it I knew it I knew it I'm like wait a minute here I see what's going on she she coming at us like she yeah you done had some stripes on them Mars right oh okay well thank you for your service I wait I got to get the flag out that's a double ringer as a fellow veteran Air Force you're a Marines wait did you say Marines yes sir Marines oh hell no bye Brenda I'm sorry I I'm just kidding I'm just I'm just I I love doing that when there's another service brand I get it yeah thank you thank you thank you so listen so do you feel that's where you picked up the rudiments of your business mind and the way you do things because I'm just gonna say I have a lot of friends that are prior military that are entrepreneurs and I one thing I love about my military and postmilitary um entrepreneur families are that is that when I work with those anybody with the military history you don't have to worry about all their stuff's going to be all the te's will be crossed all the eyes are going to be dotted and so did did you get a foundation from there did you already have it maybe you were a kid who had a lemonade stand how' you find what you give away today I am absolutely proud to say I got it from my mama wait oh I know think I knew that on my playlist by the way um right Megan Stallion and her yeah yeah so you the thing is my I come from a long line of entrepreneurs you know being people of color you had to make your own way because people weren't gonna give it to you so I knew from a very young age that if I was going to survive in a family I was in I had to have a business I had my first legal licensed business at the age of nine it was I knew it that's that's why that's to for two y'all by the way military and I threw that thing out there by the kid in eliminate stand I can tell now let me tell you this real quick why that is such a beautiful thing Brenda the solution it means that it's very easy to see you because there's all those pieces are still there okay so okay so you started and what was your business when you were a kid it was Brenda's candy store always like Brenda the solutionist now I just use my first name and um everybody my nickname was candy because they knew if you came near me I was gon to have some candy in my pocket it was like flashing like the thing you want some now lers you want some SweeTarts baby I had it all hanging on my I already know I already know about you candy girls seriously I got beat up I got beat up in third grade by Marquita the candy girl because I didn't have her nickel right she was the enforcer the she was all of it right it be just a sweet after she hit you you know I can give you some credit now I had T I did I had kids had a tab I had a little notebook get and stuff on credit but if you didn't pay it on time you had to pay double if you didn't pay on time so I was lone sharking long before I knew what that was oh my goodness oh my goodness and it's either gonna be a candy person or freeze cup lady in your neighborhood I had that too I had the candy and I had the uh the Little Dixie cups with the co and Cherry Kool-Aid was my number one bestseller lemon was next and then grape I still remember because them kids oh my goodness three for three I said freeze cup too y'all don't play with me quit quit y'all cookies wow okay okay so it I can already tell that a lot of why you're so successful today and help others to find some of that success for themselves is that you have not lost the joy no that it's always been I had a bake sale company when I was not and I was a shack distributor at 10 okay falsified my age yeah had that right sure did and that's and the two went together I put my little nieces that would come for the summer uh um as the Salesforce dress them up put all them little borets in their hair and let them go with the samples that I baked with the spices from shackley and so the housewives would go oh what's in that muffin that's and I pop out GL ass right and so but a lot of those things those rudiments are with me today my little ADHD ass was on fire then and it's still on fire so let me let me let me ask you this did you were you ever in a position because a lot of us have it when we start but something we let something just go and put our Wick of Brilliance out along the way did you ever find yourself like wait a minute and I don't count the military because I know that's a family but a regular job did you ever try that and just knew it wasn't for you oh every one of them you know even in the military I had businesses I had businesses my entire military career to the point that uh I got investigated by uh the NIS because they thought I was selling drugs I was making so much money but I was just doing fashion shows selling Tupperware princess house you name it I was selling it because I could not help myself I'm a entrepreneur and um I was living on millionaires row and nobody could understand how that was even possible as a military person but I had discovered that I did not have to be limited I loved being in the military but I didn't have to be limited by that wow and I'm GNA tell you I'm totally shocked that you are saying you do all these things did all these things because you seem so shy and reserved not right so let's talk about that now the solutionist part that's a pretty bold statement because I mean you know that the payoff and promise deal is in effect when you say I say so you can