Our 6 year old daughter has taken over at home

The child king who rules the whole family with a wand outside her home, Émeline is an adorable 6-year-old girl, Who hardly dares to speak to people. At home, you're not shy like that! But once home It is no longer the same thing at all. Émeline is a child king, Who directs the whole family with the wand. Whether it's his parents or his sisters. Mom, come here! Mom, come here right away! Impossible to impose anything on him. She is also very close to Murielle, her mother. She can't stand to be separated from her more than a few seconds. And this, even at night. When evening came, she got into the habit of bursting in, In his parents' room and push his father Jacques out of bed. This is the last time ! I'm fed up. A dad who was forced to install a mattress on the floor to be able to sleep. The problem is that well, it's 9:30 p.m., we're fed up, We want to go to bed, we want to be a little quiet, So not to start making her scream yet. Otherwise it will be screams in the room, It's gonna be crying. So we give up, I give up. Emeline's parents don't know what to do anymore in front of their daughter. If she continues her mess like this at home, We are not a life. No. What do we do ? The family atmosphere has become very complicated, Especially for Pauline, their eldest daughter. She decides everything here. Murielle and Jacques have decided to call on Esther, A life coach who will try to restore order in the family. How to get Émeline to finally learn to obey his parents? My 6 year old daughter rules at home, My husband and I are getting over it. She puts us through hell. She took my place at home, So much so that now I can't even sleep with my wife anymore. With Emeline, it's always at attention. She decides everything, otherwise it's a crisis. The situation in this family is catastrophic. I will do everything to find solutions, But it will be very complicated. At 6 years old, Emeline rules the roost at home. No one in the family is able to resist him. What she hates above all, It's being separated from her mother, Murielle, Even for a few minutes. The latter would like to do some shopping quickly, Without Émeline, to go faster. Jacques, his father, will therefore try to make her stay home. Émeline does not want to stay with dad Are you staying with dad? Why ? No. Mum going shopping alone? Nope ! Yes it is. No. I'll be back, I won't be long. Emeline hates taking orders. So she's not going to listen to anything and put on his coat to follow his mother. Go on ! Let's go ! Yes, well, here we go! I will be back. I said let's go! Why don't you want to stay with dad? Nope ! But why ? For once. No, I said you come with me! She decides everything. She does everything as she wants. I have no authority over her. She is still with her mom. Why do you want to go shopping? Well I'm used to it. You're pissing me off! Oh, are you pissed off? It's the same story every day. As much as Emeline screams constantly, Both her 2 sisters older than her, Pauline and Camille are very calm. Look, Camille stays there. Nah, she's coming too. Good go! Go Camilla! What ? Camille can stay there too? Now that Emeline has decided that her sisters were to come with them, The latter have an interest in obeying him. Camille, come on! What ? Come ! No. She said no, she stays there, she stays with me. We're going to walk the dog. Nope ! Emeline has no patience and can't stand not that we resist him. To achieve her ends, she has an unstoppable weapon, She screams. Nope ! Alright, you're going shopping! Its good ! Nope ! Yes, you go shopping with mom. And Camille! And then Camille, everyone goes! It's always the same, Me, I'm tired of hearing you cry and scream. When I tell her to get dressed, she screams, When I tell her to go to bed, she screams, When I tell her to go to school, she screams, When I tell her: "You eat this", she screams, It's a tragedy for everything. Are you going to scream? You will say: "I do not eat". Stop yelling like that! Put on your coat and they go! Everyone is forced to sympathize here. As usual, the family finally gave in. Émeline will finally accompany his mom shopping, Followed by her 2 sisters. Impossible for the little girl to be separated from her mother, Even for a short time. No way to untie it! It's like a leech stuck on its mother, Or that little fish that's always stuck on sharks I don't remember the name, So the same, she follows her mother everywhere, all the time. I go shopping, she's always behind me, I put the laundry in the washing machine, she is behind me. I hang up my laundry, she's behind me, I wash on the floor, she is behind me. When she sleeps, I am quiet, here, I'm calm. However, once outside the house, Emeline becomes an adorable little girl. Here, no more whims, In front of strangers or the baker, she no longer dares to speak. Why are you so quiet here? And at home you're all crazy. Why ? You do not know ? Because there, you are shy. At home, aren't you shy like that? But once back home, It will very quickly become infernal again. It's meal time and it's the crisis When mealtime comes, It's always the same thing Emeline doesn't want to eat anything, Except chocolate milk sold in briquettes. Alright, what are you eating? What do you want to eat ? A briquette! A briquette is not a meal. Yes it is ! No. Mom ! It's true, it's not a meal. Once