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Start yeah this episode Lauren I can't believe that we're recording two times in one week after not doing it for two months I know we got to get you in you know it's a long overdue got to have a back catalog of you and the bank so we don't have to do that again because the people miss you too I think they forgot who I am no they didn't just and then you didn't allow my name to be on the sign they'll never remember who I am oh my God go well introduce yourself just in case my name is Lauren what's your sign I'm a cancer it's cancer season there you go Lauren just celebrated her birthday a couple weeks ago we went to Cabo it was beautiful um yeah I'm Morgan welcome back to another episode of two hot takes I haven't done my Blues Clues air horn in a while I love it um so this week's episode again we're staying in our our realm there's no poop this episode I don't think there's poop there's no poop maybe probably and but it's like crazy stories that like are in the realm of possibility I'm I'm this month is my month of possible okay these are stories that could happen to any of us any of us but there are stories where you just want to like look at the op or the people involved and be like hey Earth to ground control like calm the [ __ ] down let's go back to earth like let's bring it back down to planet Earth because you are so far El out of this realm of Sanity let's let's chill let's chill okay I'm scared have you had any experiences like that in real life [Music] lately are you thinking of one I feel like you're looking at me like you know I have one no okay no I don't do you have one um I honestly my encounters with people lately have been pretty chill like I feel like retrograde is maybe not happening right now well one time people have been Zen yeah one time this was kind of this is a couple months ago but my neighbor I was walking Kennedy's dog and I always pick up his poop oh you told us the story yeah yeah this is how we started talking about dog poop in plastic bags oh you're right you it's been so many months I don't even know what I talk about on this podast anymore okay so yeah it's been a few months but you know that that really hurt my feeling I'm kidding it didn't hurt my feelings at all but like I thought that was so Random for like somebody to just go and get so hostile towards somebody they don't even know when they're walking a dog so weird to me but other than that I haven't really had a lot of weird interactions I I just keep seeing a lot of weird interactions and like just stupid people I feel like people are like more unhinged than usual lately and I I know like road rage is a very serious problem and I just saw a story of this guy who was driving with his wife someone was tailgating them driving really aggressively and his wife always told him like don't flick them off like just be the big be the bigger person don't do anything calm down and so this guy was driving nuts or whoever was in the car all they know is is like the color and what kind of body style the car is that dude didn't even get licensed plate is so but he flicked him off gave him the bird and the guy shot in the car and his wife got hit in the head died oh my God so there are just so many wild unhinged people out there so it's like I know like if you guys are driving like I flicked people off before like yeah I have too like just don't don't do it no it's smart I think I cuz I I might have told this too again I don't even know how many things I'm recycling because at this point it's been a few years I've been on this podcast guys so um but no there was one time that I was driving and it just turned green and somebody behind me laid their horn down and it was one of those things where I threw my hands up and just like flicked off like from behind me just kind of a reaction not even thinking they see yeah because they're behind me and I was just like what the hell was that like and started driving cuz it it like just turned green you know and then this person pulls up right next to me and like screams at you but like I don't know how to describe like this person looked like they didn't shave in like five years got out of a really rusty car swings it open cuz we're at the next stoplight cuz it's one of those streets that's like and then starts like screaming at me and is just saying like all these like calling me like a [ __ ] calling me like every word you can think of and I was like just like looked forward and I was like do not make contact and that's when I really realized like holy [ __ ] you do have to be careful because like that person looked like he he didn't give a [ __ ] about anything he'd be totally down to just just like vandalize my car or whatever it was while we're sitting in like completely like stopped traffic you have nowhere to go yeah so no road rage for our tht family out there I know a lot of you are listening as you drive and just you know remind yourself if you get a little angry on the road or wherever you're at in the office today just take it take it down a notch come back down to earth I have a theory that people do feel that like that they can get so Brad rag because of the fact that you are so Zen when you're driving you know like you're in your own world you're thinking about your own life your own problems you're listening to your favorite song you're singing as loud as possible windows are down you're having a good time and then when someone does something like ridiculous to you the other thing is that it's not like I think my mom said this one time she's like it's so weird how people will honk their horns and flick each other off and scream at each other on the roads cuz it's like imagine if you accidentally ran into someone on the sidewalk imagine if they were like [ __ ] you loser like as they're Crossing you on the sidewalk like it's like you also save face when you're in your car you get to zoom away you don't have to take any accountability or responsibility for your shitty actions it's why people comment what they do online yeah there you go you feel unreachable yeah you are not yeah you are not I will find you Liam niss what's that monologue I Know Who You Are are I will find you I'm not that crazy but maybe someday okay are you ready yeah I'm ready let's dive in let's do [Music] Story 1 AITA for not wanting to dedicate half my wedding to my fiancé's sister? it okay so up first this one is coming from am I the [ __ ] it is titled am I the [ __ ] for not wanting to dedicate half of my wedding to my fiance's sister I 29 female got engaged to my boyfriend Peter 30 male in early 2023 and our wedding is scheduled for early 2024 Peter has a sister Olivia she's 15 and was recently diagnosed with leukemia she's receiving chemotherapy and as far as I know it's not terminal one of Olivia's dreams in life is to get married ever since I've known her she's talked about her future wedding and has planned every Last Detail since she got diagnosed she's become very worried that she won't be able to have her dream wedding because she might pass before that happens based on what I know about her diagnosis she'll likely survive and go on to live a full life but it's a definite possibility she could die Peter and I are currently in the wedding planning stage and this is also where we might be the [ __ ] Peter's parents approached us a few days ago and asked if we would be willing to dedicate some of our wedding time to Olivia since she might not get one of her own according to them Olivia wants to wear a wedding dress invite a lot of her friends have a say in the food cake decorations and have a first dance with her boyfriend they said it's better what what I just it's so crazy I can't I couldn't contain it I'm sorry y'all if I ruined it for you they said said it's better to do all of this at me and Peter's wedding because then the family can celebrate all together Peter and I were shocked that they would ask this since we thought that our wedding would be about us I know Olivia is struggling and I feel completely awful for her since no teenager should have their youth ruined by cancer but I don't see why we can't have a separate party for Olivia instead of having to dedicate half of our day to her especially since she would likely get most of the attention due to her condition additionally it would cost a lot more money to have to pay for Olivia's friends to attend the wedding Peter's parents only offered to pay for 75% of the additional cost and Peter and I aren't made out of money Peter and I told Peter's parents we would think about it but after discussing it we decided it would be better to say no because we'd prefer our day to be about us but we'd be more than willing to pitch in funds and help plan a separate party for Olivia but when we informed Peter's parents they were Furious they said they couldn't believe we were prioritizing ourselves over a child with cancer and that we were being selfish they said this might be Olivia's only chance for a wedding and how dare we deny her quote dying wish I said I didn't understand why we couldn't have a separate party but Peter's parents said they wanted it to feel authentic for Olivia so it would be better to do it at an actual wedding when they started raising their voices Peter and I left but since then Peter's family has been spamming us with messages about how terrible we're being to Olivia and how they can't believe we're not being considerate of her wishes Peter and I both frequent the sub so we wanted to know what the internet thinks are we being unreasonable here this is a wild story I know we got to all these stories toight just wait just wait this is the first one because it's my first when you were talking about the story my first thought was like oh my god of course like include her make her feel so loved but then it's just like no that's weird like no do separate wedding what like no that's I don't even have words for that that's just you know cuz it's really hard because like they said when if if she didn't make it that would be like devastating devastating and they'd regret probably not doing something exactly and so that's what makes this really hard because when it when a young life is at risk like this like all you want to do is make that person feel so much love so much inclusion so much experience everything like that so it's a really hard spot that they put them in to say here take on these extra costs because like you said so they'd be paying 25% of all the extra guests that you know she would be bringing along which who knows how many that is and that that can be a lot especially at a wedding and then it's like and then she gets the first dance and all this stuff and the focus really would be on it probably would be on her because it is every like naturally humans who have empathy are more likely to be focused on a kid who has cancer achieving their dreams right so it's a really hard place that they put them in because a wedding that you're spending so much money on that is like the one time that you get to be like it is just about me and my husband you know right like that is just such a big occasion for people it's really hard that they're making it them feel like bad people for wanting to have separate celebrations it's extremely weird that they're guilt tripping them like weddings are not cheap by any means I am on the wedding side of Tik Tok right now and some people pay $100,000 just for their venue like the wedding industry is a [ __ ] cash cow like I mean I'm trying to open up a wedding venue we all know this I've talked about the wedding Barn since one of the First episodes and it's expensive that being said I'm have a wedding of like five people what said I'm gonna have a wedding of like five people I mean you can have it at my farm then you don't have to pay for the venue it's going to be beautiful but I want to be by the ocean ooh I'll do two two separate things two separate parties yeah you can alope and then do the other one and then have like a party in Minnesota well a lot of your familyes in Minnesota too and it makes it easy versus like destination weddings can be a little harder but I find it a little strange and I know she is very ill leukemia is a very serious thing but maybe this is just me but isn't it kind of weird that they're entertain this idea of even letting their 15-year-old get married like this is a child bride and I know it's symbolism but like what does her 15-year-old boyfriend think like are they going to then like this little 15-year-old girl like I'm sorry at 15 if my if I could have convinced my high school boyfriend