Online Hate, Pregnancies and Wedding Updates with Erin and Taylor McGregor #134

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listening welcome back and if you're new welcome hello welcome to the chats to where we just spill everything basically mhm and talk chice it's like your weekly therapy your weekly yeah your weekly hang out with the G pal yeah I hope that our podcast is like well actually I like I love talent and Brooks podcast love I hope that we can give that for you when I listen to that somewhere else just listening and even if you're not really like actually listening to the conversation it's just nice to have some like like if you're getting ready or like yeah driving like it's just something something to make it not feel alone you just feel like Comfort where I feel like remember Shan car's podcast I listen to every episode three times to follow they used to sleep like so well it's like yeah maybe because it's a familiar cuz I knew yeah they know them like as H voice love love it I'm like the I say I'm the top fan of their podcast yeah listen to and you can also now watch the podcast too we have a camera lovely camera in front of us yeah they are live every wed sorry every Thursday mhm on YouTube so you can watch us there as well and see us and watch us on the Telly wo I think I've watched I I have watched on telly already yeah I put on put it on of our episodes um on this week's episode we are joined by eron and tayor McGregor we chatted about their mother daughter relationship going on the like the brand trips together yeah I can't imagine going my mou I know yeah but Aaron is like the coolest um both of their careers and how they manage hate on social media and so much more so we hope you enjoyed so we challenge ourselves to do a solo day do a little update does a solo day count as just bringing yourself out for a drivethru can we see that's not really challenging myself no cuz you yeah well that's what I did and I took it as that's your something you wouldn't usually do or would you okay now you really I think I failed this Mission lad not going to lie I I failed but you went to the gym week went to the gym got yeah I wasn't on my own but would you go on your own to the gym now yeah I'm actually going to join with PT on real yeah an online coach online and then you can go and you know what to do you're own in yeah focused mhm yeah and I'll go up and do it by myself yeah you get my head in the game yeah and then you're just not waiting on anyone else to just do wrong yeah do my own thing I'm starting to get up a bit earlier now as well oh nice yeah nice have root I feel like our job it's really easy to get in a rot and like not a rout of like just just your weeks are just all over the place because you haven't got we never have a set time time you can just Pi you can work at 10:00 at night if you want yeah you can do whenever so like it's nice to have one thing that's for you it's not work that you can slot in whenever you want yeah yeah cuz everything else kind of works around brands or like other people to podcast like that'll be your thing now that you just do when you want to do it so yeah I failed what was yours I went for a little breakfast day you're so cute see I mean it was in I actually name but it's in a besides Li Le lashes oh like right next door it's it called red hair or something I think I'm complet make that up but yeah cute that was lovely a got little brown breads salmon and that it was lovely yeah I went to Cinnamon the other day I brought Snickers to Cinnamon oh cinnamon obsessed I forgot that this exist oh my God it's my I think it's my favorite place for breakfast ever have the brown breads I did I love brown bread I got eggs got avocado hash brown oh my God don't know what we went through a phase of being there a lot why were we there so I don't know were we always out over that way or something I think we went live show yeah why were we always there I don't know there was a phase in our life where we were just there quite a l we were there with other people as well we'd bring we'd keep bringing people and showing them it like oh it was so nice cinnamon if you haven't gone you need to go I went to the one actually with que out in there's one yeah one L as well went out there very very good cuz I find there's not that many nice breakfast places in Ireland so when there is one it's like yeah unreal cinnamon you need to go okay mhm I need to I need the brown bread with a bit of but on it I love the little Cubes but I just love have you seen that hack where poker with a yeah I did it before did it work yeah really it's another great breakfast place actually in KCK is it Ry on the river or something or somebody you'll know you'll know where I'm on about it's like out past me like oh yeah past leag slip and all I think um but it's in an old church oh wow very nice does it feel like you're in a church um no not really it's all the coffee tables and all everywhere like you would yeah but the building itself absolutely none and the building itself is an old GE can't remember name something re Ry Ryan the river I think might made that up but there's another great good name very good but I did that trick with the butter poke a fork in it and you squeeze all out it comes out like cheese or like like little Snak yeah like spaghetti yeah yeah cuz I just find it hard to find a nice breakfast place there is a few but I feel like it's a few and that's it and then everyone's there and it's like can't even get SE no there's two places for you now if anybody's on the hunt for some Brey places also La Hoya Greens in terer Village oh very good you went thereon me yeah I like that place really like that what else just love a good breakfast day or in a side Bowl obviously either I think I'm making myself sick with them not sick but like I'm eating so many of them I haven't I don't get them that often and I'm not sick of them yet started to eat chia seeds in them oh I saw a video on Tik Tok that if you drink chees seeds every day in like a thing of water that's so good for you yeah I had to I was doing it last week do guys went to the doctor my G needs more fiber pleas tell the story I can't I simply can't maybe maybe feel more stay on the line basically when it's not so raw yeah when it's not so raw literally but yeah had you had you drink yeah you can get like mil cheesy is it called mil oh they're yeah they're grinded up yeah grinded up ones I just put them on a glass of water and I was Milling them back they're meant to be very good for your fiber good for you I saw someone being like I think you can sprink them on anything like if you have weat or something put a bit them on yeah they're nice like yeah the texture of them I don't really no no texture I don't really like drinking or eating them kind of both I think drinking have freak me out a little bit and I've seen P yeah I've seen no see have you seen people put them in like overnight oats and they like swell up that makes me a bit sick I don't like that no that's giv like Tri phobia but that's what you meant to do to drink them you have to let them moisturize first because if you have them on an empty stomach sorry if you have them and don't let them hydrate I think it's called Uh it can be hang on let me look it up great I'm just undoing everything how are you even eating them Just Eat Well I get them in my I get like cheese seeds in my ball but then when I drink them I just put them in a glass of water mix all the Blended ones like they're not the actual chees seeds just in water okay it's like the mil ones or is that the word I'm looking for yeah finally mil I just think of like a makeup powder it's like yeah drink them what happen kind of be bad for you they can expand in your digestive tract and can can cause unpleasant gastrointestinal symptoms oh you know what you can't [ __ ] win so you need to let them swell up it's don't if you have large amounts so they're good at absorbing liquids so they expand yeah so you're meant to swell them first so then they don't swell in that I don't think I like that texture yeah literally T reminds me of it h tadp yeah I don't think I'd enjoy that Tad um so yeah that the che what are we having breakfast breakfast oh we also want to say thanks we get loads of little gorgeous gifts in podcast thank you so much if you've ever sent anything into the podcast Studios they're very very good to us thank you we really appreciate and we got some gorgeous bath bombs from her Instagram is Seamore and Fizz we got some bath bombs we also got a necklace made for us by a girl that you know remember she sent she made them for us or is it bracelet Misha made us necklaces as well I still need to wear mine I was meant to bring mine dib and then I completely forgot it and then I'm going away this week though so I'll definitely wear it definitely this week but Misha um she makes like yeah where is she I need to find her now because I can't find it now but I'll put it up on H I put it up on the page but yeah I'm going to wear mine this week so yeah if you've ever sent anything into us thank you guys thank you and even little notes and letters that we it's really very cute really lovely um but other than that what's going on tomorrow I have my event for my cash wooho I can't stop wearing for the first time in our life not an outfit to our name Shook at least there's no color C this time because last time there was yeah this one was a color you had to wear pink or black and that would dress me out but I actually have things in my wardrobe that I could could wear yeah if worse came to worse no you'll have a ball I ordered to I ordered a dress from deop and that she's from Belgium so I don't that's going then my sister sent me over the heels I order to her house okay and then I got something off revolve as well but I don't that's still in Indiana or IND Indianapolis or whatever it's called IND whatever so you'll be fine it said it's coming Wednesday I don't know how it's getting from well could come tomorrow you reckon yeah it's it's only like a five flight I don't know where in miniapolis is is it Indian Indian indanapolis I know no I don't think that's place is it Indianapolis Minneapolis Minneapolis Minneapolis I we're just I think we're making up States at this rate let me see but you'll find there might be an update let me check you will find something you always pull it out of the bag and you'll have a ball and we're going to have so much fun and I really want and also my first have hes I can't wear anyway cuz it need to get altered my mom was your mom would be there something or a needle oh oh I was right Indiana Indian Apollos Indi in girl indianus I'm not too good at geography but that's where that's where it currently is and that was 4:00 a.m. this morning come here could still come it could still come we we have Fai I feel like I never stress with things like that cuz like it's just like there's something yeah like you will find something yeah there's much worse things that can happen yeah I feel like you never get to a point of being like I'm not gone no no no it never stuff like that never works out to be like ruining plans no you might be in the height of it a little bit but yeah and I also was kind of late ordering stuff anyway so I'm like it's like I'm waiting