solve anything you know so how do people come to you how do they step to you Brenda um okay is it like here's the since I was a child grown folks used to stop me and just tell me their whole business and stuff Grandma said I had the gift I was born with a veil over my eyes and she would tell me that I never understood why people would just walk up to me and tell me their most deep darkest Intimate Secrets I mean grown folks and so I learned very early that when people uh felt that draw to do that that that was a conversation I was only supposed to have between me them and God so I learned very early the importance of keeping it inside and only having a little talk with Jesus in the closet people really do tell me and I mean really tell me they do yes sir they just I just can't see I don't think that would ever happen with me actually when I was 17 I was at church and I didn't had no gas money I pretended like I put a 20 in the plate and took a 20 out and wouldn't got gas oh my god I've never told anyone that in my whole life I'm kidding I'm kid I kind of ain't kidding is he so no but I get it so how do so when people come to you give us an example of somebody that has come to you and said I I just can't come up with a solution Brenda can you help me what was it that came out of their mouth and what did you do oh you know one of my favorite ones is a young lady who during the pandemic she uh her business like many of them stopped because she did a European tours she did what she did European tours she created packages to help people go to Europe and she had oh like travel okay right travel she had a dream of building her own Villa but now her money was tied up so I simply sat with her and we discussed what she really enjoyed doing and I've allowed her to help people call it to to build the dream the pandemic Ain't Gonna Last always baby so how do we get this to your advantage and let people pay you now uh basically on credit so what we did was created an opportunity for her to buy land or buy buildings over in Europe because that's a big thing now you can buy the buildings and fix them up and you get them for like next to nothing so we created a destination DIY destination people will get to travel Europe and have a place to stay and how they get to do that is they will pay her to help her build her chatel so you get to go to Europe the shat is where they get to stay when they go to Europe yes sir they're like part owner in the inovation right so they get to get their name on a plaque that they help build this place they get certain things to come back at a time and people were all for it because they wanted to go but often it was too expensive but here's was the twofold thing she got her Chateau build at a reduced rate they had to prove they had carpentry electon or skill she needed for the time and as this was going on people were doing it and it's it's been something that really worked for her wow to think outside the box don't look at what's normal I don't care what it is if you tell me what you want to do we how do it right right so okay so listen to this it messed me up when I heard it but it makes perfect sense um I got to get it right see people like us we make our financial we reach our Financial Freedom we make our Fortune uh through creativity now a lot of people make their Fortune through competition and there's a difference right they don't live as long their quality of life is not there they they they they their uh Sacred Circle is diminished over and over and over you know I mean they they they sacrifice things that you can feel just for things that you can touch another house another car another Trophy Wife take your pick you know and then they don't they don't develop anything that makes you feel and so what do you think it is that allows you to have this Lane where people come to you for a solution why is it they're getting stuck what is it they can't see around or over so that they can get moving on their own perhaps I think often times people just get caught up with their own limiting beliefs because they're listening to everybody but their own self I ask people to trust their gut and I don't care what it is you want to do all you have to do is make a definite decision that that's what you're gonna do and no demon in hell can stop you the only thing that stop you is you you mean that I can tell and here's the thing I got that Philosophy from our track coach actually and this is how I got it about nothing can stop me but me I I've always been tall and in high I'm 5 foot n and a half now but in high school I think I was like 5'7 and I grew the other two and a half inches in the Marine Corps I remember that but anyway I had long legs I always got more legs than anything and I would get in these little races I did not like to run but I get into races and I would lose every time because I'm so busy looking at what everybody else is doing and my coach said you know with them long legs you should be beating everybody if you would simply run your own race and understand the only person you're competing against is you right probably win then the next time we got out there I only looked to the left and the right when I first got there the second time I went I didn't never look again because I realized they didn't count the only competition I had was with me for doing my best so when I began to do that I blew them girls out the water