My Thread On Reddit To Tell My Husband We're Getting DIVORCED r/Relationships

Intro hey hey you waffle gang I do hope you are well my name is Mark and today we're checking some more Reddit stories and if you do love a Reddit story why not consider and that like subscribe maybe that notification bell too and let's crack on with today's first story much love guys now today's first story comes Story 1 from the Mi the assle here subreddit and says am I the [ __ ] here for letting you know I'm divorcing you by sending you a thread on the website that you use to ignore me the story is from hot flan 8325 hi Stefan maybe you'll finally listen and if you're wondering if you can just speed home and stop me from doing this and leaving it's too late I'm sending you this after I've already loaded everything in the car and left don't worry I spoke with our landlords and took my name off the lease I set up a direct deposit for the next month's rent after that you're on your own buddy I guess you're wondering why I'm guessing you act like you're completely blindsided right because you've done absolutely nothing wrong and you're a great husband and father to be aren't you well buddy let me break it down for you in a language you understand I 29 female have been married to my husband 35 male for 5 years and we've been together for nearly 10 on paper everything seemed fun fine but in reality our marriage has been anything but I've reached my breaking point and I need to know if I'm the one in the wrong here from the beginning my mother-in-law has been a nightmare she made everything about her from day one at our wedding she wore white claiming it was a family tradition it wasn't she constantly criticizes me from my cooking to my appearance I'll never forget the time she called me fat at a family gathering right in front of everyone and what did my husband do nothing not a single word to defend me it didn't stop there she has accidentally destroyed my belongings including my grandmother's necklace which she threw out because it looked like cheap costume jewelry she's gone out of her way to make me feel small and unwelcome in my own home but every time I tried to talk to my husband about it he'd brush it off saying I was overreacting or being too emotional and then there's my husband he's always on Reddit constantly giving strangers relationship advice which is laughable considering how he treats me he spends more time rating women's boobs on Reddit than talking to me literally and just so you know the last per rated weren't a 4 out of 10 they were a 10 out of 10 yeah he got plenty of time to do that but can't be bothered to remember anything about my life he'll forget my birthday our anniversary even simple things like what I'm working on or what's important to me but he has a perfect memory for his work schedule and things that matter to him when we fight he becomes incredibly hostile and always throws in a sarcastic buddy at the end of his sentences like come some acquaintance he can barely tolerate and he never cleans the house the dishes the laundry you name it it's all on me just like he thinks being an adult is optional as long as he's got his job and his Reddit account the final STW came a few weeks ago I'm 5 months pregnant with our first child a daughter my mother-in-law started making comments about how she'll have to whip the girl into shape and how she'll raise her to be tough because I'm too soft when I told my husband that I didn't want his mother to have too much influence on our daughter especially with the way she treats me he just laughed it off saying his mother means well and that I was overthinking it but the moment that truly broke me was when we were talking about our future child care my husband suggested that his mother should watch our daughter while we work I told him I wasn't comfortable with that especially considering how his mother treats me and he snapped he called me paranoid and I should get over it because his mother was trying to be a big part of our daughter's life whether I liked it or not this is the same woman who believes corporal punishment is okay I've seen her hit my husband's nephew for the smallest things and no one does anything about it it's like they're all living in some kind of cult and I'm finally waking up to the reality of what's going on if he wouldn't stand up for me how could I expect him to stand up for our child I started to fear for what kind of environment our daughter would grow up in a place where she might be belittled or bullied by her own grandmother with a father who wouldn't do anything to stop it oh and did I mention that he missed our first ultrasound his mother needed him to help her with something urgent it turned out to be fixed in her Wi-Fi WiFi it chose that overseeing our daughter for the first time that told me everything that I needed to know and where I stand in his life so I packed up and left I'm done living like this oh and in case you're wondering I've already contacted a lawyer you can't scare me into complying anymore because I have all those texts you know exactly which ones I'm talking about so Stefan I wish you all the best in your future marriage with your mother and the women of Reddit whose boobs you don't even deserve I'm I the [ __ ] for leaving my husband after he neglected me for years let his mother mistreat me and made me fear for our future daughter's safety imagine if dude is actually on Story 1 Comments this subreddit and he comes across this post about you're slowly reading it and recognizing