month for this one dress was so late so you'll be fine it's fine um you're going on your Hol poops I'm going to my Hol poops vacation on my vacation can't bloody waight when do you leave Saturday I leave on Saturday so by the time you listen this you'll be I'll be there stunning yourself I'll be bronzed I'll be full of cocktails how long is it a week seven nights 8 Days yeah love can't wait two of us just keep imagin two of us just keep imagining like what it's going to be like and it's very funny like he just said he's like he's like like eight like what if weird things happen like no like he just like like it it was like eight weeks ago like when we went on our first day I never would have thought that like8 weeks yeah well by the time we go yeah be8 weeks he was like but he was like I never would have thought like oh8 weeks later would be going on a flight like he's like I just can't imagine us in the airport and all I know I know I know what you mean yeah he's like what are we like it's just even though just how comfortable it's still like it's still just I was like what we going to be doing on the flight now he was like I'm just staring at you I was like I'm so excited I wonder what type of holiday like person is going to be yeah I say a holiday really shows the side of a person oh yeah yeah yeah yeah but I know he'll be up to crack it on okay raring to go so not like a stay in bed not as it is at home now the man doesn't sleep really oh no I love that love yeah early riser yeah but no I'm just so excited I booked us um the lounge in the airport and all oh so yeah what who you playing with earling guy our favorite love love earling so I love them I'm buzzing I'm excited that's so I just can't wait to go for dinners and get dressed up and like sip by the Poo you know what that one thing I hate about when I went Toano I feel like I like have to be much quicker getting ready oh yeah he's with girls he can just chill I feel bad him sitting there for ages and I'm like still doing stuff I'm like go [ __ ] I won't do anything to myself yeah and then my ha ends up like a and then you end up feeling bad in yourself and then and then you're taking out on him because you were ready yeah but he usually what to do now so have to tell me what to do he just tell him to like go down for a drink watch the match or something if there's a bar across the road just yeah just send them off okay okay okay don't have them in the room no right not for too long cuz then I'd feel like ant's so punctual for me like is he yeah and like it's fine to be punctual but like he just do be rushing me that yeah now might have to send he rush me when I'm when he's not like the day I was going to PO or somewhere he's like when are you leave and I was like this time he's like would you not want to St at and dress I'm like I know when I'm leaving and I'll be fine he's like my [ __ ] Dad yeah I'll have to send them off yeah send them off for a little drink and then you can come down to the Grand reveal Grand it's nice to have a grand reveal too if they see me getting ready then it's not ground reveal oh I like that what you mean then he can be like yeah it'll be his birthday when we're over there as well so I have a few tricks of my sleep oh yeah yeah yeah oh true you send out for that anyway yeah so yeah excited Phil is in when I'm back anyway I know you can tell hopefully it'll be all good news I haven't been on a Hollywood boy in years oh my God you years yeah actually so last one bosen what was it the same place no kind of I think alante wasn't it was it yeah better time this time [Laughter] yay today on the park we are delighted to be joined by the beautiful Aon and Taylor McGregor welcome welcome to mying we're so excited to Havey here thank you so much for coming in we never had for having us a mommy and a daughter Joo no we had your you're actually you're mom you yeah but not be not interviewing them yeah this is fun where your mom m her she just giving me death the whole time she yeah I love her tell stories childhood but you look like sisters to be honest you really do you really do eron you were quite young having Taylor weren't you I like not much 18 19 yeah I was 18 pregnant and just got 19 having her so pretty young a baby yeah still grown what was that like still bab K that young um it was real like shell shock I think like Taylor's what 24 now this year 24 so I had a 5-year-old at Taylor's age so it's mad m I think of me at 18 I'm like oh my God she just be saying things and I'm like I had a 5year old at your age after you that's not my fault yeah I was Shel it's very difficult I think like how did you navigate life at that like like you look a Taylor now 24 and going out and like do like my life together was there stuff when you were Taylor's age that you obviously couldn't do cuz you had Taylor at that time I think when you're young you're real naive like you really don't think of these things like you look at your M and you think she hasn't a clue or what they say you know they'll try and give you advice or you think you're going to stay with the same fell for the rest of your life and you think that your parents having a clue but they really do have a clue CU they can see things I'm not saying that's like that for everybody some people are lucky and they do get to stay together but I think now as an older parent looking back I'm like I guess their sadness for me having a baby so young was my life was stopping okay your whole life changes it's not about you like I see Taylor going to our festivals or worrying about what she has to wear or like spending all our wages and having no money till next month and like wanting to lend money like I didn't have those opportunities I didn't have that freedom to like go away and not have to worry about who was going to look after Taylor so I feel that I suppose that is the cons of having a baby so young your whole life your whole goal of being free is taken away from you yeah but then I suppose the pro is I we grew up together yeah but I was very motivated so I was very courage of and even as a young girl like I wasn't finished me hairdressing career so when Taylor was three months old I went back to work to finish that off a um and it was very difficult like I used to bring her with me like even doing like freelance hairdressing she was always with me like I forget that yeah and I remember like one of me clients meeting me maybe like a few years ago and be like I remember her being brought with you everywhere like sitting there eating our cereal while you were walking so I guess I knew I was responsible for yeah from a very young age and as heavy as that was on my shoulders that I suppose made me yeah cuz it was my job to look after Taylor it was my job to get her school uniforms and her school books and get her to dancing and she always came first but I suppose there was there's moments even now as a parent where I'm like oh my god when is it about me yeah like I remember someone saying like laughing and J when I got pregnant and Harry cuz obviously then I became a parent much later in life like a huge gap I was like 16 1 I devastated were were not only anymore my eyes you remember telling Taylor you were pregnant on her oh yeah she was still sitting on the toilet stop she was still sitting on the I kind of went a bit into shock I left the house I left the house and I was like no I was at the only grandchild as well for 16 years and my whole life Came Crashing Down I yeah dramatic like you're grown up yeah I knew had you at that age come on yeah it's when you tell a small kid that well they're getting a sibl it's the same reaction no like I was years of age and crying my eyes out like literally I had to get off the L remember I was getting on the L we were going to Vegas in a few weeks we were all going in family day shopping and I was like I'm not going with us I got on the leis got like two stops down I was hyperventilating on the leis and I had to get off jeez now love there you go I know at the time you're so used to just being you and everyone Focus for 16 years and then boom everything was changing yeah there you go now both of my pregnancies a for one was a Tean pregnancy unmarried mother that I hid and was going to knew I was going to get into trouble and the second one was my teenager storming out and not talking to me so I'm like congrat her for about a week I went into school and I was crying I yeah I would not speak to you I think I actually St with my dad for cuz I just could not Fe no Ru in my life that's not good for pregnancy hormones she's the worst pregnant person ever I remember after har she was talking about having another one and I was like please God I will literally mve out if she got pregnant again is very different yeah no I I I was violently ill on Taylor but I I think like I always remember getting the bus and I'd have to get off the bus stop and get sick and then get back on the bus because it was Cork Street at the time it was really narrow right he used to get the bus in to me job and the traffic would be that bad that by the time I'd got to the next bus stop the bus would be back again and I'd have to get on I think Harry was much more difficult like I had to be medicated on Harry I I think for me having a boy the sickness was way worse they always say about do they like yeah do they say they're different being a boy and a girl like a girl takes your beauty a yeah you're meant to be glowing isn't yeah I don't I don't think I glow on any of that you're feeling PUK a lot PUK are constantly felt nauseous she swelled I remember there's a picture just just after you had Harry and her face is like that size and I was like this is I love when people got get all puffy did you ever see Kim Kardashian's face when she's I think it looks so nice like oh my God Aaron McGregor has filler and I'm like now I'm just it's not filler everyone's obsessed with the fact that they think I have F in my face have real puffy cheeks like nice smile no I hate it no I I used to hate that when I was younger as well cuz I was like I thought they were but cheek yeah so cute wait they start dropping girls the cheeks start going down like this no no no I'll be getting a face lift on them certain age Hest see see Chris Jenner's one that had me convinced she she got it was in episodes I think I think she's had two so yeah they literally just take the skin off your face and just pull it pull it back oh yeah so one day you see me and I'm look like I'm suctioned that why love it that's the look that she want love and eron go back to your hairdressing career so did you do that up until Harry or were you still going after that up until Harry so after Harry I think it's so funny cuz my clients literally were like my second family so they I know would have been they would have been with me through a lot they would have been with me through Taylor then I moved to a local Salon in Crumblin and some of them then came with me when I freelanced they would have like the breakups of the dramatic boyfriends that I had the engagement that I had before Terry like they saw an awful lot I grew up with an awful lot of my clients and they became very close to me are some friends yeah yeah so when I had har like I remember like people nearly knocking on my door being like