sex and sexual fantasy is still very much taboo even though we have you know shows like sex education and it's in our faces on our screens on our phones all the time and yet talking about what goes on inside uh our minds is uh makes people really uncomfortable because it is still taboo because we don't talk about it it's not pleasure pleasure which is part of what we're talking about is not necessarily taught in schools it's not part of sex education definitely not in the UK and I I'm pretty sure not in the US and if it's not there then where um and so um you know so much of sex education is about you know what you shouldn't do and it's quite um uh rudimentary and Technical