that it's your life that's being read here and you're like holy [ __ ] but it's one of those typical mother-in-law stories that we see time and time again and seem to have control all over their son's life but I love the way that Opie explained it as well like they're living in some kind of cult and Opie's waking up to the reality of what's going on that like before it it I guess it kind of felt like all normalized but now she's waking up to the fact and this could be the future for a child as well and getting herself out that situation absolutely but sudden magazine says not the [ __ ] question for Stefan do you scroll through Reddit comparing boobs to your mom's while she's breastfeeding you R rambara says and Stefan is homelander we're [ __ ] aquavent says wish I could give this post a gold because this was brilliant F you I'm leaving you note not only did op post a note where asum tox will find it and read it but also found a very clever way to make it public op make sure all of the custody arrangements and the visitation Agreements are done with your lawyer and the judge and without your former mother-in-law I'm sorry it came to this your ex never deserved you obviously not the assle Chuck says op that second paragraph is important when you set up visitation I'm not sure if you can arrange it so your mother-in-law can't be supervised around your child but you can put in a first right of refusal athletic nerd says if he is dumb enough to post here everyone is going to eviscerate his post history noph says step versus reddit's titties committee rating battle would be an awesome watch not going to lie strange Loop says imagine bro sitting down and reading this at first like wow imagine if this was actually for me wait oh that might be because oh my God the necklace thing the ultrasound [Music] mom Ray one says he sounds so disinterested in his wife that he only realized when he gets home and finds her gone see command says and he still won't know why why silver twin says he just throws his hands in the air and says this came out of nowhere I wonder what happened everything was perfect I had my mom and my bang maid Opie came in a few hours later with a little update and says tiny update Story 1 Update Stefan has seen this post he is mad that apparently one of you found him based on the rap my boobs thing his deleted his account for any purposes want to clarify that I left out any actual incriminating information that could lead to docks and him any and all people are pretending to know me or have any incriminating information about me are lying I'm not from South Carolina I'm not moving in with any other guy and I'm also not sleeping around worker says it's days like these Story 1 Comments / OP's Reply that I actually thank God I was born during the time of the internet are you my personal hero absolutely yes are you the [ __ ] not remotely way to get rid of a deadbeat husband this is an actual piece of art primary afternoon says I can't believe you came between him and his mom you hussy Opie says I'm Legit the side chick in my marriage strangely unstrange says out of all the things I've seen on this thread if this is real it definitely takes the cake and the baker too 10 out of 10 post a deleted user who was downvoted said to op yeah the point is you created an account and wanted everyone on your side so you can do a childish thing just to get it your husband you've been with for 10 years you're part of the problem that is why everyone sucks here L says I don't know you guys well it's nice to have people cheering and telling me their stories there is nothing to be gained from unknown internet strangers you have no real bearing in my life so having you on my side makes no difference the point of this is setting a loud statement the only way my student to Bex husband cares about op replying to another deleted comment saying baby no if anyone treats you like Stefan treated me leave this is not normal a few months ago I got to witness what an actual healthy relationship is like a partner should be attentive care about you and want to do this for you and with you there should be fire and Flame when it comes to making relationship work not just let you carry all the burden marriage should not be hard only life and marriage should be what makes life manageable this is not normal took me a few months to understand but you will also understand when you grow Johnny velvet replied to op saying what do you mean a few months ago you witnessed a healthy relationship like witnessed as a third party or are you agreeing with all the people pretending they know you saying you had a different partner they claim that's who you're moving in with I'm sure you saw Opie says I made a friend through work who invited me over for dinner a husband was there I saw how they interacted it was really small but that was basically what triggered the whole deconstruction he has since also come to work to surprise her and she has dragged me along to find tiny silly gifts for him she is always so excited to go home and see him he always brings us something home last week she came in with a Shiny Rock K found for her and she proudly put it next to her desktop Mountain click replies and says this is coup's goals Opie says they really are and I have a lot to thank them it's like the loving slap I needed to wake up from this nightmare especially one night when we're out not even clubbing but at a night Museum inour I was been bombarded by calls because he was trying to make me feel bad for being out my