are you coming back yeah is you in my room are you coming back and I'm like no and I think I might have done a few hairs after Harry I think you were in between you think you had done like two or three yeah but like probably me mar and me auntie ones that like just could not let me go and I'm like girl just have to let me go and then I just I let anyone else cut my hair now yeah you were only saying the only person that cut my hair properly I'll go get my color out on somewhere else but I will not let anyone cut me hair cut your hair no it's very hard to let go your hair dresser yeah you feel like it's always in you like would you be would you be you could be anywhere but would you like notice someone's hair or like would there be little things that bring the hair dresser back out and oh yeah the first thing I say thing out my eye will be janty is your hair of course look at me today okay we all got slick back for that and yeah it's one thing I'll always notice is here I'm doing this job yeah like you with makeup though like you probably not something straight away yeah yeah yeah so did you did you finish out school or have a school for you no I told my mom that I was going to leave I thought I'd never leave and grow up and be a hairdresser cuz I thought I'd never get into the big bad world now if I could like give anyone advice I'd be like stay in school really yeah stay in school listen to your parents I mean it's not what you want to hear when you're 18 or 19 even with Taylor like I'm trying to give her advice and I'm like she's not listen to it ready when I'm ready yeah yeah yeah when do you think that will be ask for you're only getting ready now you do definitely change you do but where were we going there with the hair dressing thing oh Harry after Harry yeah then Dancing with the Stars came up you see so that's how I transitioned from was actually opening my own Salon oh stop it so when I was pregnant on Harry this they call it nesting I suppose right but for me it was about trying to set up this company I suppose getting pregnant on Harry brought up a lot of fears of what it was like for me with Taylor because obviously I was a single parent I was on my own um financially I was you know she was reliant on me so I when I got pregnant on Harry I felt like I need to get all my eggs into a basket and we need to set up everything and do I was like kind of in preparation nearly like yeah yeah like I look back now and I'm like what were you thinking but but that's clearly what I was thinking let's open a salon nesting into like a business and let's open a salon and we end up leasing like building for like 5 years that didn't become a hair salon yeah yeah but I was determined I was like No we're going to do that and then when I had Harry I literally was so in love with him and it was so you know it was like this full circle moment of like I had Taylor I had the boyfriend everything the puzzle yeah the puzzle the the puzzle just fitted all together yeah do you know yeah it was just perfect it perfect it everything had settled down everything was where it was supposed to be and I was like okay I'm just going to stay here with him now I literally now he was colic and reflux like Taylor mhhm babies and I'm like I'm not going to get colic babies maybe again but I did so I literally lay with him on my chest for like about a good 6 to 8 months just at home and then the call came I think was over a year old for Dancing With the Stars and that's how I transitioned well obviously my brother being a superstar in the middle of all that kind of changed the course for for everything and everybody um and that's just how things unfolded w how did you find dancing with the stairs it's meant to be intense oh I was you on it this year have you been asked no no I can't I have to Lefty I wouldn't do it I to do it if I got asked do yeah I'd love to do it Challenger I feel like it'd be a real challenge boot I feel like I know majority on the things not anymore it's all new they're all new people yeah there's not even one person I know anymore and is has it changed a lot since Z were on it well the as in the dancers profal yeah um the former hasn't changed an amazing experience is it is it but it was difficult because it was tough no it wasn't the dancing part I always wanted to be a dancer you do PTO and all so you're well able yeah like if I could go back yeah as a young child I probably would have done how it made me want to do Ballroom just watching even though I like my dancer like life was polar opposite to ball room like I was a freestyle dancer so it was crazy H oh yeah we were freyle dancing in the halls and I be oh yeah Tumbl the split black and blue no I came home and I had just bruises all up my legs and I was like was setting up the phone doing tumbles down the hall what are we doing I was like look at me Taylor you're proud of me there was all my thousands of Euro freyle danc yeah wasted my money we were in nightclub and was like d split I like shut oh I was there and I was like literally I went down I went straight back up cuz I was like if I go down I'm not coming back up God I always want to do freestyle yeah I'm like I can't even touch my toes I don't understand it as dancing though explain it to me I honestly I actually ring all around the they drag draging yeah I mean like my TOS were quite flexible probably the only thing that was flexible to my body cuz I wasn't that I was more yeah I was more of a dancer than flexibility though like I wasn't okay I had freedom I don't anymore don't know where it's from oh God I'm always getting slacked for dancing on no oh my God no and yeah I've seen a program or something and you wanted to join for a long time and I was like no because I'm like a dance mom and I knew I'd be a dance mom and then we won't be doing every competition like no cuz it's really expensive expensive and she couldn't St for like St you have stone yourself well wellit you can pay someone to get a dawn at will you get a play and then someone else will Stone it or else if most M did Stone themselves all F I have this page on Instagram and it's um somebody who makes the outfits for freestyle dancing and I already have a dress pick for my 30th birthday that I'm wearing from would it be like me covered in Sosi Fe there's a whole lot all that's a bit me now see the outfit's not I'd love to do it just to wear the outfit yeah and the ponies and all the hair got info from like Beyonce or something for one of my dance competitions yeah it was like latex or something yeah oh this was but was it was it tough like physically like oh it so hard flinging you're L SE me after I beat the bres that I had like I liter I broke my toe two weeks before a big dance competition remember DK did you not like do something to your elbows no that was a different one but I broke my toe and I'm not messing like My toe is probably never went back to normal SI and I danced on it two weeks later and I like fine you just power any ath it's very social for the kids though it's more of a social thing really like competitions and all I wasn't like people would like you know get in with other their dance groups and all to like it's very what political is it yeah it's very political like you have to know the judges and I was just I'm dealing it because I like it not because I want to make friends that's terrible but like I wasn't dealing it to just get out there but I felt like when I got older I was never winning because I wasn't that person to go over and be friends with everyone or like make friends with the judges even when I knew I should be winning and other people know but just you being real cuz you're not going to start looking the J yeah like I don't know they're from England I'm never going to see you I loved what I was doing and when I got older I was like this is just knocking me down my confidence down when I'm just trying to do something that I love so I'm not doing this I had to take a step back how old were you when you stopped 18 were you you 18 you start to put your worth in like where you're ranking in a in a and it's like it's just me confidence was literally on the floor I think I was gone through like a bad breakup as well and I was like I can't I need to step away from this or else I'm Lally going to be the lowest I've ever been it was it was actually really bad when I kind of decided to live I didn't even tell anyone I just stopped sh just stopped showing off to dancing has anyone watched the Dallas character sorry if they had took one look at me they like get out the door like I don't even meet to requirements but that like I think it's like five something five I'm 5 four so four five five I think it's the confidence thing I think that's what people it can either Make It or Break It so% I so Taylor would actually work better with some criticism she kind of proves if I would give out to her and say she didn't do amazing on the dance floor and I be I remember specifically one competition I came off the dance floor and she was like that was sh and I was like um okay went off PRI and then I went I think I done to my final got into the final and I won and I literally drill the trophy and was like that's what you that's what you needed so probably at the time to proba face and just walked off so Taylor and I remember then trying to change me Approach at one time going okay let's try and like be motivational and like tayl her she's amazing and then she didn't get placed and I'm like it's not working yeah some people walk yeah better better with like constructive criticism or a bit harder I don't work under that I work with motivation I think it depends though like cuz like only for so long can you be told this needs to change and this needs to change until you're like leave me alone like I feel like at the start maybe yeah that's okay but then when you get to a certain point you're like all right now you're just being mean yeah yeah yeah yeah I think I find it very hard to take constructive criticism as I think I take a worse now as I'm old hate me yeah I take a worse now that I'm old don't I did when I was a kid I think it's when your frontal L forms and all that like things are just different I feel like second I turned 25 I was like wait who like what's going on it all Mak sense now you when you turn 35 and 40 and it's like all the things that you think right now big it's completely different when you get older it just changes everything and you're like oh things that I thought of are like I remember being out with my friends and me newer friends I have 10 years was in the company of a childhood friend and she was telling stories the childhood friend was and I was like I don't even remember that and we me newer friend of 10 years was like sounds like a completely different eron I was like it does doesn't it yeah this is an advertisement from Better Health Therapy online it's Charlene and Ellie here from the HM my dring podcast and sometimes we tend to compare Our Lives to others I know social media definitely does that for me you can find yourself wishing that your life looks like someone else's you also hear the phrase comparison is the thief of joy and it's so true it might look like someone has it all together on 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values like