that point on I never have to compete with anyone I'm a competitional one so I'm trying to best myself always what everybody else does baby that's you that's you that's exactly right the only thing I can say legitimately there's only one thing we're all in competition with and that is time because time GNA catch that ass for every single one of us and so you know and seriously let me tell you why that's so important it took me I was probably I think right at 50 because I always remember I woke up during my colonoscopy you know they make you get that I saw scope inside of my body I was like oh I better do better you know what I'm saying so everything kind of fell in line but I'm going to tell you something the thing is that's when I had realized that what you said not listening to myself listening to everything and all these other things things that did not serve me I had been saying all those years what was stopping me was my Mantra was what did I do to deserve this what did I do to deserve this and then all of a sudden it turned into uh oh what must I do to preserve this I'm trying to stay here that's why today you know I'm 62 but I'm they said Woo You Young I know because I'm trying to be the black male Betty White that's what I'm trying you I'll be 62 in December okay that's twice in one day um bye she she how she just gonna keep up staging some body now she knows goodness well she could have kept that to herself I'm just playing I'm sorry I was a little sensitive why you look great Brenda the grace of God you know I I that I don't look like what I've been through woo can you imagine if we looked like what we went through I be looking like I've been Road hard and put up wet but I thank God you I can't even tell you what I look like oh we jeans in the grace of God yes yes so let me ask you this do you feel that people because you were doing this well before covid right okay oh no no no no this right here I was not doing none of this before covid the solution is part no sir oh see here's my backstory see what happened was what was happened was was in 2011 I got D I got diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder and military sexual trauma and I was so ashamed and felt guilty about it that I just lived in the shame and the guilt of it for several years until I had a complete and I do mean complete mental breakdown wait wait because I don't know what a partial half whole what when you say complete um I was Noto Dr Lauren I could not like acute depression yes I haddal ideologies suicidal all that yes sir I had to come off my sixf figure job and uh go home and I sat on the couch for eight years and one day I was like God there's got to be more to life than this how you just gonna throw that out there like it was like a couple weeks what you talking about eight years eight years eight years you sat on the couch don't tell me you was in a ain't no wings on my back you a house years I look I was having my bathro moments on a regular day so you didn't get up and go do anything [ __ ] no I here's the thing I was still doing stuff for other folks but not doing nothing for me I was still ministering but I was doing it from my home I wouldn't go anywhere I wouldn't do anything unless I absolutely you don't think you were depressed were you depressed oh I was I was clinically depressed yes and just all up in people's stuff just as depressed as you want to be yes the Pres here's the thing and I say say your gifts will make room for you and they they without repentance see your gifts don't go away just because you a little CUO Cacho for a time that's the thing people couldn't understand how does she operate at this level I said that is God see it's not about me this body this thing that we get all caught up in this don't stop God's purpose on your life you may get delay is not denial though but you're still going to be able to do how many people do we functioning alcoholics functioning ministers if if we only understood the power of the God in us we would functioning alcoholics hi cousin Wanita sorry but you know and the thing is while I was sitting there I'm literally would be doing this here and then be because and nobody knew I was drowning in plain sight Dr Lauren and nobody knew or cared why because she going through a facee and remember I'm black you might not notice that and they would say you don't need couns but see for me right now I need Jesus and some medication so and when I got to the point where I understood that I got off the couch and I started walking in my driveway and having a little talk with Jesus and people on Facebook no that's right I was coming out of this I did this thing called tell yourself Tuesday where I would ask people to tell theel something good but here was the thing I had I still was not done yet I hadn't hit my rock bottom rock bottom and till July 26 at 3:30 in the afternoon I mean you got actually you again you hit it again I'm not joking you hit that I hit that Rock Bottom I had to make the call to the crisis hotline with a bottle of pills a guy named David talked to me for four hours and convinced me to find something to do the very next day Dr Lauren God is my witness I got up I was walking in the driveway this thing said be on TV challenge uh be seen I didn't want to be seen and I didn't want to be on TV okay I know that's right but I had made a promise and I keep my word so I went to this event