to fake marry me I'd be like yeah we're married now this is my husband like I would have been off the rock that probably does come up with or come with more issues I'm like you are kind of entertaining this crazy idea versus being like honey you're not gonna die you're gonna get to have your wedding like the brain is so powerful let this kid manifest I'm going to get my dream wedding someday I almost wonder if that's why the parents wanted it that way because if it was just a separate celebration then that would be like weird like we're having a fake wedding for two 15-year-olds where if it's just like oh like it's just kind of we're tacking on to this you know wedding then it makes makes it less serious it makes it more fun maybe you know but and then also you never know like a grieving parent of a 15-year-old like that's something I hope to I hope no one ever has to experience and unfortunately people do it's it's horrible so I can't really imagine what they're going through and what and also maybe like you said the brain's really powerful maybe it is worse than they know and they don't want to tell anyone cuz they don't want people to know and and then have her think like okay I don't have do you say I don't know it's just this is such a hard one to have like a really strong opinion on because do I think that it's right to guil trip them no but at the same time I'm like this is just so it's so hard when there's somebody who's so young and is so sick it's just like again I'm not saying that they should like do that but I'm just saying I don't think the parents are crazy I think they're just grieving but your daughter's still here you don't have to grieve I know she's sick and you're scared she's not gone so I mean do the other option and take the private ceremony for just her and her friends and make it an unserious like here's your wedding babe like it's not you got married air quotes at an actual wedding you're making it so real is this little boyfriend this other 15-year-old boy even okay with getting married this is weird it is really weird I agree I'm like I don't like the fact that everyone's entertaining this like and people are going to be like Morgan give the give the little girl she's sick give her what she wants but something you point out you said her age 15 and then I was like damn she is young and I'm saying 15 and then I looked at how old the brother is MHM the brother is 30 mhm there's a 15-year age gap between them which makes me think that maybe this daughter was like their miracle baby like they tried to get pregnant after after the 30-year-old and couldn't and maybe struggled with infertility and so they had a miracle baby and like this is their Golden Child then and if you think about birth order usually the youngest gets treated a little differently anyways like the baby of the family usually gets like everything they want in a lot of families so I feel like this could be maybe like this is their Golden Child and they don't when she asks for things they just like give it to her and that could be it too plus compound on top of it she has leukemia and it is so scary and I get it's a very serious thing but at the same time she doesn't need to have her own wedding at her brother's wedding and just to make it clear I absolutely do not think that they should do that like I don't think they should go through with that I don't think they should allow that like that's no question to me I'm just I'm just saying that like I'm not surprised that the parents are reacting like this because people like you said grieving is not the right word but like because they're they're terrified you maybe I mean maybe you can grieve without suffering a loss they're they're clearly struggling they're struggling and I would be too with being the parent of a sick child God that is just not something I want to ever live what are like is there an update or there comments or yeah so we do have lots of comments I mean this one kind of this not it's only 17 days old there's 6K up votes so it's not it's not the biggest one we've had but the top comment is not the [ __ ] which overall I think we're both there abely we're dissecting it question we're dissecting it a lot deeper like absolutely not the clearly not the [ __ ] um but top comment with 13k up votes not the [ __ ] honestly I find the whole thing kind of repulsive a fake wedding for a maybe dying child is modlin and in very poor taste what does that word mean Google didn't know wearing a wedding dress is not a wd cutting a cake is not a wedding having a first dance is not a wedding a wedding is a sacred commitment including God or not between two people who want to spend their lives together this is nothing but a farce yeah tell her the truth she will live she will be fine she will go on to have a million frogs way before she ever finds her prince and when she's ready she will have her wedding yeah this person kind of gets my yeah this is weird that you're in entertaining this thought and I felt bad I'm honestly I did feel bad saying that because I was like like why are they entertaining this no it it is it is weird and I I like that's no question to me I the only reason that I even was having a different conversation is just because I'm like you have a lot of empathy for the family yeah cuz I don't know what the parent like I think the parents are being ridiculous but like ridiculous in a way of that it doesn't make sense to do it but not ridiculous in the way that they want to do anything to make their child who is struggling who they've watched in pain who's maybe you know like going through chemo and sick and throwing up and losing hair I don't know like whatever is involved they want to do anything to make her happy that's that's what I meant was like they're not necessarily like crazy parents they just are terrified but the whole thing is like it doesn't no like that doesn't make sense no and that also leads me to believe more so of like she's The Golden Child that they're entertaining this versus being like if I imagin myself in this position I would be like no sweetie you're going to make it you're going to make it and I would take the offer of having a a private party not interrupting my other child's wedding yeah we do have some we do have some comments there's no update just to put that out there but we do have some comments so someone goes not the [ __ ] this is such a weird take for your in-laws to have that I can only imagine it's the emotional Panic of the idea that their daughter could die that has them thinking this is even remotely okay it's your wedding it's supposed to be about you yeah I wonder if they are worried that Olivia going to your wedding is going to make her depressed and this is their weird way of offsetting that it would make way more sense for them to do all these wedding type things for Olivia's sweet 16 obviously I have no idea how close that date is and I mean cancer can upend the best plans of any time and Opie goes that's what I was thinking too Peter and I have refrained from talking a lot about our wedding around Olivia at Peter's parents request because they don't want her to be more sad than she already is next comment goes I would like to know what Olivia's boyfriends and his parents think of this cocki cockamamy how do you say that word everyone in this comment is using big words it's a SM smart thread [ __ ] me plan because that could potentially severely [ __ ] him up and how does he say no to a wedding his girlfriend's fake husband for a dance that's exactly what I was saying somewhere in the midst of all the gibberish I said but yes if he were my son they would have to come get him Over My Dead Body not the [ __ ] yeah and that's what I was saying too I'm like me and 15 high school like you put everyone my husband yeah you put everyone in a really uncomfortable spot if they were to say yes now you put the boyfriend in an uncomfortable spot so it's like no they they they needed to say no like that what as far this is from op as far as I know Olivia's boyfriend and his family are supportive of the plan they know it's not an actual marriage and more of a fancy party with a little extra oomph so that's why they're not weirded out because it's not a legal commitment but she's wearing a white wedding dress like that's like where I'm like okay if she was like for you know like flower girl status like and she's like I'm pretending I'm marrying my crush you know but like at 15 like that's when like you look at relationships and you see a potential of like marrying them for the rest of your life you know what I mean you're wearing a white wedding dress like that's like really intense like I like I said you might as well be getting married you're doing you're doing the you're doing up until the 10th yard the only difference is you didn't get the the marriage license and sign it only difference Wonder ring is involved if there's a ring I'm sure would be yeah she's having a first dance and basically picking everything else these people are this is giving Jack Nicholson who flew over the cucko nest or whatever what's that movie How To Kill a Mocking Bird what's that movie this is giving no no it's the cucko nest one but this is giving [Laughter] crazy I like I'm baffled I couldn't even contain myself reading the story I am losing my mind over here no I just remembered like seeing in the comments the last time this got brought up when I was like oh that Jack Nicholson movie and you go M To Kill a Mocking Bird and then people were laughing that how confident you were in that answer when it was the cuckoo nest one it is to Kill a Mocking Bird what do you mean no that's a different movie look up the it's like I can't One Flew Over The One Flew Over the cuckoo nest that's Jack Jack Nicholson what's the Mockingbird one it's also a a book and a and a and a movieovie who's in the movie you know that's been too long for me to know it's old it's from the 60s Gregory peek but the cuckoo nest one I I did read the book and watch the movie when I was in high school for a class I did too yeah yeah they need to come up with more original content this is Goofy though y'all and um no not the [ __ ] there's one more comment op respond to does Olivia want to do this or do her parents want to do this what is Olivia we've never even gotten her like her word on anything yeah what is Olivia's opinion on this and on a minor note what the heck does Olivia's boyfriend think of this I assume he would be freaked up by the whole idea of a pretend wedding Olivia does want to do this she texted and called Peter about it trying to convince him but she's not as gung-ho about it as Peter's parents I think she's just very very scared of dying and doesn't want to lose out on Big Life Milestones but in her mind she doesn't really think of a wedding as a commitment between two people but but more like a giant aesthetic party yeah Olivia's boyfriend and his family are on board with it as far as I know I think they also think of it more as a party instead of a legal ceremony SL commitment which is why they're okay with it then have a sep party yeah it's the parents that are making this difficult yeah I agree which let's move along yeah do you feel I feel I'm over I'm over it yeah I'm over it too okay okay I just don't want to like if you still have thoughts no I think we got it all out like basically it's a you're not the [ __ ] it's ridiculous it's not healthy for anyone however we understand that it's a really difficult situation and the parents are mourning grieving scared whatever word we want to go with and so they put you in a really uncomfortable situation that you shouldn't be in and hopefully you guys get it resolved boom yeah I also I just wanted to look up morning the expression of deep sorrow for someone who has died okay cuz I want to find I want to find the word for them grief is a natural response to loss it's the emotional suffering you feel when someone or something you love is taken away okay so what's maybe it's just anxiety of experiencing grief anguish severe mental or physical pain or suffering yeah to be extremely distressed they're in anguish they're in anguish yeah I don't is in anguish even a phrase or is it just they're anguished she shut her eyes in anguish okay in anguish that's a noun or for a verb he anguished over how to reply okay well yeah learn something new every day yeah here we go here we go moving along moving along Hey Okay so this next one again remember these people they're not on planet Earth right now so you thought the first one was a little goofy mhm it probably gets worse from here okay okay