The Conner's Couch: LOVE IS BLIND UK 2024 Reunion REVIEW

Zar used to do this thing when we first started not when we first started dating but when we were dating later on in Life After College and stuff like that where she would just be like I don't like her I don't like him and I would be like why what happened that was I ever wrong you were I was never that's not true wrong that's not true I was never wrong that's not true but wear we can debate this Sharon is one of them you mentioned her I didn't men besties I love Sharon D but I don't I I like her but she would say that too they're best friends now they're like best friend my point is that's my baby hey boo my point is she would say this and I would be like I just I need to like you have to tell me I can I wrong I could be wrong once but I'm 80% [Music] hey my loves welcome back to our Channel thank you so much for joining us again I'm your girl inar Eleanor I'm back with my husband Joseph Connor and we're here to chat Love is Blind UK season one Reunion yeah I'm actually super excited about this um we have a lot going on this week guys so we trying to get this one out um cuz we trying to keep up and keep consistent as best we can we're going on vacation with the family I'm super excited but I'm beat down I got no sleep last night you know what I was thinking I should not make my own drinks I'm a little too heavy-handed I went to bed wasted I had two drinks like little and it wasn't even a big cup well yeah you're not the mix out the bartender of the house at all so I'm not I'm just I'm just doing a little Tay and tonic that's it but yeah so we're back we're talking all things Married at First Sight Married at First Sight Love is Blind y let me tell you what my husband did today I come in the house I tell Joe he comes downstairs he was upstairs I was downstairs I came in the house from running errands I put his coffee on his desk we usually go on a coffee run together today I went and picked our coffees up I put his coffee on his desk but he was upstairs I put my coffee in the fridge cuz I was going to eat lunch and then I was going to during this time drink my coffee so he he comes down into the kitchen and I can hear him shaking and doing all these things I'm like what is this man doing like he can't possibly be making a drink that's literally what I thought no not at 1 pm I literally thought he possibly be making a drink like it's too early so I didn't think nothing of it I keep eating right he goes downstairs and he notices after he done doctored up the coffee and everything like that he goes downstairs and notices he doctor my coffee his coffee was sitting right on his desk now I got to drink this y' now anybody who know me know I like my coffee to be black like me okay well it's still technically black long story short like she said she been low energy all day so when I when I came into the to the living room where she was she basically mumbled like I'm like hey and she was like yeah your coffee that's literally what it hurt so I said okay so I went to the kitchen and I open the I opened the fridge and and there was a coffee there so I figured I figured she had her coffee sitting near her or drinking in the car and I figured she put mine cuz she was cuz it was a minute by before she got home so I figured her coffee was either done or she had so I I go in the fridge I see it I'm like this isn't this isn't right but I said you know what she's tired maybe she didn't pay attention maybe she didn't pay attention and maybe they just the coffee shop that she went to is a coffee shop that we go to a lot so maybe they just gave her something that they knew I liked or whatever so I said cool at worst their coffee just needs sweetener like they don't botch coffee orders you know even if I got somebody's order from down the street it would most I would most likely still drink it they're just the best coffee shop in Vegas [ __ ] shout out to Pik yeah shout out to [ __ ] so I was like this isn't right but it's fine I just add some sweetener and put some ice in it and I and I also ask for cold foam but I we make coffee drinks here especially on the weekends a lot so I have the the at home cold foam so I just sweetened it and put cold foam on like that's really all I needed and that was it it tastes phenomenal by the way so it's okay the point is is that y' how I'm supposed to get energy with this it's still her coffee it's just sweeter so he he did he did a thing or whatever the case may be but it really tickled me because I'm like I know I said it but I I lit say it loud like yeah I did do okay like and I it was a lot going on I was in between meetings all day I was just like okay I'm going just get it and make it work it tickled me though so I wanted to share that with you guys let's dig on in we can go in the order that they went um which they had ordered and they had a plan and a production if you had just watched the love Island reunion this was like living in the uh Penthouse at the top of the most expensive building in the world and then the jua position was living in a Shack in the hood in the poorest country in the world that was the difference between these two reunions it was night and day they even went in order if you noticed they even went in order of how they were going to hit the couples on stage so the couples literally sat from left to right and that's how they covered every oh my God y'all didn't even notice that I was like I just appreciated this professionalism in this order so much our niece just got accepted to do like a AV club kind of thing um where she makes content and stuff like that and that to me is the difference between watching like this was like a real housewives production and what we watched on love Island was like Harlem and jbb good for them Bute St cookies up cuz y'all getting paid for that so no I agree I felt like the way that this was rolled out first of all I like the host a lot more I don't know if you you guys do but I feel like they are far more genuine than Nick and and I I don't dislike Nick Lee and his wife I just think this couple is far better and far just like she say and just genuine just genuine it's not even like I I like you said I don't dislike Nicholas Sha's wife had I not had another op you know another person to compare them to I would have no opinion and to be honest watching Love Islands reunion I was I was I was praying for Nicholas Shay and his wife to just come on the scene you know what I mean like I would they do the reunion they look like Regis Filman and Barbara Walters compared to what we was watching on love Island but these the these two were very very good they asked to me the questions that we were all thinking there were some more things we could have dug in on yes but um for the but but that's okay they had a certain amount of time and for what they had you know for what we got I was I was kind of happy with the structure and everything it felt so organized yeah but that's ITP man I I don't care what nobody said the BBC ITP all of those television production companies that are in the UK are just they're just better I I can't really what it is y'all like we are obsessed with BBC shows anything that's coming out of itbp even supercell that's they came out of itbp so it's like that's uh you know what I mean so it's like really I don't know y'all they just do it better they do they write better they do it better I'm saying all that to say let's dig on into Demi and Ali because they went first which I was kind of surprised that they were first I didn't even make the connection with the seeding but I was surprised they went first cuz I thought they had a real story to tell yeah and I thought that uh it I was kind of shocked that they weren't sitting together which is another thing that they did that I appreciated so you already they took the guesswork out of it already the people who were single were sitting by themselves and the people who were together was together I appreciated that even though I thought Freddy and Cat were together I was about to say Freddy I will beat your butt yeah that was the thing but they both are trying the same they trying hate when people are it you already know how I feel about that but so Demi looked wonderful she did she looked wonderful and let me say this cuz I don't think I I think I don't think I said this enough during the season and I do this a lot I feel like sometimes like the people I really like I don't really say much about cuz I don't want to say anything mean or nasty about them or anything like that so I kind of like glaze over them most time I love Demi like I watch her and not often do I watch people and think me and her could be girlfriends like I just like her vibe I like her energy and she seemed so authentic and so genuine even when they bought out her book and in the front of the book was the picture of the parents and she said you know please protect me through this journey y'all I almost started crying I thought that was so like that to me said like she was here she did not come over here for you know what I mean and although I I've been watching the interview with Demi excuse me with Ali with Jesse woo cuz I'm trying to get a read on him that I just cuz he doesn't seem as genuine to me as she does I don't agree with that at all I'm trying to get a read on Demi for real for real I like Demi I'm a fan of Demi's from the from the beginning um I'm trying to get a read on Demi because I don't know if any body else called it because we all like Demi but her explanation of why she didn't say yes at the altar was completely vague and had like no substance in I think she's trying to be respectful of him because the truth of the matter is what she said on the show that he hadn't called her they were separated for a few days before the wedding and she said he did not try to make contact they she said that they didn't speak in those days but they weren't really supposed to speak in those days no you're no you're not supposed to see each other you can speak yeah but I don't think she was not also don't think she was making a big deal out of that