everything I feel like though I've learned that a lot younger than you did like my family is me friends and I feel like you didn't learn that for a long time yeah probably friends were you priority whereas my family is my priority now and like my friends who I'm friends with probably like less than a handful I'm friends with since I'm in Primary School like literally since junior infant and they've been there my whole life so small but strong that does come with age though as well like I've definitely already and I've said it on the podcast before how much like family is like number one for me for like and that's not never to say we've talked about before it's never to say that like your friends aren't a priority to you but like if if I if I'd have the choice of like hanging around with my little cute mommy and daddy like over doing something that I can do any other time like I'm really starting to Value the age of my parents now and that's how I know I'm getting older cuz i' you're very old soul like what think country in me 28 like yeah very old so what I would consider as an old so like 28 is still pretty young for you to even think like that yeah I know you think like that Charlene not as much I would value my family friends the same I feel like but I wouldn't if I had two offers there I don't know I wouldn't think of like maybe what you think of I'm thinking like oh God my mom and dad like and like or like little things that my dad say to me to play on my mind for agees like little small he asked me to do something for him last night and like it's playing on my mind all day like i' be bit more like that than than I was cuz I used to now that I moved out I moved out like a year ago but like I actually want to spend time with them more whereas when I lived there I was like my and that's normal like and whereas now I go cuz I want to see I remember hang around with I remember hating my mom did you oh my yeah I should tell you a ha when cuz I don't remember the stage you remember that I don't I vely remember W I literally I did you a year and then we like told what to do and then I came home and we've actually haven't bought really since I don't think I when but like I I hated my mom for for telling me to come home like you mean like stupid [ __ ] I vividly remember like out drinking in a park or something and I'd see the phone lighting up ringing and she text me why aren't you answering I'd look at the phone ringing and just put it down now I just to know I'm cuz I was a I was like yeah I probably like once or twice like in my teenagers but I like I was a charm I was bad but I actually wasn't cuz I just danced a whole week and a whole weekend like if I wasn't dancing I had a competition that was probably good for you weren't out I was the most Troublesome kids me m thinks I was strict but I don't you were strict I don't think I was that strict I I have my well my first like proper drink until I was 18 like she would not let me have one drink not one single drink SI not a sip nope you kept your pledge and I was 15 I keep it oh schol not I didn't have you she no no no well like I would never go out and get drunk or like drink in the park I never drank in a park until like probably one or two drinks like it wouldn't have been like I was getting blackout junk I think I probably got blackout junk once and I was nearly 18 so like still grounded me and I still got into [ __ ] but yeah never I think when you're um wearing a child on your you can overcompensate so there's probably certain things where I felt that she maybe was missing out on and I overcompensate it or maybe I feel that I didn't instill certain things into her like even now I'd probably have maybe regrets of things that I didn't do or I could have done better or I say you know I didn't do a great job there I was still very young like she calls me spoiled and I'm like that's your fault yeah I I was still learning I remember like I used to sit on the sofa and I'd be like it be the weekend so her dad would take her on a weekend every second weekend and then I would have her on the the second weekend and I would like sitting there waiting to go out so we used to go to the plaza plaza was a big thing yeah and it was three was it 250 a drink on a Sunday night you two young in tal yeah my sister used to go yeah and uh I'd be sitting there with me house go on they be like I have no babysit me m go on out then for a few hours to go I be ready to go cuz I still wanted to live your life yeah you need that though yeah that's L and there's nothing wrong with that either like so I was still learning I was still grown and I suppose you might see my older friends now with their children and they again have different mindsets yeah so it's very hard to navigate mother as a young as a young parent when you're still trying to live your own life see them Tik Tok and it's like it's videos of people's parents it's like it's their first time time oh my God that makes I think when I had that I think when I had that realization I was like oh my God it's like an epiphany to them your mom and dad are like these like super not super but like they're just your mom and dad but then they're actually just like a little like when you lose something when you go to your man if she can't find it it's G see that hot press couldn't find one thing in it my walk it she'll find it she'll find it she she can put her finger on anything in that house and then it's so funny because we lose our car keys and our you know the things that you put in the car park the tickets constantly where because we're thinking of absolutely everything for for every and not yourself so many things going on in your mind that it's like where's me key where's it's like but if Terry asked me where something was or Taylor I'd know where it was know and by the time you then had Harry had you kind of Forgotten what it was like cuz obviously it was a good few years afterwards to like have a newborn again and all these like new stages yeah yeah really good with kid surprising I didn't forget child wear Charlie no I thought I thought your brain makes you forget really I remember being in the doctors and she's like I think you have like PTSD oh really after Taylor yeah it was quite traumatic I have PTSD after you haven't hurried up you there no but like I got a phone call she was rushed to teer and like oh God it was yeah yeah they had me like they had the resource table and all ready for me they yeah yeah and I was like am I dying cuz she was like you're really really sick Aaron and she was like did they tell you that when you like so what happened she you went natural on her like so you would have been fully aware like of what was going on like they rushed me they they rushed me up to theater after I had them oh after they yeah they gave so I had the baby and I was like really proud of myself I was like oh my God I was after having this baby B gas in air and Cherry forc child and he just handed the baby and my M was rushed away and I was rushed to teer and like he said he didn't even know what was happening and I was crying and they were like what are you crying for cuz I'm was afraid of needles even though I get BOTOX and you know Lally me I'm I'm terrified needles but I don't mind my boto are I don't mind them in my face the nurse is looking at my lips being like what just not my arms only my face oh no tats are so so I think it's different they knew that I was at risk of losing blood cuz I lost like a lot of blood on Taylor and I had to have blood transfusions on Taylor W so they knew that that was a risk for me so they were prepared for that but there was a not in the perent the cord and they couldn't get the percenta out which is really really dangerous oh yeah I don't know whether I was over beding or they couldn't get it out and anyway I remember being up in the theater and be like I afraid of the needle cuz they were going to have to give me like a spinal block yeah so they were up there for ages and I remember her saying to the girls like we need to get the resource table and I was like by this stage the drugs had kind of kicked in cuz they had to give me yeah because it was like I was in the the operating theater and then we came back down and at this stage like nobody you didn't even know this did you cuz I had rang like shown them a new baby they're like okay Aaron it's time to push the out now and that's when the complications happened so then I was brought back down to like a high intensity it's called like high intensity so it was a room like this with glass doors and the nses station so they had to watch me the whole night and they had to like plaster my arm to the to to the bed to keep it there no because they they were trying were doing stuff with blood I think they have to do your blood count to make sure that like I didn't lose that much blood that like I was going to die I think that's that's why and I was roasting in the room I was like oh my God it's so warm and Terry was freezing he was like that's fre obviously I had like an infection or whatever was happening to me um and the next day the girl came in and she was like you really really sick do you know that and I was like not really and and the consultant came in and I said to her did you know I was that sick and he was like like you were gray but he said I'm used to seeing you gray for the whole nine months of your pregnancy because I was so sick yeah so then Taylor came straight in then the next day and she washed and dressed them or like cleaned the baby up cuz I was obviously too sick yeah your eyes were all blood off from pushing as well so yeah and was that to do with your nausea while being pregnant or no that was just complication yeah complication and then that blood your eyes was obviously from pushing pushing so hard but like I was like I was only a baby haven't tiny I've only like sized two in a in a sh still can't believe that when you children have the smallest feet in the so I I'm like even me fingers are like quite small like I mean try is getting smaller let mey I just I could see it's this is a rock for anyone listening and not watching it's quite small my hand a little bit bigger on smaller let me try w wow stunning it literally just catches the light do you have to clean it all the time it's tiny I kind of do I'm a bit obsessed with it to be honest did did you get no doesn't even go down go down your pinky try your pinky pinky my it's perfect on my pect it's beautiful so I'm tiny God tiny little girl my God so I like to think I have a small womb oh is that what it is yeah every well I mean I would presume if I have small hands everything small really I'm quite so Taylor was literally like dragged down me I only small tot I was only was seven 712 like Harry was 711 and Taylor was 712 79 was Harry 79 what was that in the Snapper I think it is yeah anyway Chun they were for somebody so small like me car carrying babies like nearly eight pounds was quite yeah but like Taylor was nearly a section big though a stop I did not you him you did I remember seeing someone out and I was like Hey and he was like who were you like it's eron and he's like oh my God no stop yeah didn't recognize me you looked that oh my look back so funny how old is Harry now Harry will be eight on Saturday Saturday he's