so this one is 20 days old from Curious gift 4854 it is titled am I the [ __ ] for not giving the mother of my dead husband's child his possessions me 30 female and my husband got married when we were 25 after 6 years he passed away in an accident in April a few weeks before the accident I found out that he had a one night stand with a woman who he works with when he died I hadn't decided yet what was going to happen in our relationship we entered counseling and we're still living together but obviously it was hectic as I wasn't sure if we were going to divorce I decided not to tell our families and only confided in a few close friends and my therapist I didn't want opinions from everyone I also didn't tell his family when he died there was no reason to a few weeks ago the affair partner reached out to me she's 5 months pregnant and preparing to raise the baby she wanted me to tell his family because she wants her child to have a relationship with his family and be connected to his culture I said I wouldn't do this and simply passed along their contact information [ __ ] hit the fan I am close with his brothers and I thought they were going to raise him from the dead and kill him again apologies for the dark humor they're Story 2 AITA not giving the mother of my dead husbands child his possessions? coming around to the idea of having a relationship with the baby but I do not want to nor has the mother offered which is fine the mother has gotten back in touch with me to ask for some of my husband's possessions she wants his clothes his books his record collection and bizarrely his wedding ring for the baby to feel connected to its father I made it very clear to her that I will be giving her nothing of the sort his parents and brother have some of his stuff and she can access things like that through them she kept pushing and I lost my temper and called her an outrageous [ __ ] who should find some shame I wouldn't be opposed to passing some of the stuff along to the child via my in-laws when they're older and can appreciate it not the wedding ring which was the worst request in my opinion yeah but other sentimental stuff I've also retained a lawyer to look into whether I owe the child any money legally from my husband's passing if I don't I may set up a trust fund for them when they're an adult with his money because I really don't need it and that seems fair I just do not want to give this woman all I have left of my husband I really do not trust her with any of it no obviously she thinks I'm a bitter raging monster [ __ ] and an [ __ ] and my in-laws are divided my in-laws are largely supportive but some think that I need to give some of his stuff to her and the baby some of his brothers have told me that they're sympathetic but that I'm behaving like an [ __ ] and a baby by not co-parenting for the sake of the child child I'm unsure whether the complicated grief is cloudy my judgment am I the [ __ ] that is a movie like what the [ __ ] that's a movie that's crazy wait so is she saying that they just had a one night stand one time only and that she got pregnant MH there's not like a full-on affair that is the original post I'm unsure if there's additional comments or an update okay cuz I don't know that one like it always blows my mind that people can just get pregnant from a one night stand um not that I don't understand it but like it's just I know people who are married were like you know together forever like will try for a long period of time blah blah blah whatever so whenever someone just like has like a one night stand and gets pregnant that I was always like shocking to me I know it can happen but on top of that that like the fact that she would have enough you know nerve to be like I want his wedding ring ma'am you were not the one married to him that is so [ __ ] weird you in your goofy little head probably imagined that life for yourself and that's probably why you seduced your cooworker with a life and then slept with him literally like what the [ __ ] why is no one talking about a paternity test why are they automatically believing this woman yeah too I actually I thought about this like book that I read in book club Emily kff book club and um that's exactly what I was thinking this entire book the person was pretending to be pregnant in the entire book you think the person's actually pregnant and then you find out that she's actually not and so not saying that this person is not pregnant but it's just like yeah where are like the details of this of that's what I'm saying this could be a movie cuz it's just like there's so many question marks around all of this why does she want the wedding ring why does she want the wedding ring honestly honestly now that you mention it I don't know if she's pregnant there are women out there who have faked a 9month long pregnancy even with their they were married crazy her husband thought they were pregnant they faked a 9mon long pregnancy she had a friend who was pregnant she went over to her friend's house cut the baby out of her belly and murdered her friend what the [ __ ] people arear story this is this is a story I saw it on a Tik Tok True Crime episode oh my God people are deranged how do we know this woman is actually pregnant one is actually pregnant with his child two I don't know also I just want to say how unfair this is that she is just going through this back to back like beaten down like she first gets cheated on by her husband of 10 years then she finds out that he got that person pregnant then he dies then his family is saying that she should give the belongings that belong to her to this unborn child of this weird ass girl like he died then she came forward that she was pregnant don't you think she would have told her coworker don't you think the husband especially if they're in marriage counseling working on things don't you think he would have came to her and said hey my coworker is pregnant I'm sorry how do we navigate this don't you think he knew before he died and would have told her if they were planning on reconciling living together going through counseling that's why I'm so suspicious so crazy she happens to come out of the woodwork once he dies and then asks for all these things including his wedding ring the wedding ring that he wasn't married to her with he was married what and okay not this lady needs help this is actually insane and not not that I actually think you know anything like this happened but going back to the fact that this sounds like a movie it's like how did he actually die we have lots of comments from op I do want to point out out in the last line of the story op says something along the lines of some of his brothers have told me that they're sympathetic but I'm behaving like an [ __ ] and a baby by not Co what I read it wrong okay so I read it as co-parenting okay and a lot of other people did too because a bunch of people were like wait not the [ __ ] co-parent question mark your in-laws want you to co-parent your dead husband a fair partner child they are delusional and op responds nobody is expecting me to co-parent a few people think that I should give some belongings to the child when it is born and paternity is proven which is likely because dates line up perfectly okay so as of now she's pregnant yeah but a lot of other people read that as co-parenting like me she meant cooperating got it okay which cooperating I'm reading it coopera cooperating how do you spell cooperating okay so the reason [Music] the the stop the reason I read it as co-operating is because she put one of the dashes dashes it's not spelled like that cooperating cooperating doesn't have the dashir just c o o p right e r a t i n g yeah like cooperating she she did c o so like as a person reading it's co-operating like screw all of you I hate all of you laughing at me but yeah there's there's a lot of comments um someone goes not the [ __ ] if she wants to get the possessions of her partner after they die she should consider getting married instead of being the other woman there's 's nothing bitter about what you're doing she just doesn't know how life or the law works yeah edit it's not your job to have any sort of relationship with a child and I also don't get why you'd need to set up a trust fund for the baby seems like you're willing to do more than you need to that's what I was thinking I was like the the fact honestly no one's even taking account to the fact that she's being so kind like she said hey I'm not going to reach out to my in-laws but here's their contact information and you can like yeah I can't even like in In Her Shoes I feel like a lot of people would just be like [ __ ] off I'm grieving right now [ __ ] off yeah [ __ ] off she doesn't she doesn't get a chance to grieve no and this is this is something my mom has said after the loss of her husband now she has been dealing with all of his family like coming out of the woodwork what do we get and she's just been dealing with lawyers trying to do it the right way like trying to make sure that all of his medical debts are paid off because there's a lot of medical debts there's overall a lot of other debt and she has just been like playing this like executor of the estate essentially and she like broke down the other day and she was like I haven't even had a chance to grieve this was my partner of 20ish years and I haven't even had a chance to grieve because everyone's been coming at me yeah and that's this woman it's the same exact thing shut the [ __ ] up it doesn't matter what you're getting shut the [ __ ] up shut up it's going to be there it's going to be there let her grieve yeah and they didn't have kids of Their Own no no mention no mention um but someone goes in the same comment I just kind of read also what exactly does your husband have that a baby would even want and Opie goes trust fund would be the money that my husband left behind and life insurance I might not need to do this my lawyer is advising me on if the child is entitled to anything but paternity tests need to be done but to me that is my husband's money and ultimately his child so it feels correct yeah that's so big of her who I'm going to be honest I would look at if I marry someone it's kind of like joint like his money is his money and then we have our joint funds but I wouldn't automatically be like well it's not mine if my husband died and we built this life together and have this together I think she's being like generous I think it's a good thing to I think it's a good thing to do especially if she's like I don't need that money do you know what I mean so like I think it's a good thing to do because it's like that child is innocent and so that child might like grow up with a mom who is just like a [ __ ] [ __ ] who's just like I don't know [ __ ] around not car giving a [ __ ] about anyone so if he has a trust set up for him then he knows that he's secured you know at least in that bit that's why it's like yeah why why do we trust this woman and not I don't actually think that she had anything to do with his death like I when the woman or the wife the the the woman The Other Woman I don't actually think I don't actually think that but I was like making a not I not a good joke but like I was just kind of referencing the fact that it's like we don't know anything about this woman so like why just like instantly believe her yeah like let's like the baby yes let's give some like whatever the baby whatever she feels comfortable whatever think she feels right about but like that other woman it's like we don't know who she is we don't know what she's about we don't know if she did that specifically just to get money out of him like maybe she told him she was on birth control come inside me but she wasn't do you know what I mean like we don't know what her motive was and so it's like why just like feel any like guilt towards her or like feel like you need to do anything for her it's like but I do understand that op is like no I want to help this baby out because this baby this is the baby's dad yeah well and she does elaborate people are like commenting again child might be entitled to inheritance blah blah blah blah blah and Opie goes he didn't leave much by the way of inheritance but that I'm happy to give okay his parents also have a lawyer and are getting a paternity test done when the baby is born but the growth scans and due date align perfectly with when he told me he slept with her and this is one thing I will never understand if you are cheating on your partner why are you not taking every [ __ ] precaution to not catch something from that person you're cheating