in the kitchen, Jacques is going to try to push his daughter to eat something other than chocolate milk, But lost. Are you making yourself a sandwich? Do you want raclette? You must eat tonight. Not listening to anything The little girl goes on her own to fetch one of those famous briquettes in the fridge. Emily! Give me that ! But no, I said "my briquette" as usual! After for dessert, you will have one. I said "my briquette" as usual, okay? Hey, you're going to bed if this continues, Without eating, when you are hungry, you will tell us! I want my briquette! Yes. These parents continuing to resist him, Émeline will therefore take out her favorite weapon, crying and screaming. Stopped ! One thing Jacques can't stand. As always, this will put him in one hell of a state. He will end up getting a little too angry. Take ! And now you're on your own! The briquette exploded. As usual, I'm going for a ride! I can't stand the tears. A child who cries, how to say, it annoys me. It hurts my heart and it annoys me. So I prefer to go for a walk. Jacques therefore went out to walk in the street, He's not the only one who can't stand Emeline's cries, His sisters will also experience it very badly, One more time. Paulina? I'm going to Grandma's tonight, I don't call. No you're not going to grandma's! Let go of me ! Pauline, come! No I'm going to grandma's, I'm not staying here tonight! How long has she been there? it does not stop screaming at night, I have a head like that, with you! I feel tired, I want to cry. And I would like that to change. The oldest, Pauline, aged 14, would also like that to change. As always, when there are cries and cries, She went to take refuge in her room. Seeing her crying and screaming all the time, we have the impression that we are sequestrating it. The only time I don't hear her scream it's when I'm in school. I know that when I get home, it's going to be crises. So I eat, I clear the table, and then I go to my room. Jacques will eventually come home a little calmer than before. Didn't you give him a briquette? No. Oh yeah, well she still annoys me! She still pisses me off! It's good if you didn't give in. We must continue like this. It's been 2 years that patience is every day, every day, every day! My patience is starting to get there! It's not there yet, but it's there. She kicks her father out of bed to take his place. Jacques, yielding everything to him, So made a makeshift bed in the room where he will spend the night. This is not normal, But the problem is that at 9:30 p.m., we're fed up, We want to go to bed, we want to be quiet for a bit, So not to start making her scream yet. Otherwise it will be screams in the room, it's going to be crying, so we let it go. That is to say, I gave up, at first I groaned, then afterwards, I gave up. Come on, are you ready? One two three. Someone who is used to this kind of behavior and who gives us advice. And not tell us: "It's up to the parents to find the solution". Meeting with a life coach So they contacted Esther, a life coach practicing in the region. It's a few days later that she will come, Visit them to discover Émeline and the extent of the problem. Good day Mrs. Hello. I am Jack Jackie, delighted. Esther. Go for it ! Come back. Hello, Murielle, is that it? Yes and Emeline. Nice to meet you. Emeline, Are you coming to say hello to me? Are you kissing? Yes ? But you are wise, tell me. Are you good in the morning? Émeline has no idea who Esther is and the reason for her coming home. As often with strangers, She takes on the appearance of a model little girl, except that Esther is not fooled. I think I will become his first enemy. Then she will try to be my friend. She'll try to make eyes at me, Because she will understand that she will not be able to play with me. And my goal It's that she understands that I'm not there, Nor to be his new playmate, But rather the one who will give a new direction in his life, And who will especially support his parents. She, she does what she wants, as she wants. So she is in a big playground that she runs. Now you are going to have to change your habits a bit. You are the co-directors of the playground. OK ? Doesn't this playground stop at Émeline? You have other children who still suffer from this dictatorship. Yes. We agree ? Yes. Émeline will slowly realize that this lady sitting in front of her, Won't necessarily be as malleable as its parents. His first reaction will therefore be to cover their ears, So that you don't have to listen to it anymore. Émeline, are you covering your ears? It's what you don't want to hear or don't you want to change your mind? You know, I'll tell you, A child is simple. You give it limits. If you gave it no limits since his earliest childhood, She can't even understand your behavior today. 