friend looked at me concerned and asked me if I noticed that a husband had text her only once I was convinced that going out was awful for everyone Opie replies in with regards to getting off the lease Opie says you can if both of you signed a document and not over the minimum renting time for us it was 3 years I needed notice plus it's an individual not an agency they have more leeway I'm sure I'd been [ __ ] if we had done our leasing through an agency because as I have heard they tell you to go pound sand I also didn't just call today and get it done it has been in the making a little longer today is just dday op he also told everyone that they're not from the US and after this part of me really wants to know what Stefan and mother-in-law are doing on the back of this information that op is leaving you know I know mother-in-law will probably be just as shitty and so will Stefan because you know because mother-in-law and him ain't going to see any other way but what do you guys make of this situation let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another Story 2 story now our next story comes from the true off my chest subreddit from B regret who says I want to confess to my best friend of 10 plus years I also know that he doesn't reciprocate my feelings my best friend and I both late 20s have known each other since grade school after Middle School we went off to different schools and have lived different lives in different states but have still managed to keep in contact with one another over the years largely we do this via phone calls or Skype usually about once or twice a week it's scheduled so at this point it's our unspoken agreement to call each other on a particular day of the week I'm not exactly sure when I started feeling this way for him one day about a year ago he was talking about someone he was dating I felt weirdly smug that he preferred spending time with me I chose not to think about it but that might have been one of the first signs he's pretty amazing funny smart kind capable and so incredibly knowledgeable about the things he's passionate about I love listening to him talk whether it's about his favorite video game or music history or gossip about people I've never met LOL on the one hand I learned something new and on the other he always looks so jazzed to share what he's pass about he's pursuing higher education at the moment and hearing about what he learns in class is always a treat too and he's just as supportive of me with my hobbies and passions and struggles I couldn't ask for someone better in my life I know that he sees me as something like a sibling we've talked about someone he was interested in from his school and he cemented the fact that he just doesn't see me that way he menant should not being able to date someone with the same name as me or anyone who has the same names as his family member he mentioned not wanting to date someone with the same eye color as me too it's just a preference of his that's still stung a little I know that this is going nowhere I know that these feelings are roots in arid soil and that this desire to be his first priority in his life isn't realistic or fair to him I know that this is something that I should give up retrospect being 2020 I understand now that I've always been the one to reach out first over the years I was the first to suggest weekly C I don't think we'd still be talking if I weren't the one to take initiative at this point I just want to confess to him and ask for space I want to rip off this band-aid and find someone else who reciprocate these feelings I just wish this process didn't require hurting our friendship his school is starting its new semester soon and I hate the idea that I might become an added stressor for him as opposed to support prior to this I hadn't been in love for over a decade but I guess the heart can bepr ious I'm in love with him I want him to be happy I want to be a guest at his hypothetical wedding and gush to his future partner about what a lovely couple they make and more than anything I want that not to be a lie I'm aware that my feelings are starting to affect this friendship I know that confessing may be selfish but it's something that I need to do to get over this thank you for reading this post whoever you are internet stranger I'm wishing you well my kind feeling on this and I don't Story 2 Comments / OP's Reply know whether it's right whether it's wrong but I just kind of feel like you should just get it over with and tell him like you said rip the Band-Aid off and and do it because I don't think your feelings are going to change anytime soon and they might just grow you know and it's going to make things more and more Awkward sure it could go horribly wrong so you may have to prepare yourself for that but I I I don't know I'm struggling to see an alternative to this you can just pull away but then again you're left with more wh ifs but pretty a throwaway says honestly you sound like the girl best friend every girlfriend fears I don't mean it in a rude way by the way but I got that vibe after reading that you felt smug after he chose you over his date you should tell him it's unfair to both of you if you don't we'll just start resenting both him and his girlfriends if you don't and who knows maybe he was only saying that you're like a sibling because he's afraid you wouldn't reciprocate and it doesn't have to mean the end of your friendships if you're both willing to put in the work in case of rejection Opie says I hate to say that I agree