having a big BJ bash no he won be able any he wouldn't be able for are you going to do just something yourselves or yeah we're just going to probably we go with the flow him so he doesn't really like crowds he doesn't like they go to McDonald's probably McDonald's so he likes the idea he's really social so we were to go to a birday party on Saturday and he was really excited so how would I know cuz obviously anyone who's listening Harry is non-verbal um has autism so how would I know he's excited you tell him he's fully aware of what's going on that he's going to a birthday party and he's laughing and he's joking and he'll get into the bath for me and he's ready he get ready oh is that him telling him getting ready Mom oh yeah if he doesn't want to go somewhere you'll know he doesn't want to go ref to get into the bath he'll be like you know so like his behavior just cuz you can't talk you're watching action so I knew he really wanted to go and we had been to this Farm loads of times before where the birthday party was he couldn't see any of the kids or anything he could just see the car pack P plank went into like a meltdown couldn't handle it couldn't handle it so he loves the idea of people he loves the idea of gone somewhere in his own home if people come in he's he loves it really he has a girlfriend oh yeah she calls him her husband my husband oh my God they're getting married and they're going to New York and ten and Disneyland and they're oh my God she's his friend she has autism but it's actually the story is so cute Terry Terry's a real hands on dad he's an amazing dad and an amazing step that I have to say and he went on he does lots of courses for um for autism so he was on a course and he met this guy and the children became really good friends so his daughter yeah his daughter has autism um verble and Cherry obviously has Harry and both singers they gig together wife's a hairdresser yeah he's going to be Grooms man at the wedding it's like this little like it's a real lovely story like two dads so cute walking to try and better their children's lives they a little couple now and they made like friends and they're like Wes they go to the gym together they they they were in Switzerland gigging together anyway we had a play date with the little girl um a few weeks ago and she was like yeah when we're adults I'm going to marry Prince Harry and we're going to get married my Qui little boy is that what she call and Harry when she comes in he's like CH he is a charm he knows like how to get you to do what he wants like if he wants something from me come over and like give me a kiss and I'm like one more oh my god airt oh that must be sound for Terry like to have that to Rel like relate it as well the other dads why they're like best friends now like cuz it's difficult for whatever how however difficult is as a woman we have each other we can like you're going to to body trouble we talk about or any type of trouble girls talk about it where men don't really do it like that they they shut down they don't talk about it they Harry's kind of very open book now though yeah but he definitely dealt with things completely different than I did like I would have cried so for instance when we left the party on sun on Saturday or Sunday whenever it was he was very angry was he and he was like you need to get this into your head now that he's not going to go to this wedding you need to make peace with that and I'm like I think he needs to make peace with like okay that was obviously his way of dealing with so he deals with things so for me in the moment I'm like we got to get you this we got to get them home we got them get out of this meltdown and we got to make everything real time again and then I get really sad and down after the fact about a day or two less after a day or two after the fact that it's after happening things start like creeping in and I might like kind of take to the bed or I just get like this awful pain in me stomach Where cherry deals were completely different so it's good I suppose that he has that outlet of someone who understands it because even though your family is around you you feel so alone in it like you really feel like nobody gets it like you feel like nobody gets it even with Terry like Terry just have to say to me like I get it eron I'm in this with you but you still sometimes I'd say feel yeah you really especially when men deal with differently as well yeah then it is different but I love watching your stories and how much you spread awareness about and like it makes such a difference like like even educating people on like the the what they called the ear Defenders things like that like it's so important to talk like even though we didn't really know what was before har like we learned with him oh learn I had no idea he's obsessed with you is he oh yeah obsess he'll like come in and like cuddle me and like she's like why does he cuddle you he doesn't to me and pushes me out of bed like he'll wrap his legs around me and sit watch the fil like watch film with me but like she can't even give him a hug he love sitting with the girls but I do think as well like I suppose looking at Taylor live her life now I would try and like and and let her live her life and encourage her to live her life because I know and I suppose this is a huge not guilt but I know that it'll come the day where she's going to have to take up the r on that and I'm very aware of that you know I'm very aware that like that's a heavy bden to carry and that when me and Terry aren't around anymore that she is going to have to do that and whoever she decides to spend her life with that is the card that we've been dealt with so I guess for me I was lucky that Taylor was 16 when when I had him yeah because she had me for all those years you know we can leave a party meet Terry and Harry where there's some people that have children that are young and their whole family is separated yeah where I yeah because they have to one child will stay at the party because they're a nor a normal hate the word normal you know neurotypical that's the actual correct word a neurotypical child will stay at the party and one parent will have to leave so we are blessed that we have Taylor but I'm also very aware that like she's going have to do that and there was kind of a moment in time where I thought I don't know whether she is ever going to do this or she's going to be capable of doing it but I suppose in the last maybe two or two or three years she's kind of shown me that I can do it and I will I think she like sees the part that I'm living my life and it's like oh she can't do that but I'm living my life while I can you get me for to happen tomorrow like at least I'm at to getting like the festivals and the holidays out my you get me like that's the part that you're oh she's not capable of doing it whereas I'm just trying to doing it now yeah you're aware of yeah once it come and when it comes it will come you get me but right now I'm living my life and child but I'm I'm trying to I suppose get her to watch what I do or how how we do things because how how I would behave with har around Harry than she would she let him away with more 4 hours I'm like no no come on like you're going to do it like so I'd be like no you have to do it this way Taylor no cuz he does it for me he does for hor so watch me he's dead wi like dead he knows he can get away with so for wh was with me I'm like no come on I I think he actually like when we were training him to go to toilet he actually went for me Force did he yes yeah he actually did he did go for me Force cuz I'm trick how was that for you around the time of his diagnosis like here and that he had autism and like just the feelings of the whole family as well I don't what is that I think I was more dealing with her than dealing with him like hate to me he was still Harry like still loved him the exact same it didn't really affect me the way it affected her so I was actually just listening to her him yeah dealing with you was wor just changes a lot of the impact you know you're dealing with your own emotions you're dealing with the life how things are going to impact everything so yeah I I think it's probably only in the last two years like I was brave enough to have that conversation with Taylor to be like you need to do this yeah like yeah you know you're going to have to do this one day like relax like you're still here you're fine like you're not going anytime soon but then I'm like she doesn't realize the urgency of this so I think as age mhm when you're young you think you're invincible you don't worry about things you think like like for instance I'm like do you me Taylor can we not like what about we start like saving and like looking to get a house and get a mortgage I'm if you do this now by the time you're chy still be living at home at that where she's quite happy just to live and I'm like no so live for the not plan and I wish whereas I'm actually like I'm a planner person but I'm not like that far yeah I'm like if I'm going to die be like I'll have like they like done I'll have an itinerary doing or if I'm doing something like say if someone tells me like half 12 half 12 tell them why you're like that that's yeah she has me late for everything like when I was a kid I was literally late to everything so I can't be late now and when I start being late for something I panic gives anxiety yeah I'm like I need to get there now like hurry up it was a great thing for and then have days that that I'm like oh I'm late I'm late like I don't care it depends on what it is I'm late life if I be late for my own yeah like even today like she was like right mom like we should be leaving and I'm like they're not even going to be there there yeah you just knew what you were you know what it's fine they chill definitely so Aron you're getting married very soon yes how much can you say about the wedding well what do you want to know the wedding is very soon very very soon like we're weeks away well um and it's coming in on top of me is it yeah I'm kind of at the stressed out stage though I'm not at the fun part yet you got price my dress is like two days ago love that still need to be altered need to be up I've no dressed for day two no dressed well that's your business you know what the hardest part is which wi M can't pick a pair of shoes oh six years and they can't I picked mine they can't all agree them the same at this stage I act not being funny if want to go and CR girls do something very chilled you've been very chilled I think I thought she was going to be crazy I'm I'm getting there and lied about the sho I'm like pick your I picked mine they all need the same shoe but they won't agree on one so some can't walk in like a still out and they need a platform and some are like platform though and they are very high but they just look good like they just look sexy so I feel like I can't walk but I'll walk down and I'll get my pictures in them and then I'll try but there's there's a few girls it won't do that that can't no it's not won't that actually can't okay like you're 20 OD J you can walk in the heels yeah come back to me when you're heels in about two years I just wear boots I went out on Saturday and I wore a pair of Runners I was like I not here in a