I did not comb my hair and I sat like this and this little bubbly white girl got on the screen talking about I could live my best life now I wanted to kill that girl I wanted to beat her do you know the life I'm living lady talk about I can live my best life yeah but by the end of that day she had convinced me I was a badass because she asked me to do the badass moment said write down every time in your life you ever like he was a badass but it didn't stop there I then had to get online on Facebook Instagram or somewhere and tell people what I wrote Dr Lauren when I tell you it changed my life because I did what she asked me to do and by the end of that day and by the end of that talk I believed what that lady told me and I began to tap in to what she was telling me about tapping into myself and so when I did that it changed my life so drastically that I wrote a book about tapping in I created my own seven step plan on how to get past your stuck points when people close the gap between their designes and the reality I got my own TV show see good you see that wait you see how she brought that in that was good I see that's good that's good you go ahead there go my my my competition thing kicked in because they had this thing it said Grand Prize winner at the end of this event this lady was in I took a sticker and said Brenda Warren Grand Prize winner and stuck it up in front of my computer so every day for that fed day challenge I was saying God I thank you I'm the grand prize winner on the be on TV challenge okay end of the week they spent the wheel and they called somebody else's name I was not I said no no but you had to be there to win she wasn't there so I said that was just a test of my faith system y'all spin that wheel again because it's gonna say Brenda Warr the wheel spent Brenda Warren Grand Prize winner of the be on TV challenge when I tell you that started the solution is on the path but here's the thing when that wheel spent by that time I had gotten all these DMS from the people that had saw my live about being a badass but there was one the lady said we don't have much in common I'm a white woman from Iowa I've been watching you walk in the driveway as you trying to lose your 100 pounds and talk about tell yourself Tuesday and do all this stuff I'm glad you didn't take those pills because of you I get up and take care of my other four kids I hadn't done that in months because my 14-year-old committed suicide a just a trigger warning but forgive me y'all in January but because of you I'm now taking care of my family you are the voice for the voiceless don't give up so I start calling myself the voice for the voiceless but what was happening with was people were saying no that's you are the voice of the voices but you touch my soul and they begin to tell me so someone says you know you're just a solutionist I said what oh myself the oh clever clever clever clever girl all that stuff was happening and as watching in succession and I began to walk and I would say I'm fit Fierce and Fabulous while I'm 100 pounds overweight I Dro 65 pounds begin to get outside of my comfort zone I begin to go out of my home I begin to speak on stages and talk to people all over the world and now from 2020 to now I'm now a three-time best-selling author I have now teach people all around the world how to tap in to live their best life now no opportunity wasted see I also have a publishing company and all of this was built out of all the stuff because see while I was sitting on that couch for eight years God was working on me that's the thing I say that wasn't Wasted Years I thought it was but what I saw was God was building because it's like the bamboo tree you ever notice people watch bamboo trees grow you put that seed in the ground and people are waiting for it to go five years Canna go by and nothing happens but then when you get that little Sprout six weeks later it sprouts up because see during that five years it was building the roots that it needed to sustain the height that which it would grow so I know what God was doing for me in them eight years as I was min the people in spite of my pain while I was reading my Bible and doing the things I do he was putting the roots in so that when I get to this day when I get here to talk to Dr lawen I am prepared to reach the Heights I'm going to and I'm taking folks with me I ain't doing by myself if I could speak in tongues I'd have to say h I'm not kidding I have to I'm just saying that was a lot and I just I'm sitting here and I'm and and let's go back to that eight-year thing because you know I feel it that uh either now someone listening or someone who's going to be listening has just stepped inside something that could turn into eight years now a lot of us go eight years girl what in the world what is wrong with you you just completely lost your all them things but when you what it's just like when I don't go to the gym for two days now one day I can justify I need recovery da d d da no big deal I'll make it up on the weekend or whatever but then when it's tur into three days in a row then four days that's like people who quit school and say I'm to take a semester off you know how that usually turn out they'll never go back right so what I'm saying is a person gets in they think it's just something small next thing you know it's two weeks two weeks turned into two months then two months turn