he's single right now and I think it's just best to get it out of the way sometimes truth is hard but I appreciate it small drama says confess you never know if you don't try and maybe there's something there that you don't know about I've had situations like this before are so oblivious to a friend having feelings and secretly I had them as well and if he doesn't reciprocate then you can take action on what you want to do take your space if you need to but you have to do it because if you don't you'll regret it so Story 2 Update Opie did come in with her update and says hello some folks were asking for an update and I decided H may as well get it off my chest but um in a nutshell I got rejected that was anticipated so I actually got over that part pretty quickly instead what's been bothering me is the specifics of how it went down he was talking about a reading that he was doing for one of his classes I mentioned hey have something to say said a few apologies in advance and admitted had romantic feelings for him his response was thanks for telling me that takes courage and then continued talking about his reading and that was it no questions no concerns just continuing on from where it left off as if it didn't happen on the one hand I'm grateful that he accepted it and didn't let the conversation get awkward that was kind of him on the other I don't know maybe this is just an issue of expectations not being anywhere close to reality we've known each other since we were kids how could he not have any questions not even a single comment about it just I don't know dismissal I guess maybe he didn't know what to say and just stuck with whatever he wanted to discuss he went from talking about his readings to lamenting about how a game he really wants to play will be coming out smack in the middle of his midterms meaning while I was reeling that was it nothing else I ended the call early after mentioning that I want some distance and how convenient it was that our schedules wouldn't match the semester when I said my goodbyes he said talk to you later I'm not sure if he realize the severity of that conversation had a quick choir about it and discussed it with some other friends who've never met him I didn't want to make these feelings a problem for him he's busy now and it'd be Petty of me to tell him that his underreaction was disappointing to say the least so now I'm telling the whole internet about it instead I've also been thinking about the Dynamics of our friendship over the years if I weren't the one taking initiative who probably would have lost touch my mind keeps returning to the fact that I was the one who would spend time making gifts for him by hand and he did not do that in return I'd send him texts and he wouldn't answer until it was time for our weekly chat fun stuff I know I have no real right to be mad at him he was just living as life I was the one with the unrealistic expectations there was a time when we were much closer and he even made a little Flash game for my birthday full of inside jokes but he's busy now life moves on and so will I maybe he and I will speak again maybe not if nothing else I have plenty of other friends and I'm pretty good at making new ones if you read this far thank you hope you have a nice day Story 2 Comments / OP's Replies so a commenter says to the op he had no questions because he already knew I would guess another commenter says that's what I thought he knew it or suspected it but op you've been brave enough to ask and knowing that rejection would be the most probable answer give yourself time to heal and let him be the one approach you first if you want to know something of him because cutting ties would be the best thing to do good luck Opie said funnily enough he said he had no idea so hungry blood says he doesn't have feelings for you at all I don't blame you for wanting space stop your weekly call calls because you won't be able to get over this guy if you talk weakly wish him the best in your heart and do your best to cut out reminders of him you sound like a lovely person a guy should be pursuing you the way you've been pursuing your male BFF op he says that's the plan and yeah I've been re-evaluating a lot of this friendship thank you for the compliment by the way s says what I'm reading is this take it however you want he is more your friend than you are his his comments indicate to me that he's just seen you as someone in his life he can chat and hang out and shoot the [ __ ] with but he doesn't see you as close as you see him you've held your friendship in a more meaningful light bottom line you're not as close as you thought and he isn't interested in anything beyond Dynamic you have/ he thinks you have if you still want to hang out with him let him come to you and if he doesn't he doesn't it's okay to have misjudged the Friendship but this brings Clarity and you know how romantic feelings can Cloud judgment in the future op he says that's a conclusion I've reached as well just not as eloquently I appreciate your advice and intend to take it but now I'm going to turn this one to you guys what do you guys make of this situation let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and just a huge thank you from the bottom of my heart for getting involved in today's stories your love your support your time not towards me but towards the Ops towards each other down in the comments as always fantastic and lovely to see thank you so much please keep doing you and I will see you in the next one take care and much love