pair of Runners actually you're giving it the large one there about shoes we went to the VIP style Awards I gave you a pair of me shoes and your feet literally were going out of them oh my God no my from her hand ches I had another pair of beautiful Jimmy CHS right they were so ugly and she's like oh they're fugly and I'm like she's like they're granny shoes they were they look like you know Ballroom shoes no no and I had to get changed and you had to wear them so like she's giv it the large and there be able to walk down the aisle good luck with that H so I actually don't care no at this day figure it out if you are listening to this podcast girls get your [ __ ] together when it comes to and did you find like all the planning and stuff like I know you mentioned earlier on that you were previously engaged before as well believe but how did you find like planning this wedding like did you plan much for the last wedding or how did oh no that was just have a date that and it was completely different years ago I mean weddings now are like people on Sarah like look I'm terrified like so like I was sending the girl like the wedding planner right pictures of these weddings and she's like they're like multi-million pound wedd I'm going to Vegas so this is what happens you have all these plans and you're like I want this I want this and then the budget comes in you know it's in like so the band is like 25k plus flights and accommodation and you're like okay or then like your flowers and it's like okay so like basic flowers are like 70 in toils and you're like for flavers they're going to that's C no that's just basic girls is it like honestly people do not realize the price we're in the wrong business get W honestly I'm like what the hell and then I suppose by the time you're coming down down to the Nicki Knack things right right you're like BS like Amazon and like girls stick the shoes make sure they're cheaper because we're running L now on your store you're talking about putting the perfumes in the bathrooms and that people robbed them yeah I knew that was going to happen with the big Bott that's ridiculous don't you think that you're inviting people who you'd know who wouldn't Rob your perfume like but I think as well people forget that like it's such it's this weird thing cuz obviously I'm obsessed with wedd right everything on my social media now are like stories about and you seen somebody um there was a story about you know that girl Olivia that got married a while ago basically she's like yes and she had the high ne dress she an NFL is she's we an NFL player so she her sister was going out with this guy okay only a new relationship and she didn't invite him she didn't her sister didn't get a plus one okay so of course I'm reading through the comments and it's like it's chacky not to give a guest a plus one and then other people are like I'm paying for it she's definitely not getting a plus one like new boyfriend it's like yeah you've probably met one her tce I feel like people have so many mixed opinions on that like I I on one hand I do but then again I don't think everybody should be entitled to a plus one would you want somebody at your wedding that you've never met before in your life depends on the person I mean though if the sister had approach and been like listen can he come I'm sure she would have said yeah maybe if it was her sister but like your longdistance cousin who you've never met her fell like do you invite them how yeah how do you know who to invite is there a rule do you know what I mean like how dramatized like at this rate nobody come I don't care I should at this rate about four weeks ago I was like I think I'm just going to every how much will we lose like how how do you how do you dwindle that down of who to invite I think it's different when you're a little bit older as well like that your circle goes a lot like smaller and then you go to this phase where you're like let's inv fight everyone let's fight everyone big thing and you want this big thing and then you're kind of like okay let's pull it back and things do change you kind of go like The Wedding Planner was like I told you I hate to say it but I told you to watch your invite list you need to keep it down I was like oh what she talking about so like people were saying to me oh you're having a big wedding and I was like it was about 150 people and people were like oh that's not that big and I'm like that's big that seems big to me it feels big it feels feel like the max W's like 200 and it's difficult because I suppose like I have a huge family right as in like me Ma has a huge family I've loads of cousins and then Terry has his side and it's like but I don't know your side and like it's all these politics of very Clos family as well so like all cousins are like best friends so it's a hard one to navigate so years ago what they would do is is it was always the eldest cousin that was invited that was a bit of a ruler T then years ago when my mom was getting married their parents were allowed to invite everyone so like the neighbors up the road and all would come yeah that's what I said yeah I was laughing to me m mad's laughing there and they left at 10:00 at night they had like their going away office so they would get changed Going honeymoon remember the arch they would get get under the arch and they would leave and I was like guests on either side guest under an arch people watch them leave and they watch them leave and W Mage yeah cuz we didn't live together all those years ago so it was really exciting for us night of like stay whatever I mean whatever you get up to yeah whatever you get up to on your fourth night if you really want to pretend that that's what happened go anywh want to be on the same floor as you kind of like the hotel put me somewhere else that's fine because probably won't be much AC I'd say you're so tired by the end of the night though I'm like I I'm like no one talk to me like that's such a big that's a day where you start like you got to probably really early your makeup done so by the time I I always think if you get too drunk and forget the day that's what I that's everyone Ms to Bri though like no one likes to drunk bre yeah imagine like run away bride run away bride I saw this other thing on Tik Tok and it was absolutely so funny right and I was like this reminds me of my communion my confirmation it was a bride and groom sitting on the bed reading their cards AKA money I sent I have a picture on on floor and I'm lying with all my communion cards is sleeve with these love card glasses on just on the floor do yeah just a little p another thing etiquette with like wedding like people so like Ireland seemed to have a real big problem cuz again I watch all the comments like on Ireland amm they had this thing about like how much is it enough to give at like do you cover the cost of a meal is that what they say 100 ahead usually what is it no more more what you think it is for a meal for a wedding just for the meal 80 or 100 much would you stand on the oh [ __ ] I don't know I said 100 200 three it's not four [ __ ] off for one me for one person minus is it tacky if I say it Ma should I say it no say don't say it it's St and two on J Wow for a male for one person m is that like tree course I put me on the kid fourar so a fourstar venue in Ireland which is pretty popular venue yeah Ford was we went to see it and it was €195 per person for their dinner we're not talking about before you come you know that there's a drivr down the road look can M people don't even eat at half the time are they oh no my M actually warned me she was like you will eat I just want chicken tenders chicken tenders chips and G sauce never thought it be that that that one of the five St hotels in Ireland is 395 do they spoon Fe it as well and you have to book 22 rooms and the rate of the room for a one night wedding guest is €750 don't know where this is oh this isn't your room no this isn't mine is no somewhere you this is a five star in Ireland like one of the one of the big five stars in Ireland so where do they you'll get it pull these out so obviously there's the contrast but still 195 is that's without your band your flowers your dresses your bridesmaid so that plus one and that cousin being invited or that neighbor being invited that all adds up to to the people on the outside it might just it might be a case of them like being like ah yeah but like surely my is invited but you NE you never re I wouldn't anyway have thought of that like hold on a minute but that's them paying for everything else included if they go also so expensive for guests to go you also have to take that you're getting your guest is getting your their makeup done they their outfit done they're driving down they're getting a babysitter they're you know paying for their drink for the day if there's no free bar so and a gift so it's really really expensive for a guest as well so I understand both sides of it now I understand why everybody doesn't get invited to things I understand maybe why I haven't been invited to things so it is it is Bride Wars is real out there yeah but for Ireland they seem to Irish people seem to I don't know it's a real Hot Topic to talk about gifts American culture is is they have a gift register yeah so Australia a wishing well or something it's called yeah or the new one is I think like years ago m m said she would have got about five or six KS because yeah because they didn't have a house to see they didn't have a house so everybody bought house bring something for the house where the newer generation is is we have houses or we live together so we usually have everything so people might put in their invites that we really just want your presence not your presence yeah but if you would like to contribute to our honeymon blah blah so that's probably that's what's being advised maybe for that um Romania cuz I'm I'm loving all these like yeah I love all this right so Romania they invite everybody from the community so they would have a huge big wedding that they know very few people even at so their God Parents they choose their own God Parents as they get older and they their friends are all invited but what they do is is they all give cash and the couple buy an apartment oh that's nice but what that means is is they have to go to all the weddings that they're invited to for the next 20 years and repay back so it's basically like it's like a loan but there's no commission from the banks and stuff so it's actually a really good idea oh you're and you're paying the the money back intermittently as you go to these weddings in weddings you have like 10 in the year oh well that can happen and then one of my followers have known probably the next year another one of my followers said her husband is Asian and they send it in a red envelope cuz red is for good Lu right and they put money in the envelope and they write the name and address of the family who gave it so every culture has something different so look at the um big Indian wedding of the billionaire family see I was obsessed with that know she was at the pre obsessed pre wedding yeah yeah St that went on for a week more yeah that was six months six months um Indian weddings can go from 5 days to seven days and I was speaking to a lovely