with or get them pregnant if they have the ability to do so why did he not wear a condom yeah wear a condom you dumb asses if you're going to cheat wear a condom at least that is the bare minimum level of respect you can do to someone and I know you already don't respect them because you're cheating on them but at least wear a condom truly what is wrong with people totally agree and I think that's kind of cheat on me I don't I don't care if you're going to cheat on me you're going to cheat on me either way but wear a condom yeah cuz then don't come back and I don't know you cheated on me and then you sleep with me and then what if you give me something [ __ ] that that's so true like have at least that that decency that decency I know I know you're an unrespectful oh disrespectful that's the word disrespectful piece of [ __ ] already but at least where condom yeah so [ __ ] and then then I hate this situation cuz it's like I feel like we can't even go in on him because he's dead yeah he sadly passed away so it's like yeah we'll just leave it at that someone goes did she confirm it was a one night stand it seems very odd that she would request those items if that was the case also asking for the wedding ring she's either looking to sell it for money or having it to pretend that she and your husband were married when the child gets older and starts asking questions listen to your lawyer and don't do anything best wishes at this terribly difficult time op goes he let me read their messages when I found out so I knew it was one time she also confirmed this okay so she's unhinged so wild yeah I don't like this like I said I don't know why but this just feels like every creepy thriller movie that I've ever seen like it just makes me feel uncomfortable another comment I can't have children so no we don't have children someone goes the woman may be able to establish paternity and and apply for Social Security benefits for the baby to grow up with your lawyer is right don't do a goddamn thing until paternity is established blah blah blah blah not the [ __ ] you're not obliged to give her anything it is convenient but she showed everyone her scans and due dates and I know exactly when the one8 stand occurred so at this point I've accepted that this is reality but of course it could still not be the case and of all of this has been dragged out for nothing honestly this was a one night stand like God some people are just fertile myrtles that's true yeah someone else co-parent cooperate just you spelled it weird everyone read it weird because you spelled it weird cooperate cooperate it's all no dash all one word yeah this one I don't like it y'all cooperate is a weird word should we move on to greener pastures yeah Okie doie okay okay so this next one I think you're going to like okay so this is coming from best of redditor updates it has concluded now it was originally posted well the accounts been deleted but it was originally posted June 30th of this year so it's less than a month old the title are you ready I stalked my husband for 2 years before I formally met him that's like the Taylor Swift song I was going to I was waiting to see if you would say sounds like something I would do I was waiting for that no no no no no no that is not me that two years is a lot I don't I'm so like I feel like I'm so different with guys like with all my girlfriends I'm just like I love you you're perfect whatever I'm like guys I'm just like [ __ ] off unless you can prove yourself to me boom okay take notes from Lauren guys um but yeah so I wouldn't do that but do you know that one song where she's like what does she say oh Mastermind in her new album do you know what I'm talking about I haven't listened to the every song dove in as much as you okay that's totally fine um but basically she talks about in this song Mastermind all of her lyrics are just like you thought that like you just fell in love with me naturally and she's like no I had everything planned out to a tea like I'm a mastermind I did that and then at the end of the song she's like but all along like you knew that I was doing that like it's just like you knew I was a mastermind didn't you see the Tik Tok Trend no I have not I'm on a bad side of Tik Tok right now and I'm getting pissed off I don't want to get on a [ __ ] good side again res reset your cash oh I a thing so this was a trend on Tik Tok and all of these women were admitting to what they did to get their boyfriends or their husband no way yes and there was there was some that were illegal like some people literally admitted to illegal activity one was like my I saw this cute guy apply at my dad's company so I threw all the other applications away I hired him now he's my husband oh and people were like Miss ma'am that's illegal um and then there were just there were other Crazy Ones so this yes I did I know this song I did see the amazing yes I've never seen the trend I need to see the trend it's nuts go look at the sound on Tik Tok you'll see it also just to give a shout out I just watched the movie for something you just said reminded me of no no hard feelings with Jennifer Lawrence don't tell me anything I need say I won't say anything but if anyone likes like Stupid humor I love it it's the romcom weird humor movie I've been waiting for oh my God and I I we like we took a little bit of you see in theaters yeah uh yes two days ago and we took a little bit of an edible and I'm like Story 3 I stalked my husband for 2 years before I formally met him.. still not sure if it was that hilarious cuz I had an edible or if it was that hilarious but like I'm for sure going to watch it again like it see I really really want to see it but I still can't really get myself to go back to the movie theaters oh my God I hadn't gone to the movie theaters in years and then when I started dating my new boyfriend we love going to movie The why did you make that face this is terrible I like it a lot do you want to get a different thing different drink maybe it'll grow on me I think it'll grow on you okay but you guys love movies yeah anyway I did not realize how much I love movie theaters but like I used to go to them in like the really like uncomfortable airplane seats and now I go to them in like oh my God you can like order like food and truffle fries and everything right up to your it's amazing okay I want to come to that one maybe then I'll like them again I honestly think that's why I fell in love with my current boyfriend is because I had truffle fries delivered right in front of me while reclined watching a movie holding his hands how could you not fall in love [Music] like everyone talks about being a mastermind I'm The Mastermind so a how it takes to get to Lauren's heart he whined and dined me and I fell in love Yeah truly no it's really cute it's really cute okay but let's get back to the story so people don't yell at us down so it's been a while I stalked my husband for 2 years before I formally met him I 24 female married my husband 28 male about a year and a half ago the first time I saw my husband I was a freshman in high school he was a freshman in college he was walking his dog at the park when he stopped to talk to my brother 27 male because they happened to go to high school together that was the moment I became hooked that same day I found his Instagram his family's social media and also where he lived since my brother offered to walk him home while I dged along when I got home that day I knew I wanted him but of course I was only 14 while he was 18 so I came up with a plan I found out his younger brother was only one year younger than me and would be attending my current High School I figured that I had to befriend his younger brother by any means possible next year when he moves up as a freshman while I become a sophomore and I did it took around halfway of my junior year when we became best friends and he invited me over regularly to his house to hang out this is where I was able to befriend my current husband's mom and God did she love to talk about him from her I found out what college he goes to his past girlfriends what his Elementary/Middle School was his favorite SL least favorite foods his pet peeves what he likes etc etc eventually when my visit started getting more and more frequent I formally met current husband again current husband I'll call him would come over every other week and stay for either Friday to Sunday or Saturday to Sunday on those days specifically I would wear my cutest outfits to impress him and also joke around a lot with him eventually I befriended him as well a little background on E he is the school record holder for a certain sport at my school which I just so happened to do and around halfway through my senior year e came back during the season to help coach the current High School athletes which included me in order to get some more volunteer work hours in and I got to spend a lot more time with him I loved every second of it we were friends before but then we became much closer since I got to spend lots of extra time with him after school where sometimes he would even drive me home since we lived relatively close fast forward to when I had to move away to New York City for college e moved with me since he coincidentally got a job near my college edit I lied it wasn't a coincidence I found out he got a job offer and applied to a college nearby his workplace being each other's only friends in a new state we became Incredibly Close Your Face why are all these stories like literally the base of a movie like seriously all of these could be based on a true story continue we started dating when I was almost a sophomore in college he proposed to me after I graduated and we just got married almost a year ago he knows absolutely nothing about how I truly know him and believes it is fate that brought us together through his younger brother lately I've been debating on whether or not I should tell him or at least his younger brother the truth since the only reason I befriended him was to get closer to E I feel guilty every time he tells others our love story because the truth is I've known him for 10 years while he's only known me for about seven I don't like this I didn't read this one at all dude this is literally actually the Taylor Swift song like I said that just kind of as a joke but like what the [ __ ] um I don't think you should tell him if you want to stay married because this is deranged okay but okay here's where it I it is kind of blurry because think about it when you're 14 years old you see an older guy you have a crush on and then you're like I want to hang out with him that's not that weird it's more of like the progression of everything and like Contin like continuation that kind of is like [ __ ] wild like when she found out that he was going to New York and then she applied to a college right next to him that's when it starts to get kind of like I don't know but Psychopathic oh God what's the appropriate word it's not like I know psychopath sociopath I know they have very specific definitions in mental health but like this seems like this person isn't necessarily connected to reality and is very like conniving yeah it's so interesting because here's the thing though is that like if roles were revers like it would be go to jail you know what I mean like a older person like somebody who is in colle like actually I was just thinking this when I was driving over today I think that like where my age Gap like gets weird or like what I find fine is like it has to be at least four years if you're like under the age of 21 you know so if like you're 21 and then like they're 26 like okay that's fine I guess but like it's it's getting a little weird right and then if you're like 18 and then they're 23 it's getting a little like it's getting a little much right but like the fact that this guy was just like clueless and he's the older one and that the younger one like manipulated him it's like it's like go no no keep going keep going you're on it you're on it no I'm interested in you no people are going to yell at me no keep going no I think that's it I want to hear what you have to say well you're saying that and I'm like I totally agree but then also at the same time what about the high school thing he started coaching her team giving her rid he's weird too I'm just wondering if like he truly thought like hey I'm giving my little brother's friend a ride home which it does sound like it doesn't not it does not sound like anyone crossed the line because I think she would be telling us I think she would have been like I got him in high school and then