either cuz she didn't seem she just said like they they were having introspective and they gave them a time to reflect she didn't really seem upet about she defends him um and and so this is not an indictment on Ali because although I find him hard to read I don't dislike Ali so what I'm saying is sometimes I think that she defends him with her language the way that she speaks about things because she doesn't want it to be bigger than what it is but to your point it is vague yeah I don't even like I think it's vague I don't even like the term Ali says something about the whole thing about with was it Katherine yeah about Catherine and how people projected on him that because he was a black man on TV who was who was and it was very much projection people projected on him that he's this you know um you know what I mean and I think that we do that a lot with black men on TV and I'm so glad that he even broached that subject I don't even like the term she defends him Ali hasn't done anything to have to defend you know what I mean and I don't even like preemptively I'm for lack of a better word what she does is she uses language so that you nor I nor anybody else watching can make can indict him on anything that's being done and I think that's partially because of when they were early on in their relationship no matter if she looked a certain way did something certain everybody thought Ali was doing something to her so now which also was a projection which also was in fact a projection but the thing is now she's correcting a behavior to me this is my perspective so much so that we don't even know what the hell went wrong so that's what I'm saying I don't think it was a big deal I don't because personally I've seen it happen before couple said yes couple said no um and I don't think she thought it was a big deal so I don't want to read too much cuz she didn't make it seem like that was her that made her break her decision or whatever when she did go to talk on the reunion about what what her answer was I just thought it was completely vague she didn't really even on the show The Day of the wedding even that was like kind of beat around a bush type thing you know what I mean like no one can really say what happened what went wrong Ali actually said why he literally said why that was rehearsed please stop pleas stop that was one of those Ali saying why I felt so that was what I that's what I mean when I say disingenuous because the moment Ali gets off the stage after they get married or gets off the platform or whatever the case may be he meets up with the guy who owns the chicken shop Aaron and I think that's his name y'all correct me if I'm wrong and Aaron says I know you relieved he literally says to him I know you're relieved he was like he cuz Ali went to go on and say I can't believe she said n he like yeah yeah but I know you relieved he had already known he did not want to do this Joe what do you mean he go back and he already knew that I think she said no because she felt like he was going to say no nothing indicated to her that he would say yes he never said that he was going to say no neither did she the day of their wedding he gets off the stage after she says no he goes back into his room with the guy he starts to go on his diet cuz cameras are around and that Aaron then says he abely thought she was to say yes Aaron says I know you are reled he literally said yeah we don't know that he was talking he said yeah a little bit he literally said that yeah again I don't want to get to the place where we're projecting things on to Ali because it feels like it feels like we're trying to villainize him for for not doing anything I'm not trying to vill I'm not saying I'm not even talking about you in particular because this goes back to what he said about the whole thing with Katherine and everything too right she never said I said no because he was going to say no or I said no because he didn't treat me right she said glowing things about him he absolutely was not the only person that was confused by this especially if you would follow Twitter and you was tweeting why they was going on he wasn't the only person that was confused by this when he said why I was thinking why I literally said it in a moment I said why I want you to to live in a place of going off of what we saw we just was listening to something where Ali was talking about how things happen behind the scenes that don't necessarily get put on TV like the whole thing with uh Charlotte and everything like that and how he mentioned that how he mentioned that he actually had he actually had a connection with Charlotte but they made it seem like it wasn't as strong as he said himself his connection wasn't as strong as his with cats or his with Demi because Charlotte doesn't do a good job of showing her my point wasn't but that's not true though we didn't see I Charlotte need to see him with Charlotte he not I disagree with the first time I saw Charlotte was when she came to the couples reunion or whatever the hell that was no she was in the the um pods talking to Aaron I'm saying I've never seen Charlotte have a connection with anybody I didn't even know Charlotte had a connection with anybody so you know say I think that she's not good TV well she might not be my whole point is that I think there's things that happen that are not shown which it's not that I think it's factual there's things that are happen that are not shown so I don't know if it's something and that leans in that area but if anybody was hard to get a read on it was Demi because of this vague ass explanation of no one still knows why they didn't why they didn't and to your point that is really accurate we still don't really know like I think inversely like Sabrina gave a very good explanation why her and Stephen are no longer with one another but and I think the reason why I'm putting the onus on Ali is be not even the onus I I'm not placing blame I'm just saying if he wanted to he would you know what I mean like I really do believe that like she could have said no in that moment and if he felt vehemently that no like I know this is the woman for me I know this is the person for me I want to continue to pursue this they would still dat I don't believe that I believe that she gave this hard and fast stance that she needed to find first of all she went first so she said no he didn't have a chance to like he didn't go first she went first she said no first they don't give you a chance to and then when she got on the reunion she the one thing that I did gather from her response was that she didn't like you know who she was on the show and that she now she she need to go on this journey of self-searching for herself and she moved back into her mom and dad's house like this is all great internal growth and everything you think that their relationship is over because of her one I don't we don't have we don't have any evidence of the contrary especially going of what she said she said everything was I I I if you go back and watch what she said it was I moved in back to my my mom's house cuz I missed my family I didn't like who I was I got to do this I have some personal growth to do blah blah blah blah blah a lot a lot of it was very big uh very big statements General statements that when we talk about things that I wish we would have the host even though the host did a good job when we talk about things that I wish the hope would have pride into more it's it's a lot of it was that cuz I would have been like let's talk about this like what do you what's happening yeah and I think that that's a good point and I also think they might need to put that in a contract like you have to say in four sentences exactly why you are not a thousand a th% or you have to write it in a paragraph or you have to write it only because I think you have a valid point here because if I'm watching and I don't understand love is blind I'm trying to figure out why y'all two don't work out because we don't have a barometer of that not only not only that but it lends to and and this is not about Demi but I think there's some other people on the show who which we'll get to it lends to people getting on the show and then fulfilling their contractual obligations I was supposed to be here I was supposed to talk people in the PT for three weeks or three days who who the hell knows and then after that we're supposed to get engaged and then after we get engaged we're supposed to go on honeymoon for however many days and then after that we're supposed to make a decision I made my decision I fulfill my contractor obligations I'm done with this it lends to like people just being like I just need to make it to the next you know what I mean and I want to call people on the carpet period full stop like you're getting paid to do this part of this process is the viewer peering into your relationship and understanding we should have a full scope understanding of how your relationship began and ended and why I agree I I I agree with that because I don't think that it should be any it shouldn't be vague but that's how you know that they didn't get anything on camera either cuz I think if they had something visually to show they would have showed it yeah I don't trust that their their their production as far as what they're I feel like there's a lot more things that happen off camera that was not shown outside of this Ali situation with with Charlotte outside of um even outside of the Sam situation like you know what I mean I just feel like there's a lot of things that people just speak about and no one has any factual like all of a sudden people just turned on Sam and we don't know why you know what I mean and and I'm and I say that because I'm a very literal person like I'm like I'm rocking with you until I'm not rocking with you but if I'm not rocking with you I need a reason why I'm not rocking with you like I need a tangible you need to Zar used to do this thing when we first started um not when we first started dating but when we were dating later on in Life After College and stuff like that where she would just be like I don't like