'Cause she's like, 'What am I doing wrong? I'm not doing anything more than yesterday." "I was never sanctioned, I was never banned." Have you ever locked him in his room telling him : "You don't want to eat? Well you don't eat, but you are in your room." No never. We totally agree. So me, I'm coming today with my big clogs and I'm a 41, We agree ? And I say, "Wait, we're going to change all that." And you say to yourself: "We're changing everything!" Why do you want her to understand it? Yes, it's true that overnight, she won't understand. We have to go gradually... Exactly. She has a behavior, excuse me the term, complitly normal. You are grandpa cake, grandma cake, We agree, You've had pretty tough lives, I think, before. And so, suddenly, it is the fruit of your love, The fruit of rest. And she became the fruit tree, instead of a fruit. Yes it's the tree or the pack leader, I would have said. Do you go shopping every morning? Yes. And you go there alone? No. That is to say ? That is to say, Emeline is always with me. OK. So, are you going to go shopping now? At 11:30 a.m. Émeline stays there, of course. Yes Yes. But why are you saying no? No. You stay with dad. No. And yes. No. Ben you see that I hear you scream, finally! Why are you stressed? I just ask a question, Are you used to her screaming? Yes, I'm used to it. And let her have her crisis, So what's bothering you? Not to take her with me. What worries you? I'm going to go shopping, I will hear it, scream, scream, And it hurts me. She plays on your anxiety! She plays on your anxiety! She knows you're hurting she knows you're scared. So she takes advantage of it. And she is right to take advantage of it. So there you go, I want to see you motivated, but really, It's for his good! No, stronger hand! Go on ! Come on, good shopping! Speak softly when you talk to me Good races, it is quickly said, Émeline obviously has no intention to let his mother go alone. So she's already placed herself next to the door, ready to go. Émeline, can't you change your habits? No. Why ? I said no, because I will do shopping with mom! I don't understand, speak softly. No, I used to talk like that, I speak softly here. I talk like that! You annoy me ! Emeline screams, one thing that will put, as usual, Jacques, beside himself. No races! I will put some oil instead of margarine! There will be no races this afternoon! Jacques, stop! She will lock you in this house. She knows exactly what she's doing, and she knows exactly your reactions. Is it me, in your opinion, Is it escalating or is it you who does not allow things to change? I don't want to see her cry. No matter what, she will cry, Because she's used to crying, Jacques. I got mad stupidly, I know. I regret a little, but hey, It's my nature. And then hey, I protect them too much, that's it. It is unacceptable that a 6-year-old child, Commands and leads a complete family. That is unacceptable! And everyone is terrified! So we'll say it's a devil, But not at all ! She's a child, She is a child to whom we put no limits. And that's what will change now, I hope! Murielle will therefore have to take it upon herself, And go shopping alone without her daughter. The problem is that she will find herself completely paralyzed, Unable to leave home. Are you able or not to do it? Nope ! I can't go against you. My role is not to impose anything on you. I'm here to help you, I'm not here to lead you by the wand. We are between adults. I try to give you ways, advice, support. In the end, Murielle will not be able to get out shopping without her daughter. In the face of his inertia, Esther will try to find help with Jacques trying to reason with him. How do you envision the future? I no longer see the future. I lowered my arms, I ask for help, I do not know what to do. Well yes, but when help arrives, you don't consider it. Yes, but look, it's already starting! You are angry with me, though I did nothing wrong. You have to go gradually. I told you what? I just asked if she was going shopping. Can you imagine how it will turn out this afternoon at school? I don't know, I'm not going. And yes, school. Emeline is 6 years old and has to do back to school this afternoon. Obviously, the little girl refuses categorically to go to school, Since it would force her to be separated from her mother. Esther gave in on the races, But for school, it's not going to be the same story. There, an important event will happen, we agree ? No matter what happens, okay? When you two go and look at each other, You will say to yourself we do, we don't. And we make the decision. We go to the end or we don't go to the end, I leave you completely, The purpose of your decision. Yes. Yes, we will. We agree ? It's up to you. Me, I am not with you at this moment, we agree ? But you have to discuss it together. So, it's up to you to play and go. I am leaving, And I come back later. See you soon. OK ? So Esther went away from home, How to convince your daughter to go to school? So that it is not up to her, that Emeline obeys, but to his parents. Murielle and Jacques, Will therefore find themselves face to face with their daughter, a little scared. How to convince her to go to school. Are we going to put his coat on him? Nope ! It's necessary. Do not write ! Do not write ! Nope ! I said no ! Listen mom. Listen, stop crying and listen to me. I said you listen to me. I don't go to school! I do not go to school ! What are you going to do this afternoon? I do not go to school ! Yes, but apart from repeating "I don't go to school"? I will watch cartoons. Watch cartoons? Bah, I say that there will be no cartoons. Yes it is ! No, no will not put cartoons. Jacques and Murielle will finish, once again, By giving in to their daughter who will stay at home. School will be tomorrow But they will still try to force him to do homework to mark the occasion. You'll be homeschooling I'll give you a template and you'll copy it. No. Yes ! There will