blah blah blah blah like it sounds like he was just truly a nice guy I'm giving my little brother's to ride home but you do kind of question it right where you're kind of like yeah it's so it's so tough like 14 to 18 is so weird and not weird at the same time and like the fact that he was out of high school makes it weird yeah but like if like for example I know somebody that was 14 and started dating her boyfriend who was a senior and everyone in our high school thought it was like kind of weird but like not really that weird wait what was the age it was 14 and 17 or 18 like it was it was a freshman and a senior and not the greatest but yeah and I think that like I think one was like a summer birthday one one was I don't know whatever I think it was like 1418 so people are like that's kind of weird whatever but they ended up like dating forever and then they got married damn and yeah so and it wasn't it wasn't a deal right but like it I don't know but it gets to that point where it does feel a little bit questionable but but what's so crazy about this story is that it's like rules are reversed what it seems like you know what I mean like it seems like he's not the one manipulating her she's manipulating the older guy like well and if if this story roles were reversed we would be like this guy is the creepiest [ __ ] in the world he needs to go to jail 100% And I feel the same way about her I'm like you are so unhinged and I'm trying to relate it to my own life a little bit because I did have a really similar experience so people are like what are you about to tell us um so when I was younger I grew up in this neighborhood like IND theth that it was like on the border of Hermantown and duth so if you went on if you lived on like one street you could go to Hermantown schools if you lived on the other you would go to like Denfeld or duth east or like I think it was Denfeld so I would like rollerblade with my dog I had literally like a mushing harness for my dog and I'd put my roller blades on and like literally like let my dog pull me around the neighborhood like whatever and I would drive drive I'd roll by this one yeah by this one guy's house and I saw him outside playing hockey in his driveway one day and from that point I was like wow is he so cute and he was adorable absolutely adorable I was obsessed I figured out his name because I saw him at a hockey game at denfield one time and my friend like my best friend all growing up at like middle school high school ended up like getting to know him somehow because she dated one of his friends and I made a joke because his birthday was like the day before mine so he was March 3rd and I was March 4th and I was like Katie for my birthday this year I want blank like as like a high school joke she like literally reached out ended up like saying something we ended up connecting flirting talking a little bit nothing ever came of it we moved from duth he ended up in the cities I ended up in the cities for college I didn't stalk him I didn't keep up with him I didn't follow him on socials for a whole like six year Gap maybe 5 years I don't know whatever it is but then after I graduated college we ended up dating in the cities and we both talked about how like cute my little crush was and like this whole thing but it wasn't like I progressively stalked him the entire time and manipulated both of our lives to have us realign and connect and date it just like happened again when we like ran into each other at a bar in Minneapolis but it wasn't like I found out what bar he went to and then I met him there and then I seduced it wasn't see okay but like the thing about this story that like because I could see it in two different ways I could actually see this girl being someone who is scary MH but I could also see her just being like a genuine like kid who found a crush when they were 14 and then he kept being in her life because of something that she set up as a child basically and then it just kept it just he kept being in her life and she kept growing closer and closer to him that she was just like I want to be around him but I know that like I'm too young like I used to have crushes on my my older sister's boyfriends and used to think there's no chance that like you know no one would ever like I'm I'm a child I'm a child you know like and then and it would end there I would just be like they're so cute and that was it but like that was me my one of my brother's best friends I was obsessed I thought I would marry him yeah and so it's like I just I'm like trying to think about it like I'm like it could be that she's actually like kind of questionable or it could be that she just genuinely kept getting to know her childhood crushed better and better because the first thing like her like befriending that guy is like kind of questionable but when you think about when you're 14 and you're like that's his brother I want to get to know his brother so that like I get to see him again you know I think what's making it a little bad is the fact that she's still in her head she doesn't even look at the brother as like a friend she that that's [ __ ] up well like maybe maybe right because she just kind of says like the only reason I befriended him was to get closer to e I've been debating on whether or not I should tell him or at least the younger brother and it's like but if she wants to tell him doesn't that mean that she does care about him enough to tell him like I'm sorry that I did that but honestly that's going to hurt him more and I think there's times in our life where you need to ask yourself who are you coming clean for is it you or is it or is it them and if it's just for you and it's more selfish and you're just trying to like release your own guilt and your own burden but it's going to hurt them and ruin their their lives keep it to your [ __ ] self like there's times where you need to eat it you made that decision and you don't get to ruin their reality I'm totally agree with that and it's so interesting because it's like I think a lot of people kind of have started to like realize that too and then it's like well what it's like it's then it gets to the point where it's easy to make an excuse you know like it's easy to be like okay well I don't have to own up to my [ __ ] because it's just going to hurt people yeah and it's only going to make me feel better so like I'm off I'm clean right or like vice versa it's like no I need to let them know because they like they I owe them that so that's such like an interesting topic you bring up cuz I've thought about that before cuz I've had other friends that have talked about that and being like is this for me or is this for them and it's like how can you really decide that like and how do you really know what's right or wrong yeah it's hard it's really hard there's something I've thought about where I'm like I feel like I should approach this person and just kind of like bring it up but then I'm like honestly it's more so for me and my guilt than it is for them and so I haven't said anything um one thing I will say what did you say about me Morgan not about you uh one thing I will say though is have you seen anything on the Invisible String Theory lately no it's also like trending on Tik Tok and I saw it in the first video where it was um this little girl and she was well she's not little anymore it was this girl and she's sharing a video from her childhood and it's a home video of her now husband or fiance and his brother running around around like this park together in their Halloween costumes and the video pans and catches a glimpse of a woman with another like little girl in a Halloween costume and she was like I was watching my my partner's home video when I noticed some familiar faces that's me and my mom oh my God yeah and so there's this Invisible String Theory where there are people near you or in your life that you're meant to be with but don't come about until the perfect time wow and so like some people could argue like is this just the invisible strength Theory they were like Loosely connected and like it is fate yeah maybe she like was more aggressive about taking control of her fate but like still she's The Mastermind he still had to like her yeah and granted she did get a lot of info from Mom like she could also be one of those people like I love pickles and he's like I love pickles know right like it it like as long as it wasn't like that movie oh my God what was that movie called again it was with the Bernette and the blonde [ __ ] myself wow that was a horrible way to Catherine higel 27 Dresses yes how did how did I get that from it was a brunette and a blonde yeah but you know what I'm talking about the sister is a liar she's like she's like I love dogs I rescue them all the time and she's like deathly allergic and like [ __ ] hates dogs and like gets the guy to marry her like that's like a very like that's a horribly manipulated situation where you're just fake and you're lying and like this is like still very like very questionable we have a lot of questions but at the same time it's like if he genuinely loved you for you and you weren't lying about anything that you were you just showed up at all the same places that you was at then like I don't know if it's that bad I don't know so we have lots of updates and wow good stuff I will again say I did not read this one at all I knew it fit the theme just based on the title okay top comment interestingly enough if the genders were swapped everyone would tell you how creepy that is just in case you didn't know it's creepy as [ __ ] at least it worked out for you so you never have to stalk someone again please take this to your grave so you don't quote need to do this again damn yeah uh next comment I don't know there are a lot of books about hot men doing this and they fall in love hell in 365 days kidnaps her and says she can't leave him for a year that's a [ __ ] up movie it's not yeah that's not a great example yeah that's a really bad example he was looking for her all over for 5 years before that um someone goes just because there's a lot of it doesn't make it okay stalking is creepy and if the stocky ever finds out they will probably leave their relationship for good because there will be no trust anymore how can you trust someone who did that to you it's not romantic yes in this case it went well but to be honest this could have ended with someone in someone's in Chains yes this one ended well yay but it did nothing to build trust between them if they ever talk about that there will be some hurt feelings yeah so op updates op has since like deleted their account it's gone I can't look up if they've commented anything so I hope best of redditor updates did like a good job on this post but the update is I read a reply saying that the best thing for myself is to keep it a secret which is what a lot of people are saying but the best thing for him is to tell him and I figured that person really is right I will be telling him this Tuesday on his day off he deserves to know who he married oh [ __ ] okay so we have an update I would agree with that yeah obviously so original post was June 30th update July 6 I told him this 4th of July after the fireworks mostly ended and we were heading back I asked him in the car quote wouldn't it have been weird if we met each other before the first time we actually met but we just didn't think of each other as significant at the time he smiled and turned to me saying that's impossible there's no Universe where we would have met and I would not think of you as significant that statement struck me in the heart because I knew I would soon prove that sentence very wrong but I continued on with my plan anyways quote what if I told you we have met each other before before that time I was introduced as e little brother's friend he looked at me like I was crazy so that's when I pulled over on the side of the road and pulled out my phone to show him the post I put up here before that explained everything damn girl it would have been so much better just coming from you I agree the post the post is terrible just say I met you with my brother in the park and I had a crush on you and I I just wanted to know you and date you just say that the post don't show him the post but at the same time way more respect for her like she came [ __ ] clean and this is one of those things where I think she I think that was good for him I think he needed to I that yeah I I agree with it tell him everything please I'm uncomfortable I'm so uncomfortable right now I also like can't like keep like uh it in I really can't like I