her I don't like him and I would be like why what happened that was I ever wrong you were I was never that's not true wrong that's not true I was never wrong true that's not true but wear we can debate this Sharon is one of them you mentioned her I didn't my besties I love Sharon but I don't I don't want I like her but she would say that too they're best friends now they're like best friend say that too my point is that's my baby hey boo my point is she would say this and I would be like I just I need to like you have to tell me but I could be I could be wrong I could be wrong once but I'm 80% my point is that when I'm watching these shows I'm the same way Mr keep the same energy like I need to know like if we if we're going to villainize this person if we if we if we all hating this person I need to know why you know I mean I'm not that the rest of Twitter and and Tik Tok is very much so we just riding a wave we all hate so and so cuz everybody hate so so and I'm like I'm not that person like you have to show me why I don't like this person I don't it's not that I I want to get back to Demi and Ali but I want to speak to your point about Sam it's not that I'm so indifferent on Sam because it's not that I dislike him it's that he doesn't give me anything to like so to me I think he's like a ghost Vapor like you know what I mean he like um oxygen you can't even see his [ __ ] like he matters like I mean well oxygen matters but like something that just he just dust particles like he just doesn't matter which I can get on board with that the where where I differ from a lot of people is I I can strong opinion on somebody I can be indifferent full stop like you know what I mean but but that indifference will stay indifferent I will not then be like I don't like someone so like you know what I mean I would just be like what did he do and that's kind of where I was in the whole Sam thing I'm like no one has shown me you know what I mean not to say that something didn't happen cuz like I said we we find out I mean especially when these shows in and these people start hitting the podcast we find out stuff every day oh so and so actually did have a relationship with so and so soone so actually you know what I mean I'm just like show me the evidence you know what I mean if you if you in the comments and you know the evidence drop the evidence but I just need the evidence cuz I'm just not like riding the waves I had such a strong feeling like about Catherine like I feel like she's um not a good human and and I tried to redeem her y'all I went back and watched she just did an interview basically they were asking her like have you learned anything and everything like that and everything was about her and how she was adopted and I know that I'm worthy of love and I know this and I know and I'm like girl shut the bleep up like you've learned absolutely nothing and I was very glad that um she got gathered a bit by Jasmine and Demi I'm kind of glad because Demi made a valid point like you said something like you alluded to the fact that my looks will be a issue for Ali you made it a thing first a th% but she um Katherine is the person who's always the victim she's always the victim and she wanted to be the victim even when he said she Demi is usually my type yes she wanted to be like oh well what is that's you she wanted to make it racial so bad because but then also to kind of like interject yourself in like the whole situation where there was a moment where she's like you know um you know he needs to show this and he needs to do like totally like Demi said totally like out of line out of line and minding somebody else's business somebody else's man somebody else's feelings somebody else's emotions this has nothing to do with you to interject yourself to even we all understood that you were alluding to her looks so d d try to like gas like the entire audience like right this is that's that's never what I said that's never what I meant um she's she is a terrible person and and then to see to watch her drain the Joy from this boy's eyes he looks so depressed even sitting next to her even how he speaks and delivers his words are not the same as when he first came on camera at all and I think the sister it was trying to be nice in the way she spoke about them but I think she a th% saw this woman is draining him she is a life some people are some people are emotional vampires yes and she's one of them you know what I mean and she's absolutely with them and you can't win with people who use their trauma as an excuse for their bad behavior like you can't win cuz it'll always be oh well I was adopted at 11 months old so you know my sense of Abandonment is why ioop woop like we have to okay we can acknowledge that that happen and then we have to move past it and look towards better Behavior but for her that's just not a thing but she ended up dating somebody else in apad not that I care not that I care cuz I do not I don't want to see her on on anything else I think she's terrible and I really honestly if I'm being now having seen season one of this we need less good-look people I think that all if the UK I'm not going to pretend like they don't have I mean you go there you see like beautiful people but I just think we need average looking humans because I also do think the more I think about Steph and Sabrina the more I think he was trying to be an influencer although he seemed genuine maybe I felt like his responses were always so curated and good and and looking back on it not that somebody shouldn't have the right things to say but looking back on it it does seem a bit disingenuous I think this whole um I honestly think to your average people point I think they nailed it at this cast honestly I think I thought they were beautiful beautiful people averagely so to me that's kind of where it was like I thought they was I think there's a line and I think like love Island tries to go way over corrected everybody's a model and but that's cuz they're young people and they wanted to be sexy cuz they would be K but I still think there's a line and they missed the mark and I think I think this UK um Love is Blind was perfectly like on the on the in the middle like I thought some of them were um above average pretty like Jasmine and then I think most of them were basically average pretty like Demi you know what I mean and so I think there was a good mix of people was like Jasmine cat Freddy is stunning I don't think um honestly I'm GNA be honest I think cat you can't put Freddy on a cast then call Freddy is like abnormally goodlooking I think there was maybe one or two of them then you know what I mean I don't think I think the rest of the cast was just like you know okay and so I think that they did a good job of like pairing things I believe that um what's the girl's name um that the guy the girl and the guy that you just Sabrina um I think that Sabrina and Steven Stephen were actually into each other but I knew that they were doomed from the beginning because of this longdistance thing let me just sit this right here as somebody who has gone through a long distance relationship with the person sitting next to me for a for an extensive amount of time and by time I mean Years everybody is not built for this longdistance thing I thought they were I thought they were doomed from the very beginning especially because she seemed a little ton deaf in the idea of moving and time being spent it seemed like super naive and oh he's just going to come to Belfast he has a whole business in London he's a brick and mortar business in London but she said that like from the rip like when there was no equity there like you know what I mean it's hard to get somebody to move for somebody who they're actually like in love with so I thought y'all are screwed from from the very beginning because y'all don't understand the dynamic of not only being outside which he gave good Credence to and that cuz we talked about this too when things Happ in this world it is almost completely fictitious we talk about these dates that they're not setting up these dates no no one is putting down their credit card to pay for the dinner the the big bushel of roses that they send to the room or that's on the roses that if you bought roses before you know that Big B buer roses it's somewhere between $250 and $500 they're not paying for those Roses like so I think he brought a good perspective to when he said like this is not real and then we get on the outside and you have to plan dates and you have to be you know um responsive and you need two people have to be a part it takes two to tango so like I can't just be texting you cuz now some people are at work and so they're not as responsive you know what I mean there's so many more factors I just thought they was doomed from the beginning but my thing is this you got to do that with anybody you Dae in like it requires you to communicate and show up and do all these things so why is it so hard to do the reason why I feel like I think long is everyone is not built for long distance and people talk so lightly about it before they've been in it but I think let me tell you why I think he's disingenuous though he speaks about how the reason why he was unable to see Sabrina was because of financial reasons you knew before you got out the Pod you couldn't afford to be in a longdistance relationship but this is my point about people underestimating law there's there's a spectrum and I think they both completely underestimated the difficulty of long distance relationship also because because the other reason the other which isn't a lot in a span of a year but that's because she probably would have went more if she was he had too she probably would have went more if she was with somebody who was with the back and forth made she literally there was also the the instance of work too right they also referenced that and I think that you're also underestimating that she spoke so flippidy about it like this is going to be easy we're just going to go back and forth y not not this isn't Jersey and Philly but but it's Philly and Pittsburgh so the