girl in the airport and she said depending on how wealthy the family is it can last for months happy days at least the days I G keep going like J interesting it's so different and when you actually like think about it all like what's it like to be like a bridesmaid you I haven't done anything I didn't even plan the hands went on the hands oh I didn't even plan it I think I done no I actually done a little bit on I think people also don't realize that like Brides may actually have to do stuff you have to be there like you have to be there for the bride you have to do stuff for the bride she know cuz she was a bad maid of honor so she knows that she's not going to get much for me no I mean I'm going to dress har and do his here on the morning so that's my contribution that would be cute of like 18 months of planning Taylor's day is Harry's hair dress I do every single day after and does Harry have his little outfit not oh we only she dressed is he adorable yeah so he had to have like a special fabric because he yeah so we got like a customade bamboo short and when he put it on he had no problem putting it on did he like initially he was like and that like what anything like that with it tracks it like just not wanting to get dressed he loves being in the nail so love that and that's a m seriously in the yeah so I think like yeah he just it was just that initial having to put clothes on cuz once it was on him he was fine he yeah didn't mind at all yeah so handsome adorable so handsome but I mean we don't over get up the AIS or not we're going to try with is Nanny forc me Taylor and then but in reality I'm very much aware that's probably not going to did you have to kind of mentally tell yourself that like no like yeah if you if he goes into the church he knows like I'm not the church whatever um no music he doesn't like like the singer no is not to play anything if she sees him even remotely there do not do that no yeah yeah so you're just going to kind of take on the day and see how it goes yeah but I think like I've she let to dictate our M so like I'm keep telling her do not let him not dictate your M and that's like he will be fine like we will take him separately like he things that he's going to enjoy on the day so don't let that dictate your M for the whole day because I know want she gets it I don't think people realize that the impact that has like you think that like all these people are at a wedding yeah wanting to be at this wedding or not wanting to be depend on how you look at it um and the one person that I really want to be there is probably not going to be there I feel like any normal child um doesn't want to be there regardless so like it's not just his diagnosis like what child wants to sit in a mass I don't want to sit in a MK right now people they I feel like it's not even just like the fact that he has autism that would contribute to that because anyone would yeah yeah yeah this is good priz made this is obviously on Instagram we all have get get hate but what's it like eron for you seeing Taylor do you get do you get any hate at all or like if you ever see hate about Taylor like even on your own page or Harry or like anyone in your family how does that feel cuz that's different when you see other people getting it than yourself yeah when you see your family getting hate compared to when you get it i' be more Anno I'm kind of not blessed I wouldn't say blessed I don't think anyone has the right to have no an entitlement to say that to people but I haven't gotten much hate and when I do it depends on my M like if it's my time of the month I will take bed like and she's like don't reply and I'm like why like why do people think that it's okay to say these things about me especially when you're hiding behind fake p a fake page or like a website like who do you think you are to sit at home and say these things about me you don't know me as a person no I remember seeing someone saying that they seen me in Super Value and I look real nervy and I'm not like that on a i out and I'm like do you look like the same person you are going to your local shop get your dinner than you do on a night out like how you could had a bad day that day or something like actually a very shy person and like people don't realize that like I actually am very quiet so like if you see me in a local shop and looked at me like that like that's so weird on your it's stranger on them to go to the lens to do that seen me like no like what I'm a normal person I'm going to be in Super Value like live in my life I have to get my dinner and my lunch like I feel like yeah you get a lot more than I do and I feel like I you take no you don't take it too bad boy I I grew in that a lot like I got a much tougher skin like that it depends on my hormones it depends on if the day I do feel ugly and someone happens to say that I'm like oh my God or if I'm having a shitty day the comments might get me or I found it difficult to understand people's mentality like trying to understand why they would think like that I know where instead of going I'm actually glad that I can figure out why they think like that because that's not I'm not that person you'll never be able to think like that never be able things like that I do feel very protective like I remember even when used to kind of were like up and come and I have this like mummy kind of feeling towards you because I know how difficult it is out there I think people have pop in here know for a minute when I was going through that my breakup a few years ago why am I going to cry e oh I'm I such a crier eron came up me with a card to my house oh I remember yeah and the imperfection pajamas they yeah and I I and I remember you saying you were like I something about you Ellie reminds you of when you were younger and going through all that and stuff but I I think I definitely still have that c at home but I remember that and I was just like just such a Mommy it's like the loveliest thing and I remember I only said it to you when we were away something I don't know what it was but I was like I'll never forget that day eron knocked up with a card and the loveliest message in the card I opened it and I think I just sobbed even I read one thing and I was like but even just little things like that you can tell that's just your nature to be like that yeah I remember how difficult it was being a 20-year-old the world that didn't have social media like back then if we had social media we'd all be canceled I think as a woman we understand how difficult it is gr dealing with our emotions dealing with our breakups dealing what people think and to be trown into the Limelight or to put yourself out there instead of supporting these young girls and nurturing it we tearing them down and I don't really understand that like how would you feel that was your daughter like I don't understand if you are going to work right and let's say somebody say sh call that rail walk de you no one would do that cuz in online they can hide behind so yeah like these things that people are saying about girls like these are young girls trying to make a career for themselves we even like she would be giving out and I'd be like oh like you're only recording yourself like calm down like it's not that hard and now I'm doing you're like [ __ ] take oh my God this is so difficult like the thought of sitting on my phone and having to edit for hours on in like this is so much harder than I could ever anticipate everything always is girls everything you look at things in your life as you get older and you're like wow I thought it was much easier like people would say to me so like people don't get paid to go on those talk shows and I'm like no you're putting yourself out there get you'll get something in return eventually like like people that have these preconceived ideas of what they think owned in a business is oh sure they must have everything they don't see the struggle none of us do I think as you get older you think okay everything isn't as it seems even when you see like say the the people on love Island I'm like these girls are gone and these fellas are going on love Island right there probably what 20 of them yeah two of them two out of 20 are going to get careers right that means 18 of them who really have been on TV now are going to have to probably go back to 9 to five jobs how do you make that transition have that have talked about having to get that transition and going back I've was asked a few times to do and I was just like I can't don't have the confidence to put myself out there and like T and violent that that should you wh too much no then you'd see real mama bear coming out what did they say about her that I would think of that now I auditioned when I was like 19 I'm like I think we were asked around yeah if I had have got like people slack my looks or something I would that would have broke me at that age like even now be like like baby like and then people get like no how do you feel Charlene about being child I think it's just like something we get used to and we shouldn't have very thck skin I have tick skin but out of all of us I would presume you have the ticker skin but it depends like you said on the day like if you get something where you're already feeling [ __ ] or like say you got bad news that day and then you get this comment and I can tip you over the edge picture like was taken off the tails and oh my God it is like the worst picture I've ever seen it was so bad and I'll say that like a hand on her but like the things that people were saying about me it was like I know this doesn't look like me no I know you're like for of a selfie instead yeah like I L she was putting up a video that was like you know like a live photo like to prove that I didn't look like that like my photos aren't edited like please stop saying these things about me and I that really bad because I knew even she said it was like tell her you did not look like that I seen you in person it was just bad lighting it's the only people who are like haters whatever that will ever think oh yeah look this bad picture well everyone has a bad picture there's all I have 20 chin sometimes depending on the angle like it just all it all depends but people are just not Yeah just they want to hate I know if you think about like your mind we're never in that hateful mindset where we think that about someone no they're in that hateful mindset all the time proba that all the time we're all like we're women we're [ __ ] we get it you're going to talk yeah but like keep your friends I always say someone always has that person that they [ __ ] to they'll always have that friend and that friend will always have someone else like it's always going to be a vicious cycle human doesn't need me to put online on that that's what I don't get is the taking it then from having the [ __ ] with your sister or your best friend or whatever I don't know people commenting back and forth to each other like you are commenting about me to this random person who's com back and like you don't know each other you AR friends like that's so odd them let them I think you are forget that there's some people who actually trive on that like neity and they want to be controversial and they love it where that gives me anxiety why you want to bring that