was thinking about it it was like I had a situation where this guy I was dating one of his friends said something like kind of weird to me and I was like don't say it to him don't tell him his friend something I was like I told him I was like God damn it I was going to just say it didn't matter just move on I just can't well she told him yeah he took about 8 minutes to read the whole thing and when he finished he put the phone down and stared Straight Ahead almost like he was dumbfounded scared and confused all at the same time I started throwing out every excuse and apology I could muster at the moment for about 15 minutes straight when he decided to tell me to stop and I did then he just sat there and sobbed uncontrollably for about 10 minutes before he finally asked me how much of our relationship and how much of my identity was fabricated according to his liking fair I told him the honest truth none of my personality or identity was fabricated for him except for the fact of how we met at least there's that that's what I'm saying I'm like okay we can we can work with [Laughter] this the only thing I ever changed about myself to make him like me more was lying about liking Chinese food I hate Chinese food but other than that everything else was real although my friendship with his younger brother was built upon ill intentions my friendship between his brother and I are now one of the most genu genuine friendships I have now there it is he just cried and told me that he does not want to divorce at all but he does want us to have some time apart so he could absorb the truth that I gave him he also said that he expects me to tell his brother and Mom this Friday because they deserve to know the truth just as much as he did I told him okay and we drove the rest of the ride home in silence when we got home he hugged me and cried for about 5 minutes before he got out of the car packed his stuff and said that he would be staying at a nearby Hotel now he said that he knows that he still loves me but does not yet know how to react to the fact that the beginning of our relationship was very very orchestrated to sum it all up I guess telling him was a success question mark I honestly don't know he sent me a good night and I love you text last night while he was at the hotel so I guess he's not as much mad as he may be betrayed Fair update two o woke up this morning to find out that hubby not only lied about going to a hotel to stay at but also lied about not wanting a divorce through a text message he went to his family's home not a [ __ ] hotel told them the entire story himself probably exaggerated it to make me seem crazy Morgan Morgan his whole family wants nothing to do with me claims I'm a psycho he said that he lied about going to a hotel because he knew knew if he told me the truth I would try to stop him honestly I feel so betrayed I tried to be a good wife by showing him the true me and this is what he does I did all this work just for it to end up like this honestly I kind of deserve it I didn't even tell him in the first place because I felt bad I told him because I had a suspicion that he was catching on to the fact that I knew him for 2 and a half years before he knew me oh wa okay that's new update largely because I found out he was keeping my old phone in his work desk my old phone that has screenshots of a lot of his old Instagram posts plans in my notes app about him Etc so I guess whoa okay so she was actually stalker status damn so I guess he never truly loved me if he can't even get past an honest confession like this one I might update this in a few years when I find a new husband LOL wow okay so I don't think she's that crazy if she's willing to let him go that [Laughter] easily true there's hope for this one There's Hope um wow top comment on the best of redditor updates post rarely am I left speechless on Reddit these days but this story dot dot dot oh my God yeah I'm telling you I feel you that last update makes her seem even more unhinged than she already was wow how old is she now 24 okay like that's still really young yeah I don't think my brain was developed in a sane way at 24 I no took until at least 24 and a half maybe 25 but okay here's the thing though I will say that social media has changed dating and brains and brains but think about how many people slid into their significant others DMS because they saw what they were posting on social media thought they were cute felt connected liked their photos hoping for a DM I've liked so many guys photos in the past being like like like hoping they'd notice and then send me a DM like if you haven't done that you're I don't know like better than than me but like probably lying to yourself like no you know what I mean like I feel like social media has made it's not I mean it could be stalking there is online stalking but it's made like watching people from afar acceptable yeah exactly that's that's what I said I'm like I feel like there's like a 50/50 chance that she's like actually needs to get help and then the other part is that she just had a huge crush when she was a kid and it actually worked you know like think about that I've had a crush when I was a kid and it just like doesn't work like you know like you but she just kind of like was like oh I think that guy's super cute I'm a sophomore in high school now like I'm 15 he's 19 he's going to come over to the house I get to see him it's cute it's fun whatever now he we have the same sport coaches it I think he's attractive he's getting to know me as just being like what whatever like and then and then now she's 24 and now she seems crazy because she's 24 and she's married to him but like it just it it like actually worked like her childhood Crush worked so I'm like trying to understand or like trying to think if I actually think that she's actually batshit crazy like the story sounds or if it's just that she was so young and she never stopped being young but again like the bait like she the bait was taken like he took the bait like not knowingly but like do you know what I mean and so like a lot of times when you're that young and someone's that old like they don't take the bait I know but also like she went out of her way to be bait becoming friends with the brother no that's what I'm saying but I'm saying like she did she started this plan at like 14 years old so that's why I'm saying usually is when someone's just like I have a crushed an older guy at 14 then like it doesn't work out CR but like she like it worked like she got to be around him more and more and more and more and more so that's why I'm like okay it kind of makes sense that she just continued that like young brain of being like I'm like yeah that is true you know so that's why I'm like split on being like is she like crazy or is she just like a kid trying to figure her life out maybe we'll put this one to the Spotify polls there you go if you're listening on Spotify look for a poll is this just a young immature woman who got really lucky and I don't know or is this person like she needs help well I I think she needs help regardless but is this just you know just look for the PO so are they done like is that that's the last of it that's the last of it oh I need more well we'll get another update when she gets a new husband I was the one that stalked my husband blah blah blah blah like we'll get an update people like this leave updates again okay we'll get one keep your eyes out everyone peeled shall we move along yes trigger warning on this next one you guys it does contain talks of infertility okay so I'm going off screenshots on the two hot takes subreddit this one is coming from AI T ah so it's not the usual am I the [ __ ] one it is titled am I the [ __ ] for lying to family and friends about who's the infertile one between my wife and I my wife 32 female and and I 32 male have been married for 7 years and have been having unprotected sex for 3 years trying to have a baby it has taken a toll on our marriage and I admit that many times I've complained to family friends and co-workers about my wife's infertility what I thought was my wife's infertility maybe it is because we live in Utah but whenever the idea of us being infertile came up people just swarmed in giving my wife recommendations to fertility specialist the talk was always quote Oh my wife saw Dr whatever and we ended up having twins maybe your wife is just too stressed out and I believed it because my wife contracted TB when she was 20 and volunteering in another country her primary care who saw when she was back home just flippantly told her that TB could affect the genital area and prevent her body from housing a baby but obviously he said it in medical lingo we finally find a doctor who straight up told us that there was nothing wrong with her Fallopian tubes or her endometrium she suggested I get tested to see that I'm not the problem the verdict comes back that I am the one with very low sperm count I was so shocked and went to get another opinion which told me the same thing I felt so shaken and because a lot of people knew about our struggles they also knew we went to a doctor again at a family and friends Gathering people started asking me about what we found out and I just panicked and said that my wife's TB was likely the cause but not 100% necessarily dick people saw that as my wife being the problem and somebody even suggested I go through with divorcing her since I was 32 and complaining about being childless saying I could be a dad within a year if it was a short marriage what I did not realize was that my mom and aunt would jump on that suggestion and start telling friends and their kids that I was getting a divorce and that this was my wife's fault because she shouldn't have been so reckless when she was young what was [ __ ] what was worse was some people thought it wasn't even TB but a bacterial genital disease this all got back to my wife through a friend and she is furious oh yeah if you don't [ __ ] fix this divorce no no no no no no no he needs needs to go on a loudspeaker and tell his entire [ __ ] City because that's so disgusting of him first of all the fact that he's complaining about his wife the entire time up to that point and then that he finds out the truth why was he so flippant about their infertility struggles oh my God and then he doubled Downs okay I'm sorry I finish the story but I just had to interject that it's ridiculous she said that she could not believe I've been painting her as the problem when she wasn't even the problem and that she was tired of the pitying or disapproving looks she was getting in our small town and that I needed to set the record straight or at least tell everybody to shut up and that we are not divorcing maybe you should am I the [ __ ] I panicked and I felt like I didn't completely lie because TB could be exacerbating our problem but my mom really screwed things up by making it malicious now I'm in over my head and I feel really bad you little [Laughter] [ __ ] I want to hit him with a bat next [ __ ] story say what I need to say honestly you know like I it is so hard it is so hard to date and find someone normal and then find someone willing to invest in a long-term relationship so I get like it would be really difficult to Story 4 TW* Infertility AITA for lying to family and friends about who's the infertile one.. like start over it's all that sunken cost fallacy we all play into but you know what would be the best [ __ ] Revenge ever H is if they actually did get a divorce and then she met someone else and got pregnant like that like hey you all thought it was me guess what ex-wife's pregnant hey like you know sometimes the best revenge is a Baby Dude I don't know why people like always think that like the that's unhinged I'm just kidding take it back I take it back some people are going to be like my ex screwed me over one night stand pregnant take it that's not that's not a recommendation no there's no recommendations right now that's that are happening but I just think that like honestly honestly I was thinking about this too like people are always like oh yeah me and my ex just broke up I'm going to get so hot it's like well why don't you just become like the best [ __ ] like imagine that you just act like everything that they ever wanted you to be like they're just like I wish you love football and then just like post on your Instagram that you [ __ ] love football yeah that you're just like they're like perfect like person now and you're like I'm gone [ __ ] but do you know what I mean like people have you done that no no I hav I know sorry I wish I liked