into two years so it let's talk about that it didn't seem like eight years I'm sure right what what where where were you I mean how what about the people closest to you didn't anybody say girl look at that couch you don't wore saggy thing in it your ass ain't got up off that couch no you know why because people were still pulling from my gift Dr getting what they need they don't care about what you need they don't care thank you there it is need people would wait did it kind of go like this did it kind of go like this Brenda girl when the last time you ate you ain't even combed your head you sure you all right yeah I'm all right okay when can I get that work done did you say I had up Thursday absolutely that's it absolutely how did that make you feel when you came out of it would some of those other people were they like oh girl oh I've been praying for you I'm so glad you did you have to cut some of those people what happened when you found yourself coming back how did your world change my world changed so drastically Dr I'm so glad you asked that because when I finally came out of the fog I let go of all and I do mean all of the emotional spiritual physical financial and just mind draining vampires in my life ooo it was like time to to let it go I am the queen of Let it go now I don't hesitate to let go of anything that doesn't serve or anyone that doesn't serve me that's the title of my album Let It Go for real for real and they renamed that joint it had already had another name for a different song and then that song got written and they changed it the the label did not listen you have five steps for transformation I heard yes sir can you share some of that with us you know when I began to work on my own self and that even that was nothing but God as I look at it now because it was a homework assignment it was not intended to be seen by anybody but my PE but my uh instructors and I put it on Amazon because that was part of the assignment my book went to number one bestseller and I didn't know it for a year people were all around the world were tapping in and I did not know so when I found out I answered the questions and then released it again and it became a bestseller again uh because people were using it but here's the thing to tap in is five letters tap t a p i n you start with a t that's where you work on mindset you transform your mindset because if you don't believe it you can't achieve it I mean the man who says I can't and the man who says I can are both telling the truth because it's about behavior of belief so in the T area we work all about mindset it's an intensive once we start to work on your mindset then we move into the a that's where you're going to do two things you're going to make an announcement and you're going to get some accountability I need you to make a definite decision that you are clear about your desired outcome and then you're going to get some accountability around that so that you can move forward to the next step which is p that's where we prepare for that result you said you want it because although you started to change your mindset and although you've got some accountability announcement now you got to take some action baby because to prepare to say I'm GNA lose weight you better get some running shoes if that's what you plan on doing workout gear or at least have a schedule for how you're going to do some things so in the preparation phase when we clarify and we start setting our goals and um getting clear on what we want but I just want to butt in there because this and I agree all the way up I do and I just want to say to people out there at this point where and Brenda you're absolutely 1,00% correct when you prepare for the result this is where you start the shift from being surprised about every dog on thing and you start you start moving to a place of continual expectance see blessings increase um um abundance they don't have to be visitors where you ring they ring the doorbell and you open up oh oh girl what you doing here abundance I ain't did nothing with my hair because if you surprise when something come it means you don't know what you gonna do with it so that's that prepare part that's true because when you expected oh what blessing come on in I've been expecting you now you know I knew when you got here what I was going to do with you go and take them shoes off we got work to do you see what I'm saying blessing and abundance and those things they don't visit me anymore the only time I open the door for them is when they forget their keys because they live here they live here and that's a big piece to prepare for the result that is where you stand on your faith faith ain't a thing y'all it's a place that's a place it's a place so go ahead okay take us into I Oh but before we go to I you got preparation phase is where people usually don't like me because this is where I hurt people's feelings because see I've had people say to me uh I want to lose weight or like a lady says I want to get pregnant and I say no you don't and you know when you tell a woman that's had several miscarriages that she don't want to get pregnant she get mad at you but I say no you don't want to get pregnant and and I let them go through the emotions of all of that I said because you already know you can get pregnant what you want to do is you want to maintain a pregnancy to a healthy birth of a child see and