truth of the matter is if you make it intentional you'll be you'll do it anything you want you can have if you're intentional about it I period I don't disagree with that so she wasn't flipping about it was about it though she knew what she had the capacity to do so to they had talked about that she they didn't need to talk about they did she knew what she need she could do to make a relationship like that work she knew her responsibility I do not have to talk to you about the responsibility of what I think I need to do to show up in this relationship I'm going to show up a certain way and then you're going to show up a certain way and then we calibrate based on that that's literally how it's going to go so for her she said okay 6 hours I go back and forth I've been a London so it ain't that deep I know it's going to cost me that it's a Spirit flight a boom boom or whatever I forget the cheap flight or what ever there she probably thought it's not going to be that deep when he comes she got a rental car for him she made sure he had an iron boy she made sure to set her home up so he felt comfortable so she had a very good understanding of what it took to be in a relationship long distance I do not think he I think that he dropped the ball I think that he underestimated the fact that he did not have no goddamn funds whatever time any of that curreny in any of that regard in order to give her to build on that relationship that's not her fault I think the idea that you don't have to communicate and and plan about how you're going to attack something as big as longdistance relationship six some hours apart from each other is wild but nobody is saying that they not I'm saying didn't have to no I'm saying resp she understood her responsibility great it doesn't if you're not communicative which is why but nobody they had no plan about this you as a couple are supposed to talk about and communicate how you plan to attack this it was evident to me that neither one of them had this I said it I've said it on here before before the year of time happened where she did all of that stuff I said this sounds crazy they're not talking about this you it was very clear that they had no plan of action as to how they weren't going to execute long long dist relationship which is a very big thing to undertake especially when you are a very big adult with jobs and businesses and all of these other things and responsibilities it was very clear to me that they never had those conversations and that's what I'm talking about I do think to your earlier point they underestimated what it required and by they i% him and I don't mean to and I don't want to like put this on him but reason why I am is because she always to hear her say she went there eight times and then she set her space up to look you know a certain way for him and he didn't reciprocate in kind lets me know that he dropped the ball to tell her that I'm not saying that he did drop the ball I'm not I'm not disputing that that's not a debate for me but that's what I'm saying I'm saying that's what I'm getting to like I feel like there was an underestimation of what it required but I also think that it feels more disingenuous because to only go up there two time like come on be for real like you not y'all not kids y'all adults and and to fly from Pittsburgh from Philadelphia Pittsburgh probably cost more money than to go from Belfast to London I'm saying take this word from me we watch these people sit in the pods for weeks and talk about nothing we watched this happen for weeks you will save yourself so much heartache and heartbreak if you have people these people will show their cards like what would it look like if you had to come back and forth like how would we do it I understand what you saying or you have a business here right it was evident to me because anytime she would even broach the subject he would just kind of be like oh okay we'll figure it out so y'all never had that conversation either about the whole Belfast thing or about the whole business thing right they never talked about his gym if they did it didn't happen on camera we never we never heard that so that in itself to me was a red flag like um my thing is you will save yourself so much heartache and heartbreak if you have these conversations beforehand you could you would be able to tell his or her intent and how they are going to approach or show up for you in a situation of long distance how many times do we plan to go back and forth with each other how are we going to handle about do we set aside a saving fund for we're going to be doing so much more travel how are we going to plan for financing this travel but that's why I think they need more time like I think this to your I think you're making a good point because when I think about Married at First Sight they start having these conversations about like all right where we going to live what are we going to do when we leave this place and they have a counselor and you know what I mean what are the finances looking like cuz these people don't I haven't heard anybody even speak about you know what I mean like the money thing and everything outside of like Freddy you know what I mean the only people I've heard even broach the subject in finances was about the goddamn ice cream that was the only like couple that actually heard even try to get into the subject and y'all claim that y'all sit in these pods and y'all have such this is the reason why you're able to fall in love at at first sight or or or love is blind or whatever this is the reason why you're able to do it because you have such deep conversations and then it you you get out these people get out excuse me and then the world smacks y'all and then it's like a wakeup call to your point with Maria in time if you were dating intentionally to be married and you wanted somebody to take care of you a certain way or wanted to really have a better or deeper conversation about how you expect to be taken care of why would you just had that conversation this is my point like just be clear when you are an adult in a relationship you have to teach the other person how to show up for you yes so when I say I'm not putting the onus on one person that's what I'm talking about as a couple it does not matter mean about the communication it does not matter what sex you are both adults in a relationship have to make their expectations known expectation is what killed the cat both couples have to communicate these things especially when you're about to embark on some type of big part of life moving in together longdistance relationship understanding how we're going to do this how we're going to do that you have to you have to have a conversation about that at the point where you release this information to the other person that's when the other person is now responsible for that so just jumping into something and then winging it even if you're great at winging it does not mean that you're not at fault for why the thing went to [ __ ] and I think that the same way with Maria at at a coffee at a at a ice cream shop at the counter is not the time to be like to chew somebody out about how you think you want to handle finances that's just not the time and it probably alarmed him and I do think there is a way it's funny cuz I was looking at this thing today because I was up all night long literally and I was just like reading stuff about my sign and stuff like that and it was just saying how like Virgo moons are picky Partners like really picky people and I'm like am I picky yes but like with men oh that's a different I don't know I don't know you know what I mean but in my brain when I was like but I was sitting there and I was thinking but I'm picky yeah I'm particular I'm not picking on particular but I think I'm like but when I was thinking about it I was like very No Nonsense with people like I just was like cut to the quick like all right we can do this we going to do it this way or we're not you know what I mean and I just don't understand why it's so hard for people to communicate what they need um especially when it comes to like how we expect to share finances how we expect to share a life like if you're meaning to have something long term like and I get it cuz me and you had an issue I feel like had trouble talking about it at first every couple has issues uh uh uh bro broaching some of these yeah and and it's and it's it's it's awkward for most couples we've watched a ton of these shows 99.9% of them have trouble broaching the subject of finances or broaching the subject of of how we're going to handle you know how we're going to handle living arrangements or who's going to live closer to whose job all of these big things and it's understandable you're human and you're coming from a place that is completely opposite you live by yourself most of them live by themselves only took care of themselves most of these people don't have kids and other things like that so this is a big life change that's understandable right and I think to your point on shows like Married at First Sight and things like that it's easier because there's somebody guiding them and asking them these questions Let's Talk About Sex let's talk about finances somebody is guiding them through that it's very difficult when no one is guiding you through that the only person who mentioned it was and even that speaking about being vague and vague conversations I felt it was a vague conversation completely you know what I mean like I so vividly remember like telling people like no I need this this this and this and then we can move on in this relationship and it's just and not to be like you know city girls up 1,000 but more like I'm a woman and these are my expectations and I feel like she speaks about things very like oh you don't understand it's cultural and it's like well people understand you have to educate these people you cannot jump into a situation with another human being not tell them to play and to be mad at them for dropping the ball you just mad at Tom and you'reall not going to make me be mad at him you just can't do it as a woman who's