football that would make me so [ __ ] cool I love football love it have you seen well you have why you're probably going to get married soon I don't know it's been five years you love football um I do love football and I hope there are people out there that have seen the new Netflix documentary series quarterback the Viking the Vikings are featured and I I'm going to be honest before the Netflix quarterback documentary if Kirk Cousins had a thousand haters I was one of them if Kirk Cousins had one hater it was me if Kirk Cousins had zero haters I'm dead but wait is did you just make that up or is that like a phrase It's a phrase okay I'm not I'm not that good okay wow but I was like really impressed but but after this documentary I honestly I might be a Kirk Cousins fan okay damn that's a that's a big evolution from hater to fan would you rewatch it with me 100% I think this documentary could get you interested in football that's how you know I actually us think that I would be a huge football fan when I started watching Fred and Night Lights the series yeah I was like there's no way that I don't love football and then I went to a VI or not Vikings sorry univers of Minnesota gopher's game and I was like let's drink I'm out well I did take you to a Vikings game and it was the worst game I ever could have taken you to my toes still have not uh came back to life it was the year that the US Bank Stadium was being built and so they played outside at where our college team played us so I met your dad for the first time TCF Bank Stadium not US Bank TCF Bank and literally it was - 28 deg with the windchill and me and Lauren literally we went sat in the bathroom drink three socks on we bought we bought Snuggies we were like spending so much money in the gift shop just to keep warm you know what's crazy is that that's the first time I met your dad and he flew in from California and he was such a dick about me being cold cuz he's like why are you cold and I'm like why are you not Jerry why I think that's when we became best friends it was that yeah yeah I think we could really get you into football because I saw a Tik Tok too and it was like Hey guys guys guys you want to get your girlfriend into football just tell them all the tea yeah Patrick mahomes's wife she sprays champagne bottles on people and his brother not good for him right now in the court of law and you know you got you got the coach Alis are you going to tell me that I'll only like football if there's drama involved cuz that's kind of offensive honestly yes yes God damn it yes I mean I'm playing to the strengths fair enough you got you got to know your audience that is half the battle in life know your audience and who you know what scares me is that I've only been dating my boyfriend for as long as not football season I don't know if we're going to make it no you won't we probably won't he's a huge football fan why not only is he a football fan but he's a fan of the worst he a Packers fan okay this just became way too Sports let's get back to the Reddit Story the fertility problems yeah yeah so top comment on the original post to be fair I knew you were just an all-around [ __ ] as soon as I read this gem quote I admit that many times I complained to family friends and co-workers about my wife's infertility complained as in your wife was a defective car and you paid full price what and ah well you know so reading further it wasn't much of a surprise to find out you're a liar to boot oh and too much of a coward to tell the truth after you lied about your wife but I guess it's pretty scary to admit the issue lies with you when you're hanging with a bunch of losers who apparently think infertility is a character flaw the only only part that did oh sometimes these comments are just so good because they get hours to think about it and we respond on the spot true I'm I'm jealous of their conc serious uh the only part that did surprise me was when you report that your wife said you're not getting a divorce if I was your wife I'd plaster your results all over social media and put you and the flying monkeys you call a family on blast you're the [ __ ] congrats biggest one today does he have any responses I will look someone go thank you for saying that by the way though because when I come here to record with you I have no idea what's going to going on I have no idea what the [ __ ] is going to come out of my mouth honestly I'm for in 45 minutes today I was like la la la la la la la la la la and so you're so right like when these people comment these beautiful comments I'm like chef's kiss kiss yeah and just to make it know know that they had some time to think about it it makes me feel a lot better they sit there they read the story they type they maybe backs space they delete it they add more oh they add commas copy and paste add a little more y we don't get that and honestly I've had this theme going for a minute like the folder changed the title a little bit today but I don't even remember reading this one and like the stalker story you didn't even know it at all blind react wow wow woo did we just become best friends we did over again yeah um you know what song's been stuck in my head may may I haven't heard of that song in like at least 10 years oh she probably doesn't even know that song Lucy the intern yeah no Beyond her time that's beyond her time I always tell Lucy I'm like I'm getting old and she's like you're not that old I'm like I'm getting old that's going to be that's going to age me yeah I remember watching watching the original video of like this guy lip syncing to it and this was before lip syncing became big like people didn't lip sync and it was this white guy with glasses or something and he's like hello daughter may she a really good job with that it's a Bop so there's a remix that came out and it's called Mia I don't know I'll share the Spotify link it's so I actually have a request and this could be like offline but it's something I've thought about I guess just today yeah so so when we do the BB Bops about the intro song what if we included our beep Bops for one of the intro songs just to throw people for a [ __ ] Loop yeah down do you know what I mean like we had like the background music like Justin's background music but then a little bit of like this episode maybe we might have to get to the studio if if not you guys will all hear hear this and then when it does happen you'll be likey I know why they did this and if then you hear it and you're like I don't know why they did that then I'm going to know I'm going to know you ski an episode you didn't watch it you didn't watch we have problems we got problems you ready to fight no okay back to business back to business um I honestly kind of hope they get divorced also people are commenting they're like the seemingly religious context make me think she got TB on a mission trip which makes their judgment even more wild because they did tell her well you put your health at risk which isn't a whole part of Mormonism to like go on the mission trip I saw the Book of Mormon I know how it works and then they judge her she went on a mission Tria I think like the only thing that needs to be said and done is the fact that he talked about her like she was defective and complained about her that's the end of the story you know when you marry someone you could like you put yourself with somebody if they can't have a children if you can't have a child that's between the two of you to figure out I I don't mean to be lame but like let's go back to friends the Friends episode it's like Monica and Chandler you know it's like no one ever made someone feel defective it was just like it's not working it hurts it's hard but we love each other so much that we want to be together and we want to raise children together cuz that's a part of something that we want both want to do mhm and they did that they adopted children and that was that you know when I hear a story like this he's going around whispering to his family members saying like she's defective because she made a decision to travel and live her life and after the truth comes out he still BL ridiculous that's where I'm like I understand talking to your family because infertility is not something that is shameful it's not something that shouldn't be openly talked about because some people do have good recommendations they might provide a doctor for you that can help it should be talked about infertility miscarriage it should not be as taboo as it is we should all talk about it but at the same time complaining the way he said I complained to not only my family but co-workers your co-workers don't need to hear about your sex life those are not your wife's people it friends family maybe if you're talking about it together but to go to your friends and family and complain that word that you used complain yep that's a problem exactly oh my God exactly and then to not make a conversation together we are struggling we don't know if it's her we don't know if it's me we are struggling can anyone provide resources oh God but instantly blame her and then it's him and then like like you just said though too like to not like back down like that is something that like I'm actually realizing that I'm like pretty [ __ ] good at is that if I ever like bitched cuz I'm flooded with emotion and feeling and I'm like then like later on if I realize that like you know what I actually didn't see my partner and now I do yeah I see my partner now like I say that you know like I think that's a really something that I really want to like put out there in the world is that like it is so okay to admit your wrongs to be like oh my God I was complaining about my wife it was actually me yeah 100% you know and that doesn't make you a loser or a bad person or what what are you what are you doing where are you going I have to pee so I'm getting ready so the minute you're done talking I can go let's do it together okay I think we're the this one feels I'm just mad I hope they divorce but I know if they love each other they should stay together it's so worst when you see people that you think should genuinely not be together and they are and you're just like but I won't have an opinion about it it's fine doesn't affect me there's this one celebrity couple that like I saw us together still and I'm like who well I don't know cuz then I feel like I'm being like bad byor yeah who Adam Lavine and his wife yeah yeah that was icky but like I just like I don't want her to feel bad cuz she was the one who was wronged so I don't want her to feel bad for staying with him you don't we don't know what's going on in their lives hey I talked about it in the episode with daon really and literally this woman went through a crazy cheating experience really bad but sometimes forgiving is just easier than a divorce yeah and they have kids together and and like I guess we never even like knew if you actually okay well that's done okay you can keep talking about Adam Lavine now I can I can think um you just feel bad cuz you didn't want her to feel bad for not leaving but no I think it's easier to stay sometimes and you do have a life together forgiveness as long as he doesn't message girls on Instagram again and ask them if they can name their next baby after them I think it's fine yeah yeah hope there's hope right okay so I'll give you a choice on this next one though okay so they're both wedding stories one is titled my 29 male brother 31 male is marrying my high school sweetheart 28 female and I refuse to attend the wedding or am I the [ __ ] for refusing to listen to mother-in-law's speech at my wedding I'm more interested in the second one the mother law yeah really why you want the first one no I don't care no you want the first one you clearly think the first one's better let's do the first one okay okay so again the title that Lauren [Laughter] picked my please don't crop that no I'm keeping it all okay cool my 29 male brother 31 male is marrying my high school sweetheart 28 female and I refuse to attend the wedding I 29 male dated this girl Val 28 female fake name when I was 17 and her 16 we were close we swapped virginities but I found we were incompatible around the time I turned 18 swap virginities Val was understandably upset I told her she needed to let go and it took her a year to to move on as time went on I regretted breaking up with Val but she was in a committed relationship with someone else by the time I realized I wanted her about 5 years after breaking up with the Val I found out she had unknowingly moved three blocks away from my house we hung out a few times