so I want them to get clear about what they really want right so we got to have that conversation and sometimes the preparation phase is painful because see I can talk about losing what I've lost weight back and forth I'm a yoyo Dieter I can lose weight what I had not been able to do was maintain weight loss pration you got to get clear on that and and get some feelings up in there and then we move into the imagination because now you clear I want to lose five pounds and maintain a healthy weight or I want to have a child birthed all the way out and so that I can have a child I can love alive and and thrilled and all the other stuff happy and healthy Health now we get into the imagination face now I want you to imagine what I want them to visualize what would your life be like if you actually sustain mate loss if you actually birthed a live child if you actually got out of debt and became financially free if you actually stop worrying about what other people think if you actually stop waiting on them what would your life look like I need you to see that because that's going to Anchor you when times get tough so that you can actually get the results that you desire and then in the end phase that's where you coasted now because now you're nurturing all the stuff you've been up there so that in the nurturing phase is where we're going to do our final Trip s we're going to build some strategies some structures some systems to make sure you can actually maintain the results that you worked on putting in place during the whole taping phase beautiful and after that I see why you Minister Brenda uh I know why and listen um could the youth choir please move into place for your a andb selection and um we'll be taking up the offering here in just a moment yeah no but that's true um and the reason I'm not joking I'm telling you I get it um it's nice to see that you have a business but you still you do have a Ministry um right along with it and more of us need to look at it that way so I want how we doing on time y'all okay okay uh so how do people find you and who would you say is your ideal client what do they look like my client are entrepreneurs and small business owners that are and overwhelmed they have not found a trusted source for business information they've already paid for the $3,000 $100,000 Mastermind they still broke I call them popular but not paid and so when they work with me I'm able to help them to move past the illusion of wealth and actually help them move into wealth too too many Pretenders out there yes yes and I want to say this it just because if I ain't calling nobody out but if you don't do it then this shouldn't even um matter to you so there it is but there are a lot of so-called experts holding all these um um Retreats and stuff um millionaire mindset Retreat this that other and I literally seen some of those people that were up on stage on Sunday you get back to your city and get on a call with them on Tuesday and all they stuff in the car because they homeless absolutely seriously and they just and I'm telling you and people paying all this money and the thing is they taking your money just so they can try to get out of debt for something and so let's talk about this let's talk about um Instinct intuition Insight all those things that are internal that allow us to understand I know I'm desperate and all but some just don't sound right because how many times Brenda have people you worked with told you you know some told me that wasn't the thing to do if I just listen to my first mind first mind is directly connected to the Creator y'all everything after that you've been told there it's no secret it's called second guessing for a reason and you cannot second guess your way into your Divine Purpose it cannot happen cannot cannot so why is it Brenda do you think so many people are not willing to lay something down that don't that no longer serves them to make room and space for something sacred that could come in and actually serve them why is it that we do these things mainly to ourselves I find that the worst experiences or the Lost opportunities in my own Journey the majority of them were at my own hand I broke my own Covenant with myself talk about that if you could as we get close to rap it I honestly believe it's fear we fear the unknown and when we're not sure and we're so busy chasing the shiny objects it's just like what you talked about how they have these million-dollar mindset masterminds I always giggle when I see the I'm gonna 10x you or I'm gonna help you be a sixf fig coach if they only knew that only 1% of the people ever going to be six fig they sto the madness what I'm telling people let's get realistic how about I make you a $2,000 month coach show you how to build that so you can get the six figures but people don't want to understand that it's going to take time it's not that you can't be a sixf figure coat but you got to do the work to get there and here's the thing I'm so committed to helping people do that that's why I created my solutionist portal and I created a free space for them to come and I'm gonna show you how to make money for you spend money with me I'm telling you because I value same thing I do that same thing value because when you remove the price tag the work now becomes Priceless it is less the price and now you have nothing in front of you but value to focus on and if you don't see