Judge Mathis Begs His Ex Wife To Return...and INSTANTLY REGRETS IT

what's good everybody it's your boy Oh sha Duke Jackson back at it again with another episode of the celebrity junk I've never been married before and I don't have any children and a lot of times guys like us can make the mistake of commenting on a situation that we've never experienced it's very easy to tell somebody to forget their wife or for for get all the years they've been together when you've never done that before so I'm not going to do that today but I would like to discuss the reality of Judge Greg mathys Judge Greg mathys has been married to his lovely wife for 39 years now he was 25 years old when they got married he went on to become a lawyer and a judge in Detroit and recently his wife has filed for divorce when it seemed like everything was going okay and a few people have weighed in on the situation file for divorce she file for divorce and I just do not understand what the ladies of America who are over a certain age think when they leave their husbands what do you think is in this world for you let I'mma just I'mma just say 50 plus I'mma just say 50 plus 50 plus leaving your husband what do you think in this world for you besides fake in her ass and from strangers I just can't imagine what you could be what are you going to find out there she was married to this man 39 years yeah yeah now as a man I don't root for no man to be going through divorce cuz I you know what I'm saying that's part of my story even though judge Mattis used to say something I really used to disagree with when judge Mattis used to say whenever you get pregnant by man you supposed to put him on child support no matter what he doing I'm like nah my dude you don't have the woman go down there and try to split the family you don't encourage that child support is a form of splitting the family it's um a calculated way to bring the families um in chaos but judge Matthew is wife leaving him I just I just don't understand what is why would men get married in America what benefit can you get if you are a man who has any Works in America now if you a dude who just got out of jail marriage is perfect for you but if you have been working and you plan on working why would you marry a woman you have to have the courage for to just be like look ma'am I really like your meat but I I will not let it destroy me now Cory hul has been married and he has children so he's definitely a better person to comment on such a situation than myself it is to Cory hul's mindset and mentality that Hey listen man you are who you are you need to go ahead on and just you know forget about it she divorced you you or no other American man should get married but then this particular interesting clip showed up on TMZ would you say you two are in a good place right now or able to maintain a friendship or oh yeah we're still in the same house and we're maintaining a friendship and I'm trying to get my wife back trying I have to show her that though um hopefully I can show her while we're there together before and hopefully she doesn't complete the process but um I'm changing and hopes that she will I'm going get my wife back how about that I just wanted to eliminate all them rumors too that it's something about a baby or even me uh molesting a child it's none of that I've just told so as we can see judge matthysse is you know living with his wife still he still loves his wife he's trying to get his wife back and be in a relationship with her and again anybody can say what they want but hey this is this man's wife and I kind of wanted to get you know a married man's perspective so I came across this channel called better marriage and the name of the video is what to do when your wife wants a divorce how to win her back so your wife's asking for divorce and you don't want one what do you do hey Cody Butler here marriage coach and founder of better marriage and today I want to talk to you about what do you do if your wife's asking for divorce and you don't want it can you turn this around how do you turn this around so the answer to the question can you turn this around absolutely 100% categorically the answer is yes and I I speak of that from experience I've seen it hundreds and hundreds of times where the woman is asking out she's saying there's absolutely no hope and then four weeks 6 weeks eight8 weeks later the marriage is healed and it's on the path to reconciliation and restoration but you've got to understand if you want to turn your marriage around and you want to bring her back after she's saying that she's want it out you've got to take some certain steps now the first step you've got to take here is to never give up hope that the marriage is reconcilable when you're attitude is right the facts don't matter now I speak to men all the time they come to me saying well the fact is this and the fact is that and the fact is she wants out and the fact is she's with another man when your attitude is right the facts don't matter and there's many aspects that go into your attitude but the first one is going to be always having hope that the relationship can be restored can be reconciled and brought back to a great place because how you see the relationship is going to determine how you feel about the relationship and how you feel about it is going to determine your actions and if you feel hopeless you're going to produce hopeless actions which is going to produce a hopeless result if you feel optimistic and hopeful you are going to produce optimistic and hopeful actions which is going to produce an optimistic and hopeful result all right and I think that sounds like really good advice in general keeping a positive attitude and it does seem like judge matys has kept a positive