and I walked her home from work since we also unknowingly worked right across the street from each other I took this as a sign that we were going to get back together but Val unfortunately told me that she no longer has the feelings that she did when we were in high school and that it's best to stay friends as we were I was sad but I respected her decision I ended up moving to a different state shortly after that a year later my brother Nick 31 male had asked me about my history with Val I was confused on how he would know her because they never met and Nick was already out of high school when Val and I met I sugarcoated it and said she was just a high school fling MH there it is Nick asked if it would bother me if he started to hang out with her because at the time his best friend was just murdered and her long-term relationship had just ended and they both wanted someone to quote [ __ ] their feelings out with I said I didn't care given the circumstances and it probably wouldn't last because they didn't have genuine feelings for each other this was in 2019 and now in 2023 Nick and Val are planning their wedding Nick asked me to be his best man and I said no he was confused and I told him he's marrying my high school sweetheart and there's no way I can stand at the altar and watch him marry her he threw in the fact he asked me if he could date her before even doing anything and I said I didn't care and now all of a sudden I do I told him I always cared I just didn't think it would last because he's such a [ __ ] and she's the sweetest person you'd ever meet and it was a sucky situation that they even started hooking up in the first place and it doesn't make sense that she chose him over me he said that maybe I should have realized what I had before Calling it Quits with Val boom I guess he told Val what was said because she later messaged me saying that we were literal kids when we dated and I needed to let it go and it's weird that now I'm suddenly not okay with them together when it's been years since it first started I didn't argue with her I just informed my family that I wouldn't be attending the wedding my mom stepdad and most of my family are taking Nick's side saying it's been well over 10 years and I had the chance to speak up while my younger twin siblings are on my side saying Nick should respect bro code I'm at a loss right now am I being unreasonable refusing to be a part let alone attend the wedding should I just keep silent and let it happen I want to make this very clear to everybody right now if you you even have an ounce of feelings towards somebody or whatever is going on even if you think it would never happen there's no way that they would ever be interested blah blah blah blah blah Don't Care say it say it say you know what this was my first this was my high school crush this was the one who got away I genuinely care about her so much but I care about you so much too that I'm not going to stand in the way of whatever you want to do but I don't feel comfortable I don't want you to think I do because I don't but I but I love you more than I love my own like past feelings you know I just think it's so important to always say what is on your mind and like what you're thinking and cuz otherwise it's like now he's like looking like such a dick he's like yeah he's like when I was a child I thought this girl was hot and now my brother asked me can I hook up with her and I said of course and now they're getting married and I'm like wait but my brother was a [ __ ] I didn't think you guys would get married so I'm not going to go to my brother's wedding like come on like you have to at least like be a little bit more like just like say say what's going on because otherwise it's like yeah he looks like the dick also if Story 5 My brother is marrying my HS sweetheart and I refuse to attend the wedding.. you did want a shot at getting back together with her I mean some people are okay sharing their partner with their siblings I guess like the Summer I Turned Pretty For example like it happen I haven't seen that yet don't give it away no I'm kidding I watched the trailer I know all of it it's so good but like like if he had this inkling like I Val as my person you know hey timing wise I moved away it's not lining up right now but she's my person I want to come back to that don't you think you would just tell your brother hey no man off limits or like did you expect your brother to hook up with her and [ __ ] their feelings out and then down the road you get back together this dude is just giving you know what I want what I can't have and now that I can't have it I want it exactly after they broke up in high school she started dating someone else I then realized I had feelings my brother started [ __ ] her I have feelings like I'm going to give like a Ted lasso moment of myself I'm ready because Ted lass is always just like well you know one day when I was in third grade blah blah whatever so this make me a diamond dog [Applause] yes no but basically when I was in high school like I had two friends and actually yeah I think there was three guys that I was really into but only two of them went to my high school quite the rasta yeah right so one of them was a college guy I when I was older the other two they were in my high school and all of my friends knew how much I liked those guys one of my friends started dating him behind my back and it was really like embarrassing because then I was at a pool party and then everybody started making these like comments about how my friend and this guy together and I was like what what I thought it was a joke I I had no idea that they were like interacting at all like everyone knew that that was everyone knew but you yeah but like but I'm saying all of my friends knew that I liked him you know and so and then but you can't have them both no no no no no no these were separate times in high school yeah yeah yeah you made it sound like the same time no so I'm saying so this happened and then I was just like I was so heartbroken that like cuz him and I like we were you know we we were done but like I was heartbroken that my friend just just like hid that from me and then all of these everyone around me like knew but me and they started making jokes about them together without me even knowing I was the last to know and that made me feel like a [ __ ] idiot right and then I had this other guy that I was so into and then one of my friends started dating him and she reached out to me she was actually a year older they were in college I was a senior she reached out to me and said hey like he's expressed interest I don't want to do anything further if it makes you uncomfortable and I was like that's the nicest thing you could have ever done you're in college I'm in high school like live your life and I was like thank you so much thank you so much for even like asking how I feel about it it makes me feel so loved that you care about what my thoughts are but no do you live your life like live your life and so I think there's just such a big difference between the way that you communicate with somebody in that aspect so that's why I'm like very like big on sorry I went I I did way too much Ted lasso and I I got a little far from the story let's go back to the story bring us back Morgan I mean there are some comments from op it looks like he posted this in one location sorry I was I was seeing that there was a bunch of comments on multiple different posts but I think it is just one location it does look like a real account because he does comment in other threads um and other am I the [ __ ] posts but someone goes if you really want to be Petty take your brother's ex or best friend to the wedding since you're by as a date also this was literally a German NEX Netflix film called over Christmas Opie goes never heard of it you do realize other things happen outside of movies right not me someone goes ah sorry I suppose I assumed because you talked about having es and your exes being men even weirder that you don't mention this and that you're hung up over an ex from when you were a kid since you've clearly dated other people since you haven't even been carrying a torch for this lady you're just salty your brother and ex are happy and you're clearly not and Opie goes when I moved out of state I tried dating other people I thought that was much Clear when I mentioned moving I have dated other people but I never got over her says another comment someone goes very odd that in your other comments on readit you're woman almost as if this is bait and Opie goes I never said I was a woman question mark question mark question mark maybe because I'm bisexual bisexual eraser we will not stand for it I I'm a little drunk same well good thing we have to record ads after this we'll send Lucy home in Uber so she doesn't have to sit through this torture with us yeah not a lot of other comments I I think this person is just kind of like in the boat of I made mistakes I regret them and I want what I can't have and unfortunately like that's kind of life sometimes but like you should never ever like you said you said it perfectly if you ever still have feelings for someone or you're still carrying out hope even a question even a slight question it doesn't mean hold people back but at least say it yeah like at least say like hey like this is going to be hard on me because I don't know I had really strong feelings at one point but at the same time like I'm not there and I want you to live your best life so that at least it's not like a huge surprise you know like that when you're just like hey the wedding's going to be really hard for me to get there because it was hard for me to like give my approval do you know what I mean like at least like let people know the page that you're on and don't pretend like you're okay when you're not and don't don't like sabotage anything either but just be like hey like I understand that you guys have feelings for each other and I want like everyone to find like their truest like love but like this this this really sucks and I can't pretend like I'm like going to be smiling and thumbs up right well also don't you feel like he had a shot yes like you then you moved to the same area you lived three blocks away you worked across the street if and she did say hey we're Better Off Friends which was her turning you down but didn't he start it I think he might have initiated and then she said hey we're better as friends which hey you know RS reversed you turned her down in high school and you said you got to move on and she said the same thing when you guys reconnected time to move on we're better as friends it's time how can you move on from someone if you're constantly fixated on them yeah you're not going to no like it didn't work out you had your chance it wasn't meant to be and just because you feel something for someone doesn't mean they're automatically going to reciprocate yeah it really does take a meeting of the minds and feelings and all of these things and you just got to but I also think like the best way to get over someone is to be unapologetically honest with yourself and with them like I think that even if it makes your ego hurt girl guy whoever you are I don't care who you are like just like there's no like Rhyme or Reason behind like this feeling I think that this is universally a feeling where it's just like no matter if you're going to get denied hurt you're going to feel like a fool that is your way to move on yeah and until you do that like then [ __ ] like this is going to happen your brother's going to [ __ ] marry that person and then you're going to be really upset and not go to the wedding I know top comment top comment comment on this one you literally dumped her and told him it was okay to go out with her yeah so let's get back down to earth ET phone home like come on you did this if you had feelings you could have said and I think this goes for a lot of girls too cuz we have a friend that literally said yeah I'd be fine if you dated him and then was sad and they kind of reconnected but it didn't work out like it's just like don't don't [ __ ] where you eat people and if you have feelings say it and that's all I got spring break 2020 okay we need to get Laur in a water okay bye um thank you guys so much for joining us on another episode be sure to head over to patreon because there's amazing stuff over there but other than that we love you all love you it's been real it's I'm very real great episode see you next week see you in a month in five months no don't forget about me until next time guys until next time [Music] bye