into your life there's been times like I want to comment back to it now I think someone actually commented saying that I need my NOS done and I was like oh my God like that on our normal page I was like that's so me and then everyone kind of like jumped on it and was like you're saying this about a young girl it was literally like oh no they were picking up for no they were like there was Lads of nice comments like and then the comment was deleted and I think she texted you saying wasn't even yeah saying it wasn't hor and it was her Nanny's cat here no know I love girl you know and they reply back to one of our stories supposed to be our friend yesterday's one never happened to me not yet never happened to me not yet course Terry I had a video up with Terry and it was like yeah he's a muppy I was going to right back and go sometimes yeah sometimes right oh God h a girls thank you so much for coming on we appreciate you coming in we're we talked our lives away we had a whole list of we got true of them as we went we got true of them as we went um and we appreciate youing we talk for hours here all day we know can you tell people your Instagram handles or your whever they can find you is Taylor McGregor I actually don't yeah what am I to how Rand that like to set up Instagram I have my Instagram since I'm like 14 like my followers are like majority men from Conor and I'm like just trying to build my own following she's kind of buildt hers as her own mine is just like no but yeah you're after com like yeah see that your mom when we were away I'm still kind of trying like to just get my phone in the door like it's actually a lot harder than people realize like get in with like PR companies and all the rest like still trying like sometimes you really have to approach them and be like hey I'm here and I'm like I don't want to do that but it's something that you just have to do to like push yourself out there no but you know you're doing that yourself like you have doing I feel like be perfect was a big push for you to be like right this is my out like this is what pass out content wasn't she I was like Taylor if you come with this you literally have to walk you do know that like you know that was like I no I had a ball though like I still had a great time but once my cont was done I'm able to like step back but I did get it done and I didn't goed but oh I had a B I had a c time I'm going back in September I got we best no you're well able girls we love you thank you so much for coming in thank you so phone A friend is part of our dilemma segment every week where we phone friends SL podcast listener you guys and we put up a dma on our Instagram stories and asked for followers to offer their advice so here is the Dilemma that we got advice on hi Charlene and Ellie listen to the Pod every week and I love it I never thought I'd email in but here we are I love when people say that I love they're like never thought never think until something happens you're like [ __ ] um also thank you so much um long story short I'm unsure about what to do next year my BF oh my God I thought you said my BF is dead you have to read the rest of oh my God hang on I need start that again my BF is dead set on moving to Australia even just for one year chose for context we've been together a long time my job means I would have no issue getting a job over there I've spoken to many people about this and it would be better pay over there for me too the only issue is that I reckon i' be extremely homesick I'm so so close to my family and thought of leaving them makes thought of leaving them even just for a year kills me just the thought of it makes me cry any advice on what I should do thank you about so you guys have sent in some of your advice so someone said I just got back from spending eight month solo traveling with my with my business with my boyfriend at home yes eight months apart was really difficult but if it's meant to be it'll be the first month or two were really hard for us both around Christmas but after that our communication got better than ever before and we adapted to the situation if you don't think it'll suit you let him go and do long distance one year isn't that long in your life and he'll forever resent you if he doesn't go and you could go and visit him for a month or two if your job allows it a h Vis is free so you'll have no issues getting into to see him but from his perspective I needed to travel for me and he wasn't feeling the same but my boyfriend supported my decision and were stronger than ever a I love that we have a summon literally saying she like once and it worked yeah I think I feel like in the grand scheme things ear is nothing nothing it goes so [ __ ] quick and they have new experiences like I don't think that I know of anyone ever regrets going on no you always get something from it whether that's learning how to use washing machine or like like manage life for it will always benefit you in some way yeah it definitely makes you grow um then someone said girl 100% go it is hard but it's experience that everyone should have you will learn so much about yourself you can come home whenever you like just keep money for flight save just in cas case I couldn't recommend it doing it enough even it's for you to hate it and come home yeah at least you can say you try we always say that in the podcast I'd rather have done something and say you know what wasn't for me then be sitting here wondering well what what if I hate what if yeah and even do like six months or like take in little blocks for yourself you're like right I'll try three and then if you're at three like I can do another three like don't think of it as one big Dan in year break it up yeah definitely someone said I moved to oz in January of this year and I was the exact same before I left so close to my family and have really young siblings and my own two dogs and it was the best thing ever by the time it came to actually leave and I had cried so much I had no tears left it's such an experience even to come for a year is such an achievement and to come and try it and to go home after two months is still so much more than most do so give it a go oh I love that yeah even two months just getting over that home sick I give be surprised that and i' say yeah I'd say your family would want you to go you know what I mean like I could never ever imagine a family being like no stay like watch think you're like they can't be selfish on their half as well they want yeah to travel and experience life and like live life they can't hold you back yeah then we have one saying exact same here but we did it 10 years later and we still wish we could do it again with our four kids life is short and capital letters do it it you have to do it I agree it's such a different lifestyle of there like we from us having been there we obviously only were there in holiday but i' say d oh you have to even to try it if you last a week and said you know what I no I'll never get over this homesick and go home no give it like at least two maybe yeah someone else said I think going on a two or three week trip there would be an opportunity for you to get a feel for the place first before committing to fully before committing fully to move but your boyfriend also needs to take your opinions on the move into consideration as well that's true true but I think when you're there on a holiday you treat it as a holiday yeah like weol if you're on all the way up for a trip you might as well go when you're moving yeah most people go Haven not ever been there before yeah yeah so maybe go with the intention of doing a few months even and then you can always just stay yeah but yeah I think he needs to consider that as well but I think the thought of it scared me more than actually doing the doing of it yeah go explore enjoy your life at the young age before you have to be a really responsible adult the homesickness will go away and you'll learn so much more about yourself definitely go for it home will always be the same don't miss opportunities to see the world a girly I think you got to do it we have so many means of communication now it's so easy to keep in touch living abroad 5 years stock up on your favorite snacks and drinks when I feel homesick I call for chats and snacks you're you find your people who are family away from home family and home is always there for you I cried my eyes out on the plane with notes from the fan when I left it was so therapeutic and I felt so L that's so nice that's so cute said this was my exact worry and I'm here 2 years and hoping to stay for another two a see success mind will change go for it home will always be the same don't miss opportunities to see the world I think you really need to do it do SW so cute yeah I think the general consensus is try it absolutely you won't know until you try it exactly and it's just such a beautiful place as well yeah like and you don't even though like they said like you're far away like you feel so in touch with people still like a FaceTime like there's so much new things you can do um so we're going to move on to Peak and Bleak the week our email address by the way if you want to send in your dilemas is home my drink go now.com and if you want to be featured for phone a friend in particular you can put that in the subject line of your email as well so Peak or Bak of the week is one Peak which is the high and Bleak which is the Bleak of the week what is your Peak and Bleak of the week my Peak is that I'll be on holidays when you're hearing this it's my Peak yeah yeah peek peek peek peek peek very good peek my Bleak is had a doctor's appointment and I really need to change some [ __ ] in my life yeah that was my Bleak literally guys I'm too open on this part makes SI but yeah I need it but I'm not worried about that till after holiday no and it's fine for now yeah in the gym and all I was like you know what I'm going away next week there's no point to me changing anything fresh after no yeah after holidays full I'm I'm I'm married but I'm go I'm going to go through a glow up with myself I'm in the process yeah yeah yeah can't we because once you're happy it's like I felt like I just don't know yeah got I got into that zone of boyfriend I'm they're in there five years I'm like I need to pretend like D's bre me I I need a glow for health reasons yeah so yay what's your my Peak is that my vent is tomorrow wo wo really really excited and then the Bleak is that my outfit hasn't come it's in Indian oh and also we had it rained yesterday for our shoot that we had but you know what it wasn't too bad true actually we got done it's not really Bleak it was just cold Bleak is only that I got soaking wet yeah thank God I didn't catch cold or nothing yeah thank God summer I shouldn't be catching no cold a joke honestly so maybe the weather as well loads of Bleak as week but thank you so much for listening and again you thank you to eron Taylor for coming on today um they are just both amazing women and we love them and you can go back to listen to our bonus episode from Monday home a drink extra juice so make sure to listen back to that now before a new bonus episode next Monday and don't forget you can watch us on YouTube now as well so every 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