be no television. No ! You're going to copy what mom gives you. Nope ! Nope ! Yes it is. And stop screaming. For the first time, His parents will succeed in standing up to him. No cartoon for Émeline, But papers and a pencil to learn to write. What will not please the little girl which is not going to be cooperative at all. Without tearing. There ! It's good. It's good ! Go hard! You can tear off, I don't care. I have a full ream. Well, that's it. Émeline may throw away her pencil or cry, His parents will hold on They won't turn on the TV, And force her to carry on, To learn, to read and write. At 6 years old, she has an impossible character, She is not social. So how will it end? That's what worries me. And little by little, the little girl will eventually calm down. What are you doing? I draw. It's nice. Theophile, Did you write dad? Yeah. And she wrote letters, It means ? Emeline! It's nice. It's good ? And there, she colors her hearts pink. When she calmed down, it made me happy. Deep inside, I said to myself: "I'm not going to make it, I'm not going to make it." But I managed to hold on. I succeeded and that's already 1 point! Jacques, for his part, will leave the house to meet Esther outside. This one is in a hurry to know how things went. Did you two bring him to school? It was, "you put on your coat", The screaming and crying started, As per usual. As per usual. OK. Then it was a complete crisis. The result is that at 1.45 p.m. the school was closed, so no way to drive it. So she had won as usual. OK. So, what is she doing? She draws ? No, she wrote. I made him write letters, I wrote Papa, Mama, Emeline... OK. And Murielle, therefore, remained on your decision? Yes. But I'm super happy! Second stage, of course, it will be tonight. You need to take back your place as a father, Your place as a family leader and we continue on this path? We continue. Do you see the difference? I saw a difference today. Alright, so we ready for round two? Go on ! We attack, here we go! Esther is therefore going to return to the house. Tonight, no question that Emeline takes the place of Jacques in the bed, And that this one finds himself on the ground on his mattress in a corner of the room. To start things off, She is therefore going to propose a little exercise to Émeline. We are going to take action, definitive and radical. Dad will resume his place as head of the family This action... You all come with me, Emily, you too. Do we fold it? Already the duvet. Dad, you'll never sleep on that mattress again. No, she will be able to wear it, she wants to make you happy, And she wants to please mom. Let's go ! How do you take that? The fact that this mattress is no longer there? I get my place back. Are you ready ? Yes. Brilliant, because there, She has just passed an incredible milestone. Big hug, big kisses, Big hug to his dad. And you too, give me a kiss. We love each other ? Oh yes ? But what will happen tonight? Night has fallen, the children have gone to bed, Emily understood. It's quietly that Esther will come back home to verify that the instructions have been followed. It's impeccable, she sleeps alone in her bed. Something I had never seen. It's a great moment We've never seen that. It's a big moment. I've never seen that, that she sleeps in her bed, alone, it makes us happy. Yes. We are surprised. We continue, we are only at the beginning. Emeline should now learn to detach from his mother. Tomorrow is Murielle's birthday, A good opportunity to change things. In fact, it's preparation for your birthday tomorrow. You know that it is capital, that tomorrow, You two have a moment of freedom. We'll try. I don't know, we'll see. I'm just saying, You try. Are you at peace, a little in your head? Yes. It feels good ? That is to say that over 3 days of time, It is metamorphosis. 6 months ago, which were done in 3 days time. So thank you, I'll give you a hug. Tonight, Émeline will not come join them in the room. Jacques and Murielle, Will sleep for the first time since very long together, And peaceful sleep. The next day so that Émeline learns to do things without his mother, Esther is going to suggest that she prepare a surprise for her birthday. So that there can be surprise, Murielle must, of course, not be present. And it's Émeline herself, Who's going to ask his mother out of the apartment. Go mom! Oh, do I have to go? Go down! I have to go ? Are you staying down? OK. Jacques and Murielle will be able to leave the house, Just the two of us, without the children. It's been ages since something like this did not occur. And this without shouting or crying. The couple had left a little crooked, with all that. But here it is better. It's better. When we manage to sleep together, it's still better. It's still better. We have to stay united. That way there won't be any problem. It could last. There will be no more screaming in the house. There. I wish you anyway. Usually you do doodling. But this is the first time you write, I love you mom. And all alone? Yes. These are just the beginning, of course, Emeline will no doubt still have excesses of mood in the future, But Jacques and Murielle are firmly decided, Now, hold on to her. As Esther said, he's not a demon, Just a 6-year-old girl with character and to whom we have never given a limit. A little girl who adores her parents. Are you giving a kiss? I like you.