hyper picky and Hyper particular um you can't do certain things and be on my doorstep how could we what did sh right where would we meet we we don't shop at the same places we don't do this we doing so I wouldn't even meet this human you know what I mean and I think that like if that's the case sis you also have to communicate those things because like he might have felt like oh she just here to you know for clout or whatever and she a makeup artist we ain't talking about somebody who a surgeon who and this is no disrespect to makeup artist cuz I know there are a ton who make a lot of money so that's not what I'm saying I'm saying in his eyes they not making money in the UK like they making in America let's keep it 100 okay ain't nobody tipping don't matter they can't be charging people three and $400 out of the face and all that silly stuff they're not doing it so it's like in but you would have reservations without knowing this person or the context in which they live their life yes you would have reservations by their occupation yes we just talk we talked about that in one of the previous videos if he said he was a makeup artist you she would question that she but by her logic she would because she wants to live a certain life so it's like even to put on him like oh well I wouldn't want my to judge anybody based on this and that and it's like baby but that's kind of what you did but am I like missing it am I missing it and then the whole playing victim thing of well he just I don't like that he just kind of he was disrespecting my my mother and my sister I didn't think he did it he didn't he didn't what did he do but did I miss it he just didn't he said what he wanted to do and how he wanted to live his life and how he wanted to raise his family and it was just different from yours period And I think so many people want to come out of these situations with a win especially when they don't say you know what that's a very good point especially when they don't they're not the ones who went first at the altar so they didn't say no so now it's well I'm my win is going to be I'm I'm the victim he victimized me he's the big bad wolf and he was disrespecting my culture now you trying to get the culture after him he was disrespecting my girl sit down it was just BS it was and it's okay to say like I want I'm a housewife and I enjoy being a housewife I'm not very good at it but you know I'm I'm learning and I think that like but me and him communicated about it we were just like well what does it look like if I stay at home you know what I mean or if I don't rush to work like what what does it look like and I think like why are we not having it is a big conversation so I do understand it and you know inversely we have a lot of time in so we can we are equipped to have those kind of conversations but it's like y'all insert these things to fail you're not going to get me to believe otherwise like yall literally create the scenario for you to fail because there was a way for this young lady to communicate her needs in a way that he understood it you're not going to get me to believe in 2024 time this grown white man don't understand that he got to pay for pom pom you're not going to get me to you're not going to get he's been dating all this time but also you are not going to finesse us to not believe our eyes we're watching the show we're getting the read on certain people we're hearing how people move and how people nothing about time got he was some f boy who wasn't going to put any Bill nothing about him gave that and ice cream for your fiance for your fiance I tell people all the time when they come to my house the least I could do is feed you that's the very least I could do so to me the idea that this is a person that you that would if I'm a man that gives me a red flag because if my husband pays for everything and I go out and buy the coffee that's out of love I'm not going to be like you ain't buy the coffee like that you know what I mean but the red flag to me would have been the um the game of it all the test of it all that the one thing that you don't do especially in a married as a married couple is create obstacles there's enough obstacles already there it it they they just there's there's enough landmines on the field of marriage you do not need to bring your own you don't cuz life is going to life period so you putting me through a test I would have been done with you right we're I'm an adult talk to me that's not how we handle things we don't this We're Not Kids little girls test boys oh I'm testing I'm G to see what he say about this Testament to this is childish inexperience it's a test immaturity immature because mature because mature men and women speak their needs they speak their expectations he's older but you know what and that's too he was like I ain't doing he 38 and she 30 and he Pro and and this is no shade to Maria cuz I like Maria a lot I like her energy so this is no shade to her she just got a little bit of grownup to do like I think about who I was as a young woman and who I am now and how I'm just world's different and how the way that I'm able to communicate about things and how I used to snap on people I used to be in Nordstrom sax snapping on mother jum they don't give me what I want and the idea that I just would like I think about her and cringe you know what I mean like she's going to get to a space where she's going to learn how to communicate her needs so effectively and efficiently it's not even going to feel like to him that she wants to take take take you know what I mean and I think that that's the thing like I'm not saying that you have to bring something to the table cuz I don't believe in that ideology at all but I think that I am always an asset I don't have to explain how I'm an asset anything like that but I know if I'm in your life you're going to win and I think that like she's just not and she doesn't have to make a case for that as much as she just has to learn how to speak to what it would require of him in order for him to be more of a better asset to him but that is bringing something to the table but I I don't like that conversate or what do you bring to the table cuz I don't bring a [ __ ] thing to the table you bring a lot to the table no no no no you don't like the I'm not bringing nothing but a doggy bag I'm taking from the table taking the chairs I'm taking the table I'm taking everything with TR for the matter is I don't like the terminology I don't think we should have to speak to each other like that no and I agree I'm saying that in every relationship there's a ying and a Yang there's a give and a take no team functions correctly uh if everybody's not playing their role right now your role looks will look different on what whatever team that you are but you have to be playing your role for your team as a husband and wife you are a team so what you bring to the table is different it will be different um but you have to don't like the but in in in the essence in in the essence of it you do have to bring something and I think part of the big disconnect with a lot of men in today's um uh dating world is we just had a conversation about this stat that was going viral on Twitter about how they said 80% % of single men are not um interested in continuing to to look for partnership um and then somebody said you know uh I want people to chime in and give reasons or whatever and I read I was up late one night too and I was just read I was just curious I just reading cuz I'm also I've been out the game for a while so I'm curious what the single you know what I mean I'm curious what the single people are saying um and a lot of them talked about um a lot of it was based in genuine con activity and whether or not they feel like what they are bringing is reciprocated in some point if you got into the details of that it wasn't just like I'm paying bills and you cooking if some of it was as small as I'm I'm carrying the conversation and you're not saying anything back to me I'm texting you and you're not texting me back I'm calling you you're not calling me back I'm we on the phone and I'm I'm doing a lot of the I'm I'm not cooking huh I said you pay the bills and I'm not cooking but but but a lot of a lot of I'm definitely a lot but but a lot of it was that and and that falls under the essence of like you have to bring something especially in the age where you know I see a lot of people people will post a picture on uh Twitter and say you know it'll be a girl in the bikini and it'll say how can somebody cheat on her right and it's like there's this there's this thought process in this generation of like I just have to be pretty girl you but I think but what we not talking about is that that was Charlotte's issue it might have been she didn't have the personality that Demi or Catherine had because she just didn't need to personality is not required of her she's a stunning girl and I think she has a personality I just think that she's not required to show it like some people have to and I think also Ali said something too that was introspective to that he said she didn't show up off on camera like she did off camera and I think a lot of people to I think a lot of people too aren't they can't get in front of these Camp cuz there's some there's a a a a tad bit um there's an aspect of performance when you have to do these things when you have to film when you have to show up like there's an aspect of performance to it like you got to be on a little bit you know what I mean like we sit here and we talk and we We Do videos and and we are very much so ourselves like what you see is what you get but we got I don't but we are a bit on we have to be cuz otherwise I'll be like yeah cuz right now I'm like cuz I ain't got it I'm used to I'm used to pushing through a lot of my my my job is that any anyway especially when you sit down and you on tour and you on four uh shows in in five nights and you would be surprised cuz I'll be outside smiling and then I just hide myself and I can hear people like where Joe at and you know what I mean I just don't I I just don't have it so