any value that could be the very reason no one through the law of attraction is being drawn to you they don't feel or see anything of value but here's the part Dr Lauren even with me having a free spot what I love about God how he works with me is that I created this space free and people weren't coming I didn't get mad about it because see what I do know is the people that need to be there will show up there would show up and then they move into the thing that is very minimum price to get real coaching from there I say real coaching because now we're talking about the people that's ready to level up they're ready to actually make a financial investment into themselves yes you're not going to do it in my free section I'm not going to allow you in my pay section see I don't care what is everybody's money ain't good money and every I do not waste my time with people that are not ready to really make exactly they rob you of the joy of giving and healing and pouring in because they squander that's known as messing up the church's money it really is you're not a good Steward and to whom much is given much is required yes ABS you want more do more I say this tell me what you feel about this Miss Brenda um if I tell people I try to break it down just like you to the nth degree to make it because it really is easy it is it just has to be consistent and if you just know that you get up every day you do not have to write your story today um through all 26 letters of the alphabet you only need one e and one R you're already great now find a way to be greater you're already nice find a way today to be nicer you know if you stuck then you you know you bold look at the stuff you've beaten find a way today to be a little Bolder so you can wake up tomorrow refreshed re renewed revived replenished remembered to your own power that's how I feel about it and I love what you're doing so what about this here about here's a a common excuse well I it sounds good Brenda uh but you know I just um I I I just can't afford it you know when I first got the opportunity to go to a $3,000 Mastermind I thought there's no way I'm spending that kind of money for this but God dealt with me very quickly see until you can pay that amount of money you won't understand how you can charge that amount of money see there was a time when I was charging $50 an hour for a strategy session and so when my coach told me that I should charge $250 for the strategy session it's a one-h hour session I thought who's going to pay me that and then I'm began to learn about value pricing so you're not paying me for the hour you're paying me for my expertise and my ability to close that gap between your desires and your reality so $3,600 and I thought who you know what happened people were not even complaining about my consultation which is $3,600 a month for four calls in a month and what I found was people that were paying me $50 were asking me more questions than people pay me $3600 why because the people were willing to pay 3600 they busy they ain't got time for foolishness they're serious about what they're doing they're willing to make the investment because they understand I have what they need and I'm so confident in what I do if I don't do what I say you get your money back I know I know that's right that you know that's what that's exact my life my coaching is Lifetime they pay one fee and they in here for Life what because they've been so many times they and I and because if you come up here smelling like smoke if it take you six years to do what you could have done a six month that's on you just because you got burned around in pooky's house they ain't got nothing to do with me leave it there you see and let's talk about that let's wrap with that that thing how important is it for people to be able to dust their feet off you know I don't believe that anything was a mistake it's just taking me one step closer to my answer that's just the way God keeps our our journey is interesting that's all it is so how do you help people or what tips do you have uh Brenda uh as far as getting back up shaking it off just saying okay that was that but this is this getting past something so you can get inside of something new I think I always start with two things most people are stuck where they are because of Shame and guilt and I call them schilt shame is I am bad guilt is I did something bad I say get out of the schilt and get clear on what you want I ask people to ask theirselves five questions in every area of Life your relationship your money your finances your emotional wellbeing mental health which is totally different but that's another story for another show but ask yourself these five questions what do I want yeah what do you want why do you want it how does it benefit you how does it benefit others and what are you willing to do to make it happen when you can answer those five questions in your finances in your relationships in your emotional wellbe your physical well-being and your mental health how do you want to show up in this world why uh what why uh how does it benefit how does it benefit and what are you willing to do and you can get clear on that you can accomplish anything let's count those off one more time Brenda let's count those off one more time because I want this to stick come on take us through the five again first thing is what do you want do you want to lose weight do you