attitude he's still trying to keep a positive attitude now he didn't say exactly what it is he's done wrong and he's trying to change but obviously he does admit that some of this is his fault or at least the issue is his fault as a husband and he wants to fix it he wants to work on the relationship and he wants to you know get his wife back and maybe he felt like she wouldn't leave him but you know this is what I was saying his defense guys a lot of us that have never been married before we've never grown up with a woman just think about it when you're 25 years old yes you're a man but you are still a kid okay you're still a kid I I I feel like I was 30 and still a kid now I'm 43 and sometimes still feel like a kid imagine a guy was 25 by the time he's 43 he's been already married by by 18 years you have kids all of your professional accolades you've been with this woman you spent all of these years with this woman this woman is not just your wife this woman is your is your friend she's your Confidant she's your life partner and when you're 64 and I can tell you like this a lot of you Brothers know from the black community when you get like 354 the friends that you used to have you don't really have them anymore man I'm lucky enough to be in the content creator business where I'm always meeting new people but most people in most you know like careers and things like that as you get older you just get less time you have more responsibilities and when you do have a best friend or you have a real good family member and you happen to lose that person or your wife divorces you in your mid-40s it's really tough to get out there and it's not really feasible to tell a guy well look man you know basically you need to get back out there and and and do it all over again you know when you didn't grew up with this lady now let me just say this with you know like with Cory hul Cory h he was married but but obviously Cory hok's a you know he's a comedian you know he's very talented and you know Hey listen he was okay with how it worked out right and for me if I was to get divorced and get married right now I would be able to rebound because of you know the kind of work that I do and living across the world visiting here visiting there but you know this guy's a judge retired judge he's been a family man he's been you know a lot of his life is is tied to other people that are married he was hanging out with Magic Johnson and his wife he was hanging out with Michael Jordan and his wife so you know I think like Steve Harvey things like that so a lot of his identity is tied up with his wife that's a part of who he is is being a husband you know and a lot of us our identities are not tied up in being a husband so I can see exactly why he wants to get her back you know and you know maybe he could do better out there on the street and get somebody younger and but everybody don't necessarily want somebody younger and everybody don't really care about paying spouse support I mean she been with him for 39 years I'm pretty sure that whatever she wanted he would just give it to her you know it wouldn't be no nasty divorce but that's how some guys are my grandma and grandfather uh they didn't have a amical divorce um you know my grandmother was was was about 16 years younger than my grandfather they were married for like 60 years and they didn't they didn't get along even when he passed away but a lot of her identity is still tied to my grandfather even in his death you know you know she she it would have been very difficult for her to get back out there and just get somebody else and start all over again it you know it it just would have looked bad you know for a lot of people you know it would have looked bad for people in the church community Community you know it would have just been crazy so I don't I don't really want to call a guy like you bugging cuz you're a s you know like cuz you want your wife back at 39 years I I just can't say that man you know it would be different if there was married for like a year and some change and you know we saw certain evidences of her disrespecting the man you know disrespecting him in public you know kind of like what stunner girl is doing or if it was like what cardi be is doing the offset and how she handles things we have not seen that with his wife to be honest his wife has been um a complete Class Act from what I understand she's been um um a woman you know they're having problems in their relationships and his his wife has always been um you know his wife Linda has always been a beautiful lady in a very high class woman from from what I know about her and that might be difficult to get again at age 64 it's hard to get periods in life okay now he's George he's Greg math as the rich guy now but hey you know we're going to be honest I if you see what's out there in the streets today and I think most of you black men understand what I'm talking about it it it's not it's not like a whole bunch of options out there man that a lot of guys want to go out there and just be dealing in the streets and dealing with this person and that person not every guy wants a young 40-year-old chick or 30-year old chick or 25y old booty clapping it up type chick that that's that might not be what he wants you know so again I'm not simping I'm just saying you know I'm just saying how the brother feels and how he might be looking at it and and we who are younger and maybe have not been married before or maybe was married for a short time that's how we would see it but that might not be how he sees it so guys what do you think it's your boy o J Duke Jackson back at it again with another episode of the celebrity junk I really appreciate you for all that you do subscribe hit the Bell we're out [Music]