there's an aspect of that and everybody is not able to do it everybody doesn't have the turn off turn off thing um everybody's not you kind of want to be genuine right like that's not who you are part of you does want to show up that way because isn't that the point and it's it's very different from from people's expectations I think especially if you're not adjacent to show business people see these reality shows and they just think okay um I just got to sit here on this couch and talk to this guy when if you're at a major production it's me her it's four other people in the room it's more likes than what we have is somebody on a jib is somebody in a steady cam right there you and you might be in a room and it just might be you and somebody filming on a day you might be surrounded by 15 people that's intimidating for people who just work in an office every day you know what I mean we shouldn't too hard it's not we shouldn't be too hard on people who don't show up the same way on camera because because most of these people and I appreciate the people who are not you know aspiring YouTubers like I appreciate the people who just work they just in the world and then they happen to get picked for this show and they're just not necessarily comfortable you know I think I like I like it more and and and so that wasn't a dig on Charlotte that was just like I think that that's what happens like you know what I mean like sometimes people will see you and give you the benefit of the doubt versus when you don't have that Personality yeah or you don't have that that to kind of Shield you you know what I mean cuz sometimes your looks and how you present can be like your armor M you know what I mean in certain ways so and everybody doesn't have an outgoing entertaining personality we've all met we've all met beautiful people who just it's not great conversations but they're beautiful but they're just not great conversations you know what I mean that might have been her she she might have not been entertaining at all but it's so funny because to me make but I'm a woman so for woman I feel like it's a little bit different like you just want somebody who want to like make you laugh like you want him to be goodlooking but it's like what's more important is how he make you feel I mean I don't know to me how he makes you feel and so I tell y'all all the time I used to date not ugly men everybody be like you did not date ugly man but I be like I just like to laugh you know what I mean and I'm really a geek and I'm really like funny I'm hilarious so you got to be able to ban her you know what I mean and and people men don't read you know what I mean I am I lying you know what I mean then they want to tell you they want to take you to church and all that stuff like that like I don't lying you know what I mean I ain't got time but um and I'm married so but I do want to talk about how did you feel about Demi asking Ali and Charlotte are they dating I just didn't like I it it wasn't the question it was the energy behind it I just thought this is weird energy for somebody who dumped another person don't know something that's what I'm talking about like this is weird energy for somebody who D who initiated the breakup of somebody else and they obviously clearly got together after the show was over but then I didn't know that they had all they had a a connection we don't know what to what in the connection was but I also didn't know that they had a connection prior so that made it even more weird after finding all that information I just didn't like like the energy behind it you know what I mean because what did she do to even deser this energy that you giv her I've never heard a girl speak how about that but you know what I thought was thinking and I'm probably I'm talking out two sides of my mouth when I say this so bear with me part of me feels like the situationship stuff is so corny what you mean like if I ask you is that your man or if I ask you something like that and you can't just definitively say Ali and I are dating we are on track to um potentially this is a generation kind of whack to me like we too old I had a conversation about somebody we know today about same thing and they told me this and I didn't respond to it and I wanted to I wish you were around me cuz I wanted to say this why I don't entertain what is so what is it what are you doing this is a generational thing this new it's a lot of great area uh dating it's a lot of like we don't have La it's very weird but people in this space it's very normal now from SS like super normal nor when back in the day men used to be like you're my girl like period but do do people ask oh I meant to ask youall that do people ask you to be in a relationship with them or do you just assume you're in a relationship I think nowadays they do ask but I think they spend more time in the gray area than I than I remember ever spending like back in the day we were in the gray area a lot back in the but not really back in the day there was like a quick claiming oh yeah it was like I would find out I was in relationships I didn't even know I was in I would be like oh we are together like you know what I mean there wasn't this I mean and and and from women like there there seems to be this the women of today are way more like they're way more comfortable in the gray area than the women that that I remember in my single years um they're just like yeah we don't okay y' ain't doing nothing you know what I mean like what's happening there going to the point of like you know like we just had a conversation about somebody who we knew that was staying over somebody's house who didn't claim them that would have never happened like when I was dating that just wasn't a thing you know what I mean so I think it's a it's a gen and I'm in this era like I don't even I don't even mean like age group I mean the era 23 to 43 y'all are all doing the same weird and I just can't get with it but it is more common that's what I'm hearing it's more common cuz it is just kind of like I just didn't understand what the stuttering was for I'm interested in Charlotte we're trying to see where things are going period what's the you can't figure that out like why are we so afraid to say that we have connection with somebody I don't know that's a question for the entire cuz I saw we sawed a lot on love Island um reunion too what's going on with y'all you know well we you know uh what I don't get it and I don't and I don't know if it's like I don't want to be the first to claim or I don't know I I really I'm just curious about that and that could be old school in that regard like you either my man or you're not you're in the win so you do have and back in the day that used to be the thing you got to cop up you know what I mean cuz if you don't cop up you're out of here like you get a girl number on Monday y'all are y'all are together by Friday no like literally it was like oh so we we go together what does that how we go we just met but I think that's of them saying like we're being intentional about this whether it's not us just dating each other or whatever the case may be cuz I do think it's a space where you could be just dating to have fun and dating multiple people so don't get me wrong but we weren't doing that not back in the day like you know what I mean I was I remember being in middle school and never like you you were married like you were just married like you know what I mean all y'all did was talk on the phone but that was it like you know what I mean that's my fish right there don't touch my fish go for everybody else's fish I feel like I had a different experience like I did a lot of I did a lot of dating and I feel like when I was with somebody who was intentional it was like okay I don't know who you thought you were seeing on Thursday or Wednesday me and you are going to be together and you just need to let them communicate that to them and it would be like oh okay I guess I'm in a relationship like you know what I mean like it just but I wasn't going to Broach that subject because I would put myself in position like I'm here I'm not dating you because I want to be just like dating a bunch of people but I will date a bunch of people because I'm not going to waste my time on one person like that just was my thought process so I kind of get where these young women are but I also feel like somebody man woman or Nat is not coming to the stage and saying like they just want connection like I want to be in a relationship I'm a firm believer that men will only do what you allow them to do and I think that the women this this this gray area movement I think respectfully the women are leading it I think the these men that's out here living in the gray area and not even like that I think that big number of this 80% of men who are not blah blah blah blah blah that's because they have a lot of situationships where the women are fine with them being situationship oh that's what it is cuz the women okay with it because before you couldn't be out you couldn't that's when when I said when I said that I was in relationships I didn't that was in that's because people were claiming me off the rip you know what I mean there was no like you know I mean I might have met the person on Monday if I got a text message next to this woman on Wednesday she like who is that I need to know like there was very much so a clear there was very much so a clear line of like no we not doing that you know what I mean so you can either get on or get off and now it sounds like the line is very much blurred it's very open and I think this is led by the women like the men they will do what you allow them to do but think we're I think this is a Chicken N kind of situation cuz I think one could argue that could it be that men had operated in a certain space where they did whatever they wanted to do for so long and women were at the behest of that that now women are just like you going to do it any goddamn way so you might as well go ahead and do your thing I'mma do my thing too and now we're living in this great area that seems like women are facilitating