want to have a healthy love life do you want to be financially free do you want to be emotionally whole everything you need is inside of you now why do you want that thing because when you know why you want it you have the anchor to keep you moving forward how does it benefit you how does it benefit you to be healthy happy and whole in all areas of your life you can show up and walk out your purpose and be the best version of yourself and impact your community how does it help others because when you are walking in your purpose and you are strong you are full and committed baby not a demon in hell can take you off your purpose and then other people can walk in their purpose there are people waiting on you to show up so they can show out and then finally what are you willing to do to get it what is your commitment to self and others that you're going to show up every day and do what you do what you know God intended you to do all of us have a purpose and too many of us are dying with it undone just undone just that's you know seriously the the Mantra should be get get her done get her done and can I have one more thing for that we have to stop living to die you know too many of us are out here doing things for my kids for my this for my that you're saving away money and then you're not living in the now you're not I did it for a long time I was so busy on my grind at my six figure job putting away money so my kid can go to college and then I thought I had lost myself you got to begin to get clear on what you want just for you outside of everybody else because when you get clear on that and when you're when it's not a selfish I want but a really how do I want to show what's my legacy when you start when you get to this age you start thinking about that you really do and I'm you show up I think a lot of people misc constru through the term especially Believers um uh fundamentalists people who came from a religious uh background into spiritualism or whatever um the thing about pouring for you can't pour from an empty cup that no you cannot and the reason it's you're told that is you're not supposed to pour from your cup everything in that cup that's in there is yours that's for you to drink from that's what's on your plate for you to eat from but you're overflow my cup run is over not my cup run is out and so I try to keep my cup full enough so that if you want some of this overflow you better run to catch it I'm tell you I'm not stopping I'm not stopping that's what creates the Overflow and in order for something to overflow it's got to be flowing it definitely does so you got to keep putting in if you want to get something out that's all there is to it how many Clues do we need need think about that tell the people um I'm going to pop your uh we've got your a few of your mini roads uh where people can continue the dialogue we'll start with this one uh this is your LinkedIn uh we also have your YouTube at Brenda the solutionist and there's a website Brenda the solutionist dcom and so anything coming up in the U between now and the front of the year q1 that you like to uh promote or share with everybody they can keep their eyes on those entrepreneurs that are ready to go to the next level I'd like them to go to Brenda solutions.com to the program page and click on the link and join the solutionist portal it's only $97 a month and that's where I'm going to help you build your business because it's time that people get to do business their way but have the foundations to make them lasted and not uh end up in a business that's not functioning because I'm tired of people being popular but not paid o it's building in me I'm see I know why they had them women at my mom's church with that sit in the front with them sheets on their lap cuz when you get up get ready to run panties's be damned ready run right see that's what feels good that's how you know you're within the spirit inspired in spirit make sense now okay so Brenda I just want to say thank you so much unfortunately we're out of time but what a great time um I can say we've all had here today boy you really did the thing I thank you so much and um you guys get over and check Brenda out um it should be as clear as clear there it is that's I'm G leave it at that right so get over and check her out Brenda listen if you ever want to come back Reach Out we'd love to have you back and tell them real quick you have a podcast where can they catch it in what day in time you can catch the podcast on YouTube on Tuesdays at 2:30 pm and remember the choices you make today will be the reality you live tomorrow so Choose Wisely because you're worth it no it's called a tagline y'all listen get out of here you guys have your best day ever find just a little itty bitty piece of your higher self push it over to where you're at and take everything to the next level now listen I promise God willing to meet you tomorrow morning over on the front porch where together we can have another illuminated conversation now get out of here don't let my screen door slam and remember as always Dr Lauren loves you there's not a damn thing you can do about it see you tomorrow have the best day ever great job great job Brenda thank you bye everybody [Music] show me your soul baby I'll show your mind show me your soul honey it's way past time how exive do I have to be then I 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