it but really what they did was just acest to no I I don't subscribe to that theory only because for my time I'm only going off of my experience and experience that I've you know the things that I've seen before my era it was happy wife happy life you just picked up your pill and went to work and and didn't talk about your feelings you know what I mean yeah but they also had families on the side you know what I mean they also getting prostitutes they also was doing what they saying the vibe was very much oh I guess we get married you know what I mean so and then and then my era it was the era of expectation it was like we talk on the phone three times a week you're my husband you know what I mean so I just I I I think that we're in this social media age where everybody wants to be cool where we know we know a couple people personally who are in relationships where they are themselves convincing them that they're okay with something that I I believe it's to present to the rest of the world that I'm okay it's so that you know that I'm the cool girlfriend I've been with this mug for eight years and I'm cool with not getting married cuz I'm the cool girlfriend there's a lot of I think there's a lot of the cool I think there's a lot of posturing for social media I think there's a lot of posturing for PR effect and PR reason but I also think some of that is taking women's power back I think not even take I don't even want to make this a man woman thing as much as I powerful to me but I think the power is in being able to make the choice for yourself but y'all ain't making choices and I don't mean y'all but I mean I mean not making a choice isn't helping you but what I'm getting at is a for a long time what we're burying the lead on is that men have been able to operate a certain way without any reproach above reproach right we literally have seen men have families around the corner um you know got a prostitute here mother live here I'm just talking about the expectation even even in a runto muck era the expectation is marriage there's an expectation of how someone to show up that expectation is washed away today but this is what I'm getting at I think the problem is is that so many of these new generation of women have seen the women before them go through stuff I don't believe that and now they're like I'm not going to go through this stuff no I don't I don't believe that this is the motivation I don't I've seen I've seen too much and I'm saying I'm not saying that these things didn't happen and these weren't real experience I'm saying that I don't believe this has that's nothing new Under the Sun so I'm saying that the motivation for these actions are far more aesthetically motivated than anything emotionally from emotional all about the vi a th% I think I think this whole thing where everybody wants to be py don't have nothing to do with you saying your daddy uh cheat on your mama it has nothing to do with that I think it has everything to do this is a generation of sheep I'm sorry it's a lot of monkey see monkey do it's a lot of if everybody want the same man because everybody wants the same man it's just a lot of that you know what I mean and so I think that a lot of these choices that are not choices are motivated by somebody else's judgment somebody else's thought process there's a lot of people following the trend following somebody else because if the trend was everybody is getting married and nobody ain't taking no [ __ ] that's what be will be happening that's how the world will be shaking andov Dr cant okay this woman said something I think is so poignant a lot of times the people who are high value are low functioning like you know what I mean because they think in their brain because they're here they don't have to do all of these other things and I think that lends to women as well in that we get to a certain space where now we don't feel like we got to be dealing with or doing all this other stuff like you know what I mean so now the action is low despite the fact that we are actioning we're being sexually active we're being around people we're da we're living a life whatever and for some of these women they're having a good time and for some of them these women they are not they are pretending like they are thousand I would argue that most of them are not and I would argue that a lot the majority I would argue that the majority of them have an inflated sense of value because of social media some of y'all think because the world affirms my prettiness every day cuz I have six 100,000 followers or 100,000 followers or 50,000 followers I think some people think I don't have to show up hence the the the viral post of how can somebody cheat on me cuz you're pretty okay and I think that's leading L I think there a I think I think we're going to require a lot of um uh therapy behind social media and how it affects us in dating and in life I was listening to Tony gin's um actually earlier while I was I had put my headphones on and everything in the middle of the night and I'm listening to Tony Gaskins and this is like a ju position so just follow me he was talking about short men he was specifically referencing Jana Aiko and big sha and he said you can't be short and think you're going to be in a relationship with a woman for 8 to 10 years y'all got to cop up like you know what I mean he said because Jan Aiko is 5'2 but she could date a man who's 6'2 mhm see can't date a woman who 6'2 you can't date a woman who 5'11 they looking at you and saying even if they 5'4 and 5'2 that you too small you know what I mean so you have to make the the push to be uh committed sooner and I be I think that that's where we are I think that we're in a space where Aesthetics are leading how we're choosing people and when I mean Aesthetics I mean how well somebody curates their Instagram how well somebody curates their Tik Tok is how we're choosing people how how well somebody cuac their LinkedIn profile you know what I mean it's uh how we're saying is the telltale signs of like a good partner or whatever the case may be and I think what we're losing is the want to be companions cuz in what world he was absolutely right in what world are you 5'8 and you think you ain't supposed to cop up now you supposed to meet a [ __ ] love her and C up right now because you don't have eight years brother because all she going to do is come across a man who's 6 too with twist up in his hair and it's a rat for you it's a r and I think it's um there's a divide in that inflated sense of of self and value um and with people if everybody is in their Corner saying you have to come to me no one's meeting in the middle and I feel like that's a lot of what's going on as well but the men don't want to be the men they don't even take women we used to go to two for 20 a a we used to go to the movie theater Joe used to take me out every single weekend we were 16 every single weekend all through college honestly the way I'm like a sprinkle sprinkle is really because of je I tell people all time like he kind of started it and then I just like ran with that like you know what I mean because I I only dated the person who was the best provider I didn't even and that was just it and that all I could only like you based on how well you provided period And I feel like I understand where women are coming from with that but I also think it's different now because it's like providing to nobody like we almost feel like we should be provided for without having to show up I felt like responsibility I yes a lot of it and a lot of it is just based off of Aesthetics or we've done this thing now where we've convinced people that because you have your own car um apartment and job you're a superstar no you're an adult that's all you are you're just an adult like that's it like we just have this thing where we we're applauding you know we're applauding adults for being adults you know what I mean and so now he got to be Jeff Bezos cuz I have a full-time job at at the local energy Factory and he don't have to be Jeff Bezos but the thing is he ain't going to be cuz there's only 10 of them in the United States you know I mean where you live like I feel like we are this the social media makes the world feel small right but the truth is the world is a very big place so in your brain you will be living in I don't know Mississippi talking about the man need to make $250,000 a year when in order to live well in Mississippi you may only need $80,000 you know what I mean so like you're missing out on and not to say I don't want y'all to deprecate your values whatever your value is you run with that but the problem is people aren't setting their value they're setting somebody else's value and that's the truth that's the thing you only want this man to make $250,000 a year cuz you heard some Joan on the podcast who you love say the same thing and you're like yes I want to say that I have that do you know how much $250,000 is no people do not have concept people it's very evident to me that a lot of y'all do not have concept of actual dollar and cents no and and what wealth is and what money is they were talking about the other day about how Jeff basos was apparently interested in purchasing one of the football teams I can't remember um which team or football or basketball teams I can't remember which team it was the Lee had raised the price to was it $6 billion $6 billion and they thought that that was too high and too expensive because the team that had just previously sold thinking was this Sacramento Kings or Clippers or somebody like that sold for $400 million and so I wanted to do the math on what it's like for a billionaire of Jeff Bezos status to pay $6 billion for something when I looked it up it was the equivalent of a middle class family spending $115,000 to buy a franchise to literally buy to literally buy a sports franchise so that's if you make anywhere between 50 and $65,000 a year to for you to buy a sports franchise it will cost you $155,000 like people don't have a concept of what wealth is but people will say you know they'll let it they'll let it sway how they vote people talking about the the the capital G the capital gains tax don't get me started on Capital just a whole thing like very clear taxes because y'all are not in the same tax bracket with these people that's a whole another video for another day but you're not in the tax bra I just want to say this there are certain um podcast uh millionaire motivation uh the one with the the Puerto Rican guy the one with the guy who flipping houses these men do not read they were able to figure out a way to get you all to subscribe to pay for um these little um you go into these meetings and seminars they they make their money from that they make their money from they make their money from you consuming their content so when I see them talking about capital gains test oh this is going to ruin us I want y'all to start none of y'all will have to worry about any of that nobody I'll say this people who have to worry about the capital gains tax do not have a YouTube channel where they post uh weekly and daily on it it just they just don't unless you miss Beast the truth of the matter is it's like it's not even the posting of the content that bothers me they are not talking about you they are not and that's just it and they're not talking about them right they can make millions of dollars they can show you they $20 million they still not talking about them right they at $20 million and they don't got that and they don't have that and they don't have that but at a $20 million portfolio they still not talking about you and and I need y'all to just be good citizens and Joe because it scares me it is scary and it's frightening because I am the person that'll read it I'll go through and say oh on page 43 it says this I literally could tell people didn't read it just based on how they commented I immediately knew I'm like a quick and not even like all of this stuff is public policy you just Google it it literally will give you a synopsis of it and then the full down breakdown and the full actual policy so what I'm saying is is that these people will have you on here steering you wrong having you believeing one day you're going to be the 100 millionaire too and [Laughter] guess you can't believe other millionaires want you to become a millionaire how about that they do not they do not the system is set up literally to keep you from becoming a millionaire and them teaching them getting you to spend $1,000 on a sem a two-day seminar is not for your game it's not it's not and that's sitting this all cuz when me and my husband host our brunch and we ask yall for little $50 it's not I'm going to feed you some chicken it ain't going to be about just you know what I mean we're going to come in Fellowship you're paying for your maal I don't need you to pay for appearance to see you know what I mean like I'm not TD J and nobody yeah I just I just want y'all to understand the value of a dollar and understand the value of money and understand these ta these tax brackets but even the come full circle it it it's very relevant dating because sis you don't need your man to make $100,000 to live good you live in Texas you need to understand you need to understand what those values are because so many times people are just paring things that they heard somebody else say but if I make 125 and you make1 125 we make $250,000 a year right life is easy we only got one mortgage one light bill One telephone bill what's I don't like I am all for the sprinkle SP lifestyle do not get me wrong y'all but the numbers are not in your favor it's just not I'm just saying it from that it's not in your favor it's it's not or it is and y'all all dating the same man all want the same man everybody wants the same man and it's just not the the math is just not mathing and I want I want people to pick people and place value on things that are important to them like what is really important to you you the individual not the people who you follow or not the people who follow you or pay attention to you right I just want people to focus on because that is really where great things are born from the time in Maria situation kind of like annoyed me a bit because sometimes people just don't understand what you're saying to me it felt more like a miscommunication than like a cultural dispute right you know what I mean like we need to have further conversations about this and I just feel like they didn't and it was kind of like it was kind of I I think I think you know she was young now and I keep thinking that because as a young woman I think she's old enough for where the owners to communicate and communicate clearly and effectively is on her and she should have done that oh yeah I really don't need to talk about Bobby and Jasmine because they're still married shout out to them love their little package though I love Bobby and Jasmine's um package and I loved Bay's and Nicole's package as well like they do seem like they are really really a good fit for one another I'm not boting to either one of these couples I don't think either one of them will last Jasmine I think jine and Bobby going to last okay well I don't and so I think that the whole banaya um and and uh Nicole thing is just annoying to me I'm just I'm just over it I just thought that um there was a lot of gas lighting going on there um she's Nicole is the Nicole is the one who who who went left and then ended up going and and picking this other man and then he now he's a vagabond and they vagabonding together I'm I'm I'm really over it a VAB I'm I'm over it you know they traveling and living their life and I you know I'm excited for them on that I mean I really wish that there was a little bit more Dragon a Catherine but that's because I'm the biggest hater but you know what I wanted to bring up and this is what I wanted to bring up around the Demi and um Catherine situation sometimes it is hard for white women to believe that black women are attractive to black men or or black men are attractive to black women is what I'm that and are more desirable than them that was the biggest the fact that she lost and I say lost because a lot of times I feel that these people view this as competition I feel like a lot of these tear are more motivated by losing than actually losing the person especially on TV I think more of it is is motivated by embarrassment than it is actual heartbreak and I think the fact that she lost out to Demi really she's more desirable than Demi that and and I think it's for more than one reason I think it's because yes you know what I mean and and I she didn't have to say it I believe that and honestly if we keeping it 100 I think that's what Jasmine thought I think that's what Jasmine thought too I think that's what Jasmine thought I think she's used to black men because she was doing nasty stuff too and I didn't like that that's why that's another reason why but I don't think they friends like that no more they can't be cuz she had to see how she how she handled the situation Jasmine at one point walked up to her and told her you need to show me yeah you need to show me that you're happy yeah who the f like are you serious no no didn't cat tell her that or did no Jasmine said that okay and I never forgot it because I thought this woman is so pretty on the outside and she's so nasty on the inside I just thought it was so mean Spirit to say to a girl who has not done anything to you or made any indication that she's in distress or that it it was very clear that you were trying to dissension in her relationship it was just so nasty so that's why I'm not invested in her relationship and what she doing to this other young man who need to run cuz she's a villain and it'll come out even more in his relationship at one point she'll see it so I'm I'm not really investing in either one of these couples that's still left you know I love a villain but no I I think that there's a big conversation to be had around that because I think um when I think about when hanging out with my friends I have diverse group of friends and I have a specific set of friends that I think feel that way like I think they think I don't think they think I think about it but I think they think about it like I am in a place in my life where I am a married woman so I it's not even that like you know you chat with people or whatever the case may be but I don't have the same kind of need to um I don't have the same kind of desire for the male gays does that make sense so sometimes even though these people are in relationship as well sometimes I'll be out with them and it feels like like I can buy my own drinks I'm I'm past the point where I need a man to pay for dinners now you know what I mean I don't care if I'm out with my girlfriend's or not we can buy our own drinks or whatever the case be but I think that when I'm around this particular group I am the black woman you know what I mean and I think it is like this thing of desirability that is always litigated it's not overt it's just in a way like you remember when I said I just feel like she just want to tear your skin off and wear it I really do believe that like people think that um white ice is colder MH I think that there is this thing with black women with and I don't know if you guys have ever noticed it with your friends or whatever the case may be cuz I don't think they do it intentionally I think the world has made it so that you have to think oh like oh this poor little black girl wor that she uhhuh like girl I don't I like if I wanted to talk to men I would talk to men you know what I mean but I can almost feel it sometime like it's pable oh okay but I do think there's something to how other women and other women of color perceive Beauty when it comes to black women and Demi is mixed you know what I mean so it's like even that is kind of like on the line but she also isn't the physical no she she's not standard of European Beauty mhm you know what I mean so it's always just fascinating I don't know let me know what you guys think thank you guys so much for joining us again we talked about